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Original poster

Every single year since we split ex has taken me to court over something

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Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 16:44

His latest is he feels he’s over paid CSM by £2500 and wants £2500 towards the costs of recovering this from me. This is in addition to money I do owe him but have absolutely no way of paying.

I’m a single mother, we have exactly £100 a week to live on after bills.

I know he’ll get absolutely nowhere with this but is there a way of applying to court to have him stop harassing me via his solicitors?

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Doyoumind · 13/01/2019 16:46

I would post in legal matters.

What court exactly is he taking you to regarding the overpayments?

Have your other cases been in the family courts?

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 16:48

Good question, my understanding is that the financial agreement is binding unless mitigating circumstances so goodness knows what the plan is. His solicitors letter just said court if I don’t pay him.

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idontknowwhattosay · 13/01/2019 17:00

Were his chuld support payments agreed between you or put in.place by the csa?

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:00

CSA

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notapizzaeater · 13/01/2019 17:01

So let him take you to court ....

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:01

He pays the bare minimum. It doesn’t even cover the childcare.

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Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:02

notapizzaeater - it’s stressful though. I’m trying to rebuild my life and every bloody year I have another case to fight.

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user139328237 · 13/01/2019 17:02

Well I don't think he should be paying anything until the amount of what you owe him is cleared really. Unfortunately the CSA won't understand that your previous actions explain his non payment and will still force him to pay so I can see why he is doing anything possible to minimise what he pays you while you owe him money.

Sugarhunnyicedtea · 13/01/2019 17:03

Does he pay the amount the CSA put in place?

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:06

user139328237 - so what would we live on exactly then whilst this debt is cleared ? We aren’t talking thousands by the way.

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tiggerkid · 13/01/2019 17:11

He watches too much Judge Judy. If you are confident you don't owe him anything, just turn up. He'll end up paying all the costs and will get fed up eventually.

How did his previous court outings end?

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:13

I’ve won every single time. I just want it to stop.

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Kikipost · 13/01/2019 17:14

How many times?

redannie118 · 13/01/2019 17:15

This reply has been withdrawn

The OP has privacy concerns, and so we've agreed to take this down now.

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:15

This would be the 7th

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Aeroflotgirl · 13/01/2019 17:16

So user139 you don't think he should be paying to support his child then! His child still needs to be supported, or is it all up to op to provide that. What op owes her ex, is a separate matter from child support.

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:16

redannie118 - thank you

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Aprilshowerswontbelong · 13/01/2019 17:16

Not sure what's is called a section - - - (?) that prevents him keep taking you back to court. I got one against exh.
Ask cab for advice and apply for one.

Kikipost · 13/01/2019 17:17

Has he not been pulled up in it by one of judges?

waywardfruit · 13/01/2019 17:18

There is something called vexatious legal proceedings, which is basically where someone constantly threatens legal action. It is harassment. That appears to be what he is doing to you.

You need legal advice - try the citizens advice people.

How much do you actually owe him then, and what for? Is he your ex-husband, or ex-partner?

Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:19

No because what happens is he on the day it gets into court agrees to everything set out originally and they congratulate him on being so reasonable. The first time I employed a solicitor too and he basically wasted £5000 we desperately needed. The judge told him I had an excellent case and a case for costs. He backed down but the £5000 was obviously down the drain by that point. Literally a years money for us.

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Original poster
Inliverpool1 · 13/01/2019 17:20

Ex husband, it’s £1700 - he has added daily interest 🙄

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ILoveChristmasLights · 13/01/2019 17:23

I’m sorry he’s such a twat.

What does the solicitors letter actually say? Is it clear that it’s CSM money he’s after? Because a solicitor should know better. If it’s not clear and it just talks about ‘money owed’ then I’d email the solicitors to make them aware.

If it’s clear it’s CSM money then I’d email them and ask them what they thought they were doing.

I know what you want us for it just to stop, but other than hiring a hitman (I’d chip in) I don’t know what you can do. Maybe pay a SHL to write him a sternly worded letter to cease and desist?

IceRebel · 13/01/2019 17:24

it’s £1700 - he has added daily interest

Pretty sure that's illegal

A friend or family member can legally lend you money, but if someone is making a profit by lending money to you and charging interest they may be acting illegally.

www.stepchange.org/debt-info/owing-money-to-family-or-friends.aspx

ILoveChristmasLights · 13/01/2019 17:25

What was the £1700 for? Why do you owe your ex husband money? Who says you have to pay it? Let alone interest?

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