To not let my Y9 have sleepovers on school nights?

[KittyMarrion]

I of course do not think I'm BU by confining sleepovers to weekends. DC in Y9 thinks I am evil for not allowing weeknight sleepovers.

They have pulled the old chestnut, "everyone else is allowed to." I don't think they are as it is only one friend that is ever requested to sleepover and together they are a bit rebellious.

Just want to canvas opinions really.

I wouldn’t do sleepovers during the week. Firstly because there will be very little actual sleeping. And secondly I don’t want to be responsible for getting other kids up and off to school at a decent hour in the morning. Bad enough rousing one teen.

No way! YANBU.

Sleepovers on a school night were THE BEST!

Surely occasionally it won't do any harm?

For a special occasion like a gig/event that will finish late or for childcare purposes I think it’s fine but not for a run of the mill Wednesday!

You're right. They're wrong. No sleepovers on school nights!

We used to do it. I’d probably let mine from about y 9 too! Always got to school fine

No sleepovers on school nights ever

I wouldnt allow dd8 to have weekday sleepovers. When my friends son 9 stays in the week (she works nights) he sleeps in dds room and she shares with me. This is usually once a week. They wouldnt go to sleep at a reasonable time otherwise.

No way! Mine are 16 and 18 and are not allowed friends over on school/college nights.

As PP if it was after an event as a one off then yes but otherwise no

Zebra you mean to the house at all or overnight?

I wouldn't let my y9 have a sleep over on a school night, and I certainly wouldn't host one.

No way, it’s too stressful for me! I want to be able to go to bed in peace ready for work the next day, I don’t want to be thinking about whether DC have gone to bed or not. I’ve currently banned weekend sleepovers so I can relax at the weekend! To be fair, we hosted the most sleepovers but nice to have a break from it taking over your house.

It is an unwritten law - no sleepovers on school nights, unless there was some kind of emergency.

No not much sleeping goes on!

YANBU
In fact I now even restrict sleepovers at to half terms and holidays have unless it’s a birthday or another good reason. It all just got out of hand and with little sleep most the next day is wiped out and it impacts on family time and school work.

Nope, they would get no sleep!

Mine are not typically allowed weeknight sleepovers , but I have made allowances for really special occasions or to help out a friend.
In these cases they sleep in separate rooms though, otherwise they just wouldn't get any sleep.

I have twins in year 9. No way to sleepovers! They are bad enough sharing a room 🙄

This is not for any special reason. Plus weekend sleepovers end up with talking until 7am! Would not be great for a school night!

Zebra that seems extreme! We were going clubbing at least one night a week at college!

none of my dc have had or been invited to a sleepover on a school night, there would have to be a really good reason before I agreed to it.

I think you're right. Seems like a very sensible rule to me.

I used to sleep over my best friends on school nights quite regularly. Parents didn't have to faff around giving lifts home as we got the school buses and we always went to bed at a decent time. Used to love doing that. Will probably let my kids at that age but if they prove untrustworthy by staying up too late it would be stopped.

I remember once having a friend sleep over on a school night (I think her mum had had an operation). It was so exciting!! I think I was about 7.
But no, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all.