Should I quit?

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NC here.

Long story short have a job which on paper is fantastic but in practice is making me miserable.

It is a professional job & I am manager of a decent sized great team and we've achieved tons in the last few years (don't want to say what as might be revealing). We have had the best results and improvements across the whole company. But I work ridiculous hrs, and the job regularly ruins holidays and is incredibly stressful. I work most evenings too & my work life balance is non existent. Although I think (modestly) that I have a lot to offer, I do not feel valued in the company. I am on the second highest level leadership team but just found out they're changing the group, forming a new group & I won't be in it. It's a big blow & I am equal parts furious & upset after all of my hard work. In general too the culture has changed at the company & it now feels like not a nice place to work (higher ups don't like being disagreed with, hierarchy being rammed down people's throats etc.)

So, I've been looking around for a while but don't have anything lined up. The golden handcuffs of a decent current salary keep me a bit stuck. I am tempted to just quit. But presume this would mean no right to any sort of unemployment money? Can anyone please advise me here if I would be eligible for anything. Would this depend on DH's salary?

We could probably manage on my DH's salary for a while, but as someone who has always worked and paid my way this feels like a leap and not my ideal (though at some level being a sahm for a short time sounds appealing). Genuinely don't know whether to just quit now & then look for a job or tough it out.

Life feels too short to be in a job that is making me so stressed and miserable. My confidence is being chipped away at & I would like to feel more valued (is this asking too much?) WIBU to just quit???

Help please, I am feeling really miserable and need a plan of how to get myself out of this shitty situation.

Life is too short, but it’s true that it’s easier to get a job if you already have one.

I would contact recruiters and start seriously looking. See what is out there and apply wherever you fancy. If you know companies where you would like to work but they aren’t advertising- phone and ask if there are any roles.

In the meantime, wind back a bit at work. Delegate and work on obtaining a real balance.

And i. There’s of the golden handcuffs - I took. £180,000 paycut to get away from a bad boss and shitty company and obtain work life balance. It was worth every penny.

So long as you work out your budget and therefore your minimum acceptable and preferred salaries In Advance of applications, you will be fine.

Don't you only get unemployment benefit if you're fired/job is deleted rather than quit yourself?
Also, anyone with over £16k savings will not qualify for any kind of benefits.

What will happen to your role when the new group comes into force?
Have you spoken to them about your future?

I think feeling valued at work is becoming more and more rarer. Sadly.

Well I'm guessing I won't be entitled to anything & no I don't want to be paid to do nothing, was just asking a question as a longtime tax payer with children to look after.

Do stay at home mums have any benefit entitlements or does it depend on husbands salary. Fairly straightforward question, no real need for snark here, I asked for advice while feeling miserable & stressed (other option presumably to get signed off with stress, which isn't my style, nor is not working). Just wanted to know my rights & the legal situation etc.

If you don't have constructive thoughts please don't write nasty comments.

Weekend plan will be to look at budget & have serious discussion with DH. Already looking around & networking but I feel like my sanity needs a faster solution

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I'd book a few days off, let their changes sink in, have a sleep and then think about it personally. My Nan would have said, "Act in haste, repent at leisure." Can you take a career break where you work, a sabbatical?

Stay at home mums are generally expected to seek work if they want to claim benefits unless the children are very young. Some may be entitled to household level benefits but it depends on the household income so if DH earns reasonably well they'll be no entitlement.
For pretty obvious reasons the country needs as few people as possible economically inactive and going forward this will be even more important as unskilled unlimited migration from the EU will stop vacancies being filled from outside the country. In the vast majority of cases a childcare provider can look after more than one family's children at once and even in other cases the government benefits from 2 lots of income tax if the children are in childcare and the mother is working rather than the mother looking after the children at home.

Do stay at home mums have any benefit entitlements or does it depend on husbands salary.
yes it depends on the husbands salary. Women who are married with higher tax payer are hugely penalised because they get nothing, whilst the ones on their own, or even married to someone who chose to work less and have an easier life get everything. Welcome to our beautiful system, the cap to 2 children will also be removed. It's a joke.

Anyway, don't quit just yet. Start looking seriously, take sickies if you need. You are much more employable if you have a job, and you are too busy to stress about the delay of replies from potential employers.

Other than 6 months contribution based Job seekers allowance - other benefits depend on household income. But you do t get jsa if you've left voluntarily.
Child benefit depend on household income and do does tax credits and universal credits.
It's hard to be in right mind place to apply for new jobs but sounds like it would best to take a step back and start applying now. Disengage from the stress of the current job a bit

I don't see why you wouldn't be entitled to job seeker's allowance if you're going to be actively seeking a job.

The Entitled to website says you would be entitled to JSA for 6 months. Looks like JSA is £73.10pw for over 25yos.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/leaving-a-job/resigning/deciding-whether-to-resign/

secureCompartment
no need to insult me, but if you are on here instead of being at work, I am guessing you feel targeted
The current system help the ones who have chosen to be lazy, but thankfully it's changing, but a bit too slowly. We are getting there though.

@consolidate
JSA is for people who are out of work through no fault of their own while they are looking for work, not for those who decided they no longer like their current one.

If you think you could manage on DH's salary for a while, then why don't you do so for 6 months but keep working and job hunting in the meantime. Resign at the end if the 6 months by which time you'll either have a new job or will have built up a buffer for a period of unemployment.

The CAB website doesn't say anything about JSA only being for people who are out of work through no fault of their own. Do you have any official links confirming this?

Here is the CAB link: www.citizensadvice.org.uk/benefits/help-if-on-a-low-income/jobseekers-allowance-jsa/before-you-claim-jsa/check-if-you-can-get-jsa/

@secureCompartment

not lazy bastards who feel like some time off work.

Umm are you seriously calling me a lazy bastard? WTAF! I work probably 70-80 hrs/week so you can take your accusation & shove it frankly.

Thanks to others for the helpful advice & info

On my way to Singapore on business. Great to have on board wifi.

Of course you are. Flying 1st class, and enjoying MN whilst having a pedicure and back massage to help you enjoy the flight. I am sure you are having a lovely time and you will get that multi-billion contract signed in your favour in Singapore. Enjoy!

@secureCompartment
I really don't need your input here, if you read my comments properly you would see my intention would never be to be out of work long term. I have a post graduate education & have always worked and always intend to, just trying to formulate a plan to get from A to B, & was hoping for CONSTRUCTIVE advice. As you didn't know what snark was perhaps you also need to look up constructive!?!

You can hop back onto your self-important pedestal and stay there, your trolling comments are not in the slightest bit helpful. Thanks anyway.

I used to be the bread winner of the family but my job was a 22mile commute, stressful and non flexible. After my second child I ended up leaving to focus on being a sahm. My husband works and supports us. We get tax credits they help. We've learned to live on a lot less money and we 're happy.