To be bored of husband's "jokes".

[Giraffender]

I am a SAHM to two young children. I find it exhausting and while I know it's the best option practically and financially for us (as well as being better for the kids), I still miss the escape and mental stimulation (though not the impossible balancing act) of work.

My husband does understand this, but still makes a lot of jokes about "not knowing what I do all day" and how "glamourous" my lifestyle is. Yesterday, I had ten minutes of him teasing me about how I'd hidden the prosecco glasses before he came home after another SAHM had been over for a playdate with her son. We didn't drink prosecco - we drank tea and talked about her sister who has cancer in between trying to stop the kids from trashing the living room.

I know I should just grow a sense of humour, and I know he's never taken anything in life particularly seriously (irronically, it's one if the things I love about him) but honestly, the constant joshing makes me feel like he sees my life as one big hilarious cliché. I just wish he could occasionally find a way to give me some unprompted, genuine, sincere praise about what I do and how I'm raising the children. I've tried to make him understand that without work, I have little in my life to boost my self esteem so he needs to take a genuine interest sometimes rather than spinning everything into a quip, but it's like talking to a brick wall. He shrugs, tells me that's just how he is, reassures me I am OF COURSE doing a brilliant job of being a Mum and I have no reason to ever doubt that, and then... Just carries on like before.

This isn't the only thing he teases me about (by a long stretch) but it's the one that hurts the most. He's a good person, a great Dad and in no way abusive or deliberately unkind. Sometimes SAH motherhood IS hilarious in its absurdity or mundanity. But mostly it's just plain knackering and he can't seem to get that it's irritating for it to be made light of, or portrayed as some kind of "ladies who lunch" style jolly (when he knows full well it's not). AIBU here?

XH was the same despite being asked nicely to stop don’t miss it one bit

I'm sorry you're struggling, as much as I found it hard at times, all the options have their difficulties I did both well and felt I was.

Thanks. I'm not exactly struggling, but I'm most definitely not fulfilling my career potential at the moment. DH earns many, many times more than I ever will, so his career naturally takes priority. It's just the way it has to be when he's the one who keeps us financially secure and my job only earns us a negligible amount after childcare costs. I think this is the case for many mums. It's not often as easy as "asking the DH to go part-time", or whatever.

Try "Your jokes were nearly funny two months ago"

Ok, my DH would make the same sort of joke over and over about my not being au fait with technology and not liking to drive etc.

I wrote the things he said on pieces of paper and put them in various drawers/my handbag in the house.

When he made yet another quip, I walked to he drawer, took out the quip he’s just made, and handed it to him with a “you are so predictable “ look.

He was shocked 😲. The trick is remembering which “joke” is where so you can find it instantly.

I used this twice and he shut up.

Its a pity we can't as mothers be more confident in our role as SAHM then we wouldn't care what others think.
In my family l get lots of teasing and jokes about my "easy job" as a teacher with my long holidays and shorter day. As l usually end up visiting family on those breaks its a constant round of bad jokes about being off again. As l am very confident in my role l couldn't care less and play up to it so their jokes( some are resentful jibes about public service) completely fall on deaf ears.
The only way to cope with being a SAHM is to accept that its a vitally important role and that you are fully confident in the part you are playing in the family.
His stupid jokes would annoy me but wouldn't hurt me as l would know the truth.
Also you would not be earning pittance by working as your dh would be paying half or maybe proportionally more of childcare.
If he finds his jokes are completely falling flat he is a poor comedian to keep dishing them out. No response good or bad might shut him up.

Omg. I'd forgotten the word "joshing"