To think it’s weird to knock a neighbours door and tell them to move their car

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A family that lives a few doors down Have started knocking peoples doors asking them to move their car from outside their house.

He likes to park right outside his house. Ideally I do too but understand that I don’t have a drive, I am not entitled to park outside my house. We all pay road tax therefore the street parking should operate on a first come first come basis. I try to be considerate but can’t all the time. My other neighbour has also asked if we could come to an arrangement about parking. I found this laughable. I told him I would try to be considerate but of course if someone is parked outside my house where should I park?!
Anyway, back to the original neighbour, I think it’s unreasonable of him to knock every door on the street asking if they know who the car belongs to as the owner needs to move it.
I find this behaviour aggressive and unreasonable. Am I overreacting?!

Indeed, it's the road fund licence

The road fund licence hasn't existed since 1936. What is paid by vehicle owners now is vehicle excise duty. It is a general tax: it has no connection with maintenance of the roads.

OP YANBU

@notonefunkgiven YABVVVU

No-one owns the public highway! Knocking on doors could be viewed as harassment if he keeps doing it.

I'm glad the first mother ever to walk the earth is on this thread, otherwise no-one would have considered the fact babies may live in houses.

Signs like that have no legal standing anywt and tend to be ignored.

@NotOneFunkGiven I’d be ignoring your sign too. Having children doesn’t give you more rights than everyone else when it comes to parking outside your home.

how has noone pointed out that as this is a 'parking' thread we have not had the obligatory diagram!!!

Also CF award for the neighbour to ask people to move, although I live on a street like this and years ago paid for a drive to be put in because of issues like this, one of the residents (mr nobnuts) has 3 cars plus a sodding great box van that he likes to leave parked outside peoples houses all the time, he is such a cock about it all & so bloody threatening, I stood up to him once and since then he won't even look at me in the street. Wife is friendly and says hello though but he is just a total cock, can't wait till they have to move out!

I had a similar situation with one of my neighbours. The guy in question wanted a cars length space leaving In front of his at all times in case he had to have his battery jumped. He started knocking on my door more and more until he became a real nuisance. After a whil I said I wasn’t going to talk about it again and he got really nasty. The road is busy and you park where you can. He got more aggressive until I phoned the non emergency police number and they (eventually ) issued him with a harassment notice . He’s not even looked at me since. Hopefully your neighbours won’t get to the ridiculous level this guy reached but I’d not answer the door if they knock and if you see them tell them you’re parked sensibly and legally and that you won’t discuss this again. It sounds as if this guy is becoming obsessed with
This and is a neighbourhood nuisance so if push comes to shove I’d get police involved if you think it’s becoming harassment.

@Myimaginarycathasfleas so how doe that work when you have a narrow terrace house? Every house in our road is entitled to two car permits but each house is - at best - one and a half cars wide. Obviously not every house has one car let alone two, but by the time a lot of houses do have the two cars they’re allowed (and pay for) and allowing for space between vehicles, you couldn’t possibly restrict parking to the rather pedantic “outside your own house only”

And, of course, that’s not allowing for visitors.

People who think they own the public road outside their house as their own personal parking space are a pain in the arse.

And @OP, YANBU to find your neighbour aggressive and unreasonable. If it continued I’d be making a complaint to the police/council.

Have we had the obligatory if you wanted to park outside your home, you should have got a house with a driveway?

what I did

but not affordable to everyone

I agree @alwaysthepessimist - diagram transgression!

Also the obvious response to the door knocking head the ball is "that's not my car" even when it patently is.

YANBU. We have the same parking situation here and most of the time we keep outside our own houses, but sometimes it's not possible and I'll get home late with a sleeping toddler and give a little groan at having to carry said hefty 3yo across the road to get into the house, but I would never dream of asking the neighbour to move or avoid parking there.

YAB slightly U for not putting together a diagram

"Don't park here, I have babies" 😂

My sister visited me over Xmas. She parked in a designated visitor spot, only the resident of the nearest house to that spot likes to park his car there. It's never been an issue, at least not for me.

So, she was getting stuff out of the car and the bloke comes back and starts looking shifty. My sister isn't one to mess about and even though she knew she was parked in a visitor spot (I have lived her for over 20 years, I know what's what), she asked him whether she was parked in his spot. He said yes and that his DD was poorly so he needed to be near his house (what?). Anyway, she got back in and after much forward and back by both cars, they swapped places. All fine. THEN he just drove straight off!

She came in and simply said "he's not very bright, is he" and we carried on with our day. It must be quite tiring being him.

OP, YA definitely NBU. I agree with the PP who says some people are just unreasonable arseholes nuts. And yes if you want parking outside your home you need to get a place with parking/drive. We compromised on space/area/bedrooms/condition (it was a shithole that has taken us over ten years to do up) just to have off road parking (me and DH had previously lived on terraced streets and found parking a nightmare).

I'd park there on purpose and then ignore the door!

@Notonefunkgiven, I have to admit that if one of my neighbours put up a sign asking people not to park outside their house as they have babies, I'd really struggle not to park there deliberately. If I managed the journey from car to house with more than one small child, I do feel that you can. You presumably don't claim that your babies give you the right to a parking space directly outside every shop or other destination you go to, so why can't you use whatever method you use there to ferry your children back home if you can't park immediately outside your house?

BrightYellowDaffodil. Permit parking doesn’t allocate spaces, it just allows permit holders to use spaces within a controlled area. It’s a no brainier for cash strapped councils to allocate two spaces per household - it brings in twice the revenue and they don’t give a stuff whether you can actually park.

*brainer not brainier!

I have a sign outside my street house asking people not to park outside my home as I have babies

Nice one....oh wait, you are not joking?

There was one kicking off about parking on our local FB group and a few people agreed with her about dodgy parking until it became apparent that the woman was complaining about people parking perfectly legally and safely outside her house on a public road
She objected to not being able to park right outside her house due to “inconsiderate twats in Chelsea Tractors” who for some reason refused to move when she told them to.
People told her she was an idiot

It's unreasonable yes, but I have to say I've done it. I have had 2 nightmare neighbours when it comes to parking though, the one insisted on parking his car in a way that meant I could never park outside my house as he took up a space and a half to ensure no one parked near his car. It was so annoying that it got to the point I used to ask him to move his car forward so I could get my car in. My current next door neighbour has a disabled space but will only park in it if there is no other space near to her house. 80% of the time she parks outside my house. It drives me nuts

@PennyMordauntsLadyBrain

They are all women in my street! Passive aggressive not leavers and one who will argue face to face. One bay shit old bird even left a poo bag on someone's car. She doesn't even own a dog so I have no idea where she got the poo from 🤢

There are 12 houses in our street. 10 have drives. Ours and next door have detached garages at the end of the road.

If everyone parks sensibly then we can get both cars outside our house. If we have visitors, DH shifts his into the garage. What does piss me off is when people park blocking our garage or next door's as that makes it a pain in the arse to manoeuvre, especially when they don't use their own drive.

I think bad parking may be inherited. The woman on the other side of us can't park for toffee. When her ex-husband lived there, they got two cars on the drive no bother. Since they split, she parks half on/half off the drive, her son parks a Fiat UNO like it is a bus and her boyfriend also parks like a twat. It's a good job we like them.

The poster with the sign about having babies is beyond ridiculous. I hope people park there just because until she grows up.

I have a friend who has young triplets. Not in a million years would she have expected special parking treatment on a public street because of it.