Every single year since we split ex has taken me to court over something

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His latest is he feels he’s over paid CSM by £2500 and wants £2500 towards the costs of recovering this from me. This is in addition to money I do owe him but have absolutely no way of paying.

I’m a single mother, we have exactly £100 a week to live on after bills.

I know he’ll get absolutely nowhere with this but is there a way of applying to court to have him stop harassing me via his solicitors?

Thank you, very much. I shall sound very knowledgeable when I reply tomorrow ☺️

Pleasure.

I love the knowledge of combined Mumsnetters, thank goodness for each and every one of you, I hope you get a resolution OP, for your and your kids sakes.

To add to what a pp said, if a solicitor writes to an individual and threatens a claim for something that it isn't actually possible to claim then they could be in trouble with the Solicitors Regulatory Authority (professional conduct issue).

You might think about writing to someone more senior in the firm the solicitor works for and tell them you think the solicitor is breaching solicitors conduct requirements by threatening this action & ask them to look into it/stop otherwise you will contact the SRA.

I would have thought 7 years of this type of conduct is also an issue but appreciate it may not be the same firm each time.

They will normally pull the solicitor in line pretty quickly if that's the case. If it's not then no doubt they will tell you & you'll be no worse off.

That costs you nothing but a stamp if you just send a letter addressed to "the managing partner." X

Iizzyb - thank you, I will mention that. Might post a draft of the letter before I hit send if that’s ok ?

www.sra.org.uk/solicitors/handbook/code/content.page

Indeed. Chapter 11 of the solicitor's code of conduct. Outcome 11.1, and Indicative Behaviours 11.7 and 11.8.

You don't have to reply tomorrow. You can completely ignore it. If he wants to waste his money on pointless solicitor's letters then that's his loss. It doesn't mean you have to jump.

Understand in your own mind that you don't owe him £150 interest and that as soon as you get your 60k you'll give him his 1.7k. If he wants to play at charging interest then the same interest on 60k will be a hell of a lot larger. You don't need to say any of this to him. Ignore him and his attempts to wind you up. You only need to know these facts in your own head and he loses a lot of power.

Go see CAB about getting him banned from harrassing you and about getting your 60k. Here you are with 100 left after bills when he owes you thousands. Get your money. Don't talk to him. Talk to people (lawyers) who can make him cough up.

Please please get the pension transfer done. The pension would have grown over that 4 years and be worth more than £60k now. Get some advice on this point.

Call his bluff and say yes lets go back to court. I will ask them to overturn the £1700 or housing costs as it turned out tou didn't require them and also enforcing the pension transfer with some sort of penalty if he doesn't do it within so many days.

ShalomJackie - I will, it actually states 50% rather than a specific figure so it will have grown but you are right it all just needs a line drawing under

I don't have nuch advice to offer, other than on paying your ex back, let that go to court and tell them all you can afford is a fiver or even just £3 a week and set up a standing order. They can't make you pay more than you can afford. My oh got a speeding fine when we were both out of work, and was able to come to an agreement to pay off a fiver a week.

If the lump sum was for a specific purpose - a child related purpose- that became unnecessary immediately then I’d question whether you even owe it. He can’t spend it on what it was for, he isn’t out of pocket because he paid and needs reimbursing.

Is it worth getting that checked out?

Oh he sounds like a horrible bully. I wish the courts would get wiser to this type of behaviour. I have been through it all with my ex. Lots of totally pointless court cases that achieved nothing except to line his lawyers pockets

How are you OP ?

Well I sent him a quite strongly worded letter telling him to shove it up his arse via his solicitors and am just getting on with things. It’s just a distraction from other matters that need dealing with

well done OP, you've found your inner 'fook you' mode

It’s been a week and I’ve not heard anything, fingers crossed that’s that for a while

Can someone advise. My ex has taken me to court for a financial order. We divorced last year and we have two children’s, twins aged 16,. He is 68 and I am 40. He has always been self employed and now all of a sudden is claiming benefits council tax housing benefit and paying 50 per week for both. We have the family home which is mortgage free and I have a rental property which my mother lives in and I get rent from this. He is claiming half of both properties and contributing nothing. I offered him 100,000 and he refused. Because my children are going thru their GCSEs and I wanted him off our backs so it would we could move in with our lives and the children could focus in their futures. I know he wants to do this right now even tho the kids are in the middle of their GCSEs and doesn’t want to wait for a payout.I hold down two jobs and pay for everything. Today my barrister said I have a strong case of staying in the family home until twins have finished their education. I have the court an appraisal of what both properties are worth they want formal valuations. I have never experienced this and I’m at a loss as most if it has been going over my head. Even what the solicitors say I do t know what to do for the best xxx

Farzana19 Would be best to start a new thread of your own, you're likely to get more responses that way.