To not let my Y9 have sleepovers on school nights?

[KittyMarrion]

I of course do not think I'm BU by confining sleepovers to weekends. DC in Y9 thinks I am evil for not allowing weeknight sleepovers.

They have pulled the old chestnut, "everyone else is allowed to." I don't think they are as it is only one friend that is ever requested to sleepover and together they are a bit rebellious.

Just want to canvas opinions really.

Depends what the sleepover is. Mine routinely had friends stay after sports, drama etc as we live next to the school with a large rural catchment area. Supper, homework bed in guest room.

Oh, and in the snow we had a houseful especially during the GCSE mocks snow bout.

No way.

I can only imagine this being ok if I didn’t work and if the DC involved were super responsible and I knew they would get homework done and go to sleep rather than chat.

My dc often have sleepovers on school nights.
They know how much sleep they need and choose to go to sleep at a reasonable time.
They get up in the morning for school so there's no reason for me to say no.
They no if they wouldn't get up they wouldn't be allowed again.

I think that sleepovers on a school night sound like a recipe for disaster (well, a recipe for massively tired kids). It would be only for childcare for a friend here.

No way. Only weekends.

Did them occasionally if I was doing a friend a favour due to her work commitments but only a handful of times. They’re not much fun. Now with teens I get the occasional “fallen out with mum can I sleep here?” request.

YANBU. DSD is in Y9 and not allowed sleepovers on school nights either. Doesn't matter if "everybody else" is allowed to have them. You're not "everybody else"'s mum.