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AIBU?

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To think I have been lied to?

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Dextrodependant · 12/01/2019 19:37

My BIL is insured on my car because when I bought it I couldn't drive so he drove it back from the car sales place. I have since passed my test.

This means he can borrow it from time to time.

Today was one such time. I had 70 miles of fuel left and I specifically said they would have to put some fuel in as I need to use the car tomorrow and can't afford to put more in until Monday.

The light comes on at 42 miles and I won't drive with the light on. Maybe that's stupid of me but I make sure I have enough fuel which I did have if I didn't let them use the car.

I said this to my sister and my brother in law. I don't usually ask them to put fuel in but I explained about the light and that I don't like to drive with it on.

Well he brings it back and the light is flashing, it stops gauging the remaining miles when the light comes on so no way of knowing if it is just on 42 or if he has been driving with it on for miles.

He says he has put £10 in bit because the light was flashing it didn't register. I said well it's never done that before... He saw oh really, his old car did it all the time.

So knowing I need to use it tomorrow off we go to the petrol station and I put another £10 in, money I haven't really got spare today, lo and behold the gauge creeps up to the exact amount it always does for £10, 127 miles.

So AIBU to take him off the insurance and not lend them the car again because A) they didn't put fuel in when I asked despite using the car several times this week for free, B) thinking I am a mug and I will believe the bollocks that the fuel didn't register C) if I did believe him I would have been driving round tomorrow thinking I have 127 miles (a tenna worth) and would have probably broken down.

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PicassoWouldBeProud · 13/01/2019 11:03

I wouldn't have put him on the insurance full time anyway you can add people just for a day if you need to.

Yes he's lied to you.

Take him off the insurance and let him know it's cheaper to be just you on there and sorry he can't drive your car any more. He will know it's because he lied which will do him good.

daisychain01 · 13/01/2019 12:26

I know he's you're BIL but he sounds a nightmare.

You're doing fine, I'm not in anyway thinking you can't manage your own fuel consumption but when you've got someone with his attitude disrupting your arrangements, then it's time to take back control which I'm sure you'll sort out x

MortyVicar · 13/01/2019 12:48

He doesn't get to dictate how you use YOUR car. The circumstantial evidence is that he didn't put anything in but you can't prove it, so let that one go.

I'd be tempted to genuinely take him off the insurance if you can possibly afford it. That way, when he wheedles and whines in future, you're not tempted to give in for a quiet life thinking well, after all he is insured really. Because it sounds like he will wheedle and whine, and quite possibly suggest that he's not going far and he'll be very careful so it doesn't matter if he's not insured.

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