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To think it’s weird to knock a neighbours door and tell them to move their car

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Applecrumble79 · 07/01/2019 14:30

A family that lives a few doors down Have started knocking peoples doors asking them to move their car from outside their house.

He likes to park right outside his house. Ideally I do too but understand that I don’t have a drive, I am not entitled to park outside my house. We all pay road tax therefore the street parking should operate on a first come first come basis. I try to be considerate but can’t all the time. My other neighbour has also asked if we could come to an arrangement about parking. I found this laughable. I told him I would try to be considerate but of course if someone is parked outside my house where should I park?!
Anyway, back to the original neighbour, I think it’s unreasonable of him to knock every door on the street asking if they know who the car belongs to as the owner needs to move it.
I find this behaviour aggressive and unreasonable. Am I overreacting?!

OP posts:
SilverySurfer · 07/01/2019 20:10

notonefunkgiven
I have a sign outside my street house asking people not to park outside my home as I have babies...blah blah

As others have said. if I saw your precious little sign I would make it a priority to park there. You don't own the road just because you have babies. Although it depends; have the Three Wise Men and shepherds popped in for a cuppa and bearing gifts yet?

OP, yes, it is weird and the answer is NO.

ScienceIsTruth · 07/01/2019 20:13

We have similar issues.

We are very lucky to live on a wide road, and all the houses have enough of a frontage to have a driveway, although a few people have chosen to keep it grassed and fenced in instead.

Our house is one of the closest to the street, (so has the least frontage depth wise), but we can still just about park a car with the nose facing our property and the boot facing the road, (so the car is at a right angle to the pathway, iykwim).

The first thing we did when we moved here was to pave all of the frontage so that we can fit both of our cars on the drive and still have room for 1 or 2 visitor's cars.

Sometimes, it's not always possible to park on our drive (workmen or guests, etc) so we'll park directly outside our house if the space is available, and only park elsewhere if it isn't (the same as most others living here).

Most people on our street are just as considerate and will only park outside someone else's house if there's no space outside their house or on their driveway, but we have a neighbour opposite who has no driveway as such.
Instead, although he has the front all paved, it's all fenced in with only a small (90cm wide) gate for access on foot.
He has 2 cars and actually considers the bit outside his direct neighbour's house his personal space (as well as the bit directly in front of his house).

An absolute max of 10 times over the last 3 year's I've parked outside his direct neighbour's house (eg, delivery needs to unload as close to us as possible).

I usually only stay there for an hour or 2, although once it was most of the afternoon, and each time he's either come over within 15 mins and asked me to move, or he's left a note on my car asking me not to park in his spot.

He then acts quite petty and will 'punish' me by spending the next week or so parking the car he doesn't use as much directly outside my house (even if there are closer spaces free, including directly outside his own house).

He knows that I cannot walk far due to my poor health, (which is no one else's problem and I don't expect anyone to make allowances for me), but if he's there he will run out as soon as I start to leave, and move his car into the space I've just vacated (unless I'm on my drive, in which case he parks just over the dropped kerb making it difficult to get back onto my drive).

I've never retaliated or deliberately parked to annoy him (although I do call him names under my breath Blush), as I've no right to the space outside my house and don't want to sink to his level. I actually find it amusing on some levels (to a certain extent).

I also feel kinda sorry for him as he must be pretty miserable to behave the way he does.

Luckily, he's only 1 of 2 people on our road that behave like this (that I'm aware of anyway). Both are men though. The other one has a drive but doesn't use it, instead he parks directly outside his house on the road and goes mad if anyone dares to park there when he's out. He's so bad we actually warn any workmen we've have not to use that space as it's not worth the hassle/lecture/rant (unless there's really nowhere else left).

Sorry, I'm not much help to you though.

dontneedthedrama · 07/01/2019 20:14

When I read these Parking threads I always think have these people got nothing better to do than knock on people's doors to move their car so it's not outside their house Hmm.
There is a neighbour like that on every street , my NDN doesn't like me parking outside MY OWN house because they have a drive and said it's awkward to get out she claims the neighbour opposite struggles with their mini van even though in 10 years they have never asked me to move . NDN is just a pain in the arse will sit at her window literally policing the parking and every morning they line up the bins in front of their drive and every night have to move them so can drive on the drive . I mean what's that all about. I just Grin and think whatever 🤷‍♀️

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 07/01/2019 20:16

See I just don’t get why you’d have a drive yet leave your car on a public road. Surely it’s safer on the drive? Confused

Applecrumble79 · 07/01/2019 20:20

Thanks for responses

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Shelby2010 · 07/01/2019 20:21

I think I’ve got the solution to the OP’s problem.....

When NDN comes knocking, just say that you’d love to move your car, but first he has to get the person who’s parked in front of your house to move their car. Then he’ll need to clear the space outside that person’s house for their car to move to and so on. He can then spend his evening working out who needs to move where, and in what order. Hopefully he’ll have spontaneously combusted by the time you’ve finished your tea!

Applecrumble79 · 07/01/2019 20:34

I like that one!!! @ Shelby2010

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lms2017 · 07/01/2019 20:39

I have to close my curtains on weekends! Football parents think our little cul de sac is fine to park in when they have a MASSIVE field to park in just too lazy to wait to leave 5 mins in a Q! .
They block us in , park in our allocated spaces , hold their horns , screach their kids names out over and over , and throw rubbish out the car . They bash their muddy boots all over the pavement ! . My OH gets annoyed too and goes out with a broom and tells them to sweep it up or f*ck off and stop doing it 😂😂 I just get so ANGRY I have to stay inside I would probably ram their car in a rage! .

