To ask, how significant is a heart?

[Hollygoverylightly]

Could I ask your wise opinion on something...I believe hearts in text messages are appropriate for family members and of course SO, husbands, wives, SP, etc...but what would you think if a heart was sent by your SO to a young woman that you have never heard of, let alone met? I am not mad at this point, not sure if I am suscipious, just trying to understand.

I think context is important

To me a heart means love.

Depends on the context. To who and who from

We need more information to judge really. Have you asked who she is? I wouldn't be overjoyed.

I guess it depends on context. If my husband just randomly sent a heart on its own to another woman, I would be a bit miffed. But if said woman was going through a tough time or he was sending a kind of supportive message I wouldn't think twice.

But then again, I have no idea what my husband messages other people. I don't pay too much attention unless I'm directly involved in the conversation

Does he normally send hearts?

What was the context of the heart? Was it in response to a cute dog photo? Or after a "it was great to see you today" type of message?

Totally depends

I just sent 😍 to a colleague and really didn't mean I love her, which I do obviously love her but you know what I mean

I do have friends who use the heart to just signify they’re really pleased. But personally I’d never send one to anyone other than immediate family.

It should be obvious which category your DP falls into, YANBU to be suspicious if he’d never normally send them.

I wouldn't be impressed

Context is key.

Also it's very easy to send the wrong emoji

Context?
It's true that us younguns tend to use heart emojis oretty liberally... I think it could be acceptable, if they're good friends at work and he was telling her something upsetting - "my dad died", "I've been signed off for stress", "I hate my job its awful" - and she is responding from a kind of moral support way.

Or say he is giving her good news about something he has sorted out - "I got you that promotion!", "It's fine, the deadline has been moved", "we don't have to come in on Friday!"

If it's just run of the mill then its a bit weird, yes.

I would feel comfortable sending one to a stranger ❤️

What's the context? I often use the 😍 or ❤️ emoji to show I find something really cute. It doesn't necessarily mean love.

I keep getting random messages with hearts from people I know fairly vaguely on fb messenger.

Is it a chain thing that's going about?

It is one of his tenants, known her for a while...

Oh and I just happened to see this one, there is no suscipious anything or going through phones, nothing like that.

@Hollygoverylightly

But what's the context?

"I'm coming round to fix the boiler" - heart is an appropriate response

"I'm coming round to see you" - inappropriate

I use ❤ and 😍 pretty much as punctuation to mean happiness/pride/thanks between friends and work colleagues (we are a family) but I wouldn't send random hearts to a colleague's personal phone. I'm aware of how that might be construed!

If I saw a heart on DH's phone I'd outright ask him about it though and wouldn't mind if he asked me vice versa.

Lots of people on my social media feeds were posting a single heart this week for Breast Cancer Awareness week. Could it be that? It's unfortunately more unlikely than the simplest explanation which is that he is exchanging messages of an emotional / romantic nature with somebody who is not you.

I use a heart if someone has posted something on FB that I lurve. It would be from the Like button though, I wouldn't put it in a message. What was it in reply to, do you know?

No it's not Cancer awareness, but here's my two cents for that ❤. I asked him about it very calmly and he flew off the handle, that's when I started thinking 😮 but we'll see, probably to old and stupid to care to be honest 😂 was just wondering if I was with another loverboy 😂❤❤❤❤❤

*too

Inappropriate, tenants/landlord relationships are normally businesslike.

My DH only uses hearts for me and our DC. Doesn't even send them to his mum. I might send the kiss/heart emoji to a friend in the context of them having a hard time etc