CF or not?

[SydneyFrexkle]

Asked to go on hen weekend in June. All we were told was the potential location and weekend.

I’ve now been told hotel is booked and I need to transfer the money. The price of the hotel wasn’t run by any of us before booking.

Aibu to be annoyed?

Definitely not being unreasonable. Has anyone challenged the organiser on this?

YANBU, say no.

As in you ANBU. They are definitely U.

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Just say no. You should have been informed of the cost before it was booked, so you could decide if you were willing to pay that amount, before you agree to go.

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Like what?

YANBU.

well, whether or not you'd struggle to afford it/get there and back would be a good start....

Also whether or not what you were originally told has dramatically changed.

That is annoying, YANBU. Even if they'd just given you a rough estimate if would have been better

Also whether or not what you were originally told has dramatically changed.

I’ve stated what discussed in my OP. Potential location and what weekend. No prices.

I can afford it but not this month due to the time of year.

Had you agreed to go? How much is the hotel? If it’s super luxury £300+ a night they should have checked but if it’s just bog standard rates then assuming you accepted you could have anticipated the cost?

Did everyone agree to date and location? How soon is the weekend?

I'd text back and say "Sorry, think I must have missed some messages, I wasn't aware a hotel had been chosen and I'm not sure I can afford that."

I think YANBU if it's more expensive than average, otherwise I don't think there is an issue.

Depends on if it is more expensive than average or not.

Would have been easy to send everyone a final message asking if they were still going as we are about to book the hotel

Details should definitely have been agreed with all before anything booked.

the cost really is needed here I think and whether budget had been discussed

Any hen do I’ve ever been on a date is worked out everyone is free and then a budget is set and ok’d with everyone, things are organised around this, the group says yes or no before anything is booked.

So, did the organiser say to everyone, "we're thinking of going to MegaBucks Hotel on w/e of 25th. Would everyone be happy with that in principle?" and you all said "yes, fine, should be OK?"
If so, then it's a bit different, although it would have been a good idea if she'd contacted you again to be certain.

I'd be annoyed too.
Obviously whoever is planning it isn't used to organising events.
This happens surprisingly often on here though and usually moves on to a collection for tacky decorations, pamper sessions for the bride to be and a kitty for drinks!

Budget should of been discussed before booking, so yes, I’d be annoyed, especially if I needed to find the money now.

If you can afford it then go, otherwise point out that you were not consulted re price and you aren't going - the bride should of course have spoken to everyone re the cost, ridiculous attitude to not do that!

YANBU, the organiser is.

Why wouldn't you ask a few questions?

You all sound very passive.