If they are in our space i just block them in they then have to come find me and knock on everydoor they then have the cheek to be rude and say I have blocked them in 😂😂 I then take my time .....

I WOULD never move my car in your situation what a joke .... there is nothing more annoying than someone in your street who thinks they have more rights! .

m0therofdragons · 07/01/2019 20:42

@notonefunkgiven get a sling for one and carry the other 🙄
I had a toddler then twins. Stop being an entitled knobber.

BackforGood · 07/01/2019 21:24

I like @WeBuiltThisCityOnSausageRolls ' s thinking about only having one bay Grin Grin Grin

MulticolourMophead · 07/01/2019 21:52

Oh and as for the “the council don’t care how many permits they issue, they just want the revenue”, none of the zones are full (the council have clearly calculated how many cars can park there). The issue is people taking up two car’s worth of space so they can park bang outside their house etc or taking up far more space than they need because they’ve got the spacial awareness of a brick. THAT’S the problem.

Our council certainly have calculated approximately how many spaces are available in our permit only zone, it says as much on the paperwork to apply for the permit. I've got one permit for now. At least no-one parks outside my house, though, there are double yellow lines... Grin

I might not be parked in the same spot everyday, but I know I will have a space to park when I come home from work.

DoctorTwo · 07/01/2019 21:57

About 25 years ago my then GF and I were at our mate and his BF's house when the door was knocked. He, a 5'5" 7 stone very camp man answered the door and we heard the following:-

"Hello?"
"Hello. Is that your car outside our house?"
"Yes"
"Can you move it?"
"From here? No."
"Why not?"
"I'm shit at psychokinesis."
"Psycho what?!?"
"Kinesis. Moving stuff with my mind is not a thing I do."
"Are you gonna move your car or not?"
"Not"
"What if it ends up damaged?"
"it better fucking not."
"Why?"
"Because (here his voice dropped to a dead monotone) I will end you"

We tried and failed to stop ourselves laughing and the neighbour just walked away.

StoneofDestiny · 07/01/2019 22:24

Your neighbour is an idiot and a harassing buffoon. Ideally all the neighbours irritated by him need to stick to the same line - 'no, the road is not your private property'. No idea where this idea came from that you own the road as well as your house.

Ridiculous people putting signs on their car saying 'don't park here, I have children' - WTF. People who live in flats or terraced blocks without garages and drives have to deal with the first come first served parking routine every day - what makes your idiot neighbour think he has a private piece of road reserved?

Stick to your guns OP and tell him to stop harassing you.

Applecrumble79 · 07/01/2019 22:29

I’ve had a car dropped off for me for work tonight and guess what. He has parked one inch from the bumper and left the space free right outside his house. Is he for real. His behaviour is shockingly funny.

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Hoopaloop · 07/01/2019 22:51

Move up so bumper to bumper then try and push it away. Either that or wait until spring and smear jam over the door handles so that the bees get involved.

StoneofDestiny · 07/01/2019 22:51

Take a picture - this will be useful if it escalates

ihadasleepintoday · 07/01/2019 22:54

Move it to the space outside his house.

LakieLady · 07/01/2019 23:15

one of the residents (mr nobnuts) has 3 cars plus a sodding great box van that he likes to leave parked outside peoples houses all the time,

Oh dear, I think people in our road might think about us like that! We have 2 cars and a motorhome ... and 4 (yes, 4!) motorbikes. One car and 2 motorbikes are in the drive, 2 motorbikes are in the garage, the motorhome is on the road outside our house and my car is also on the road, but blocking our own drive, so not really taking up a space that anyone else can use. At least 2 of the motorbikes have to go, but my nagging has failed to overcome DP's inertia in the matter.

We don't park the motorhome on the drive because the drive is on quite a steep incline, and the fridge in the motorhome doesn't work unless it's been level for about 48 hours.

At least ours is no longer than a big car, someone has got a huge great 7 metre posh motorhome that has been parked on our street since early November!

notonefunkgiven · 08/01/2019 08:39

@m0therofdragons I will not, it works and people on our street aren't knobheads like some of these on here so don't park there. Why the fuck should I start arsing on with slings to get my kids in the house safely when there's enough space outside everyone's house for one car! Any more cars then that really isn't my problem

BarbarianMum · 08/01/2019 08:44

What do you do with your babies when you get to your destination notone? Couldnt you do that when you get home?

Sirzy · 08/01/2019 08:45

If you want to guarantee parking outside your house buy a house with a drive. Otherwise you take the risk like everyone else

The only knobhead is the person trying to dictate where neighbours can park legally!

Roussette · 08/01/2019 09:09

notonefunkgiven

Hate to tell you but there's not one person on here who thinks it's OK for you to put up a No Parking sign outside your house because you have children, not one.

whosafraidofabigduckfart · 08/01/2019 09:16

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flumpybear · 08/01/2019 09:16

Tel him To pay to get the kerb dropped outside his house if he's that bothered - otherwise it's a free for all.

whosafraidofabigduckfart · 08/01/2019 09:18

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