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Ameliel · 07/01/2019 10:58

I have had a lady cleaning my house every week since about September. I found her on Facebook and she seemed good so I went with it. I work from home and been so busy last few months that I needed the help. So I have pretty much given her free range, I'm not watching over her when she cleans.

Anyway, I recently lost my much loved gold bracelet. I hadn't seen it for few days but didn't really worry, as I thought it was somewhere in the house. When I had more time over Christmas, I turned the place upside down looking for it, and realised it has really disappeared. I brushed it off with being careless and having dropped it on a night out or something. But then I realised my necklace had also disappeared. This was a fairly pricey piece given by my husband, big tanzanite on it. I wore it only rarely as it's not really my style, so that one should have definitely been in my jewellery box.

Now I've just been looking through everything to try to find it, and doing so realised that another necklace has disappeared too. This one was 100% certainly in the jewellery box, I always keep it there as it's delicate. This pendant was a vintage piece, not huge value financially but sentimentally very valuable to me. I'm devastated.

it's impossible that I would have misplaced all these items myself, I'm a bit ocd with my stuff and haven't lost anything for many years. They have been taken from my jewellery box.

The only person who has been in our house apart from family and friends, is the cleaner lady.... I haven't got a shred of evidence, so cannot confront her. But there simply isn't another explanation, it must have been her.

I've not noticed anything else missing.. she's due to come again this week, but I've totally lost trust with her now. I don't want her back in the house. I'm gutted as I feel like I've been robbed and taken for a ride! I have always been quite generous with her, with Christmas presents etc so this feels so low...

I know it's only stuff, I'll need to let it go but I was quite attached to the bracelet and the second necklace , and was hoping to pass them to my daughter one day... what would you do in my position? I think the police would laugh me out so guess there's nothing I can do apart from learning from it! Does anyone has any advice? Thanks for bearing with the long post!

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HopeGarden · 07/01/2019 14:44

I’d do what Sicario advises -

Can I suggest you do speak to her something along the lines of this:

"I'm not suggesting for a moment that it's anything to do with you, but some of my jewellery has gone missing and I have to list all the people who have been in the house for the police report and insurance claim so I'll have to give them your details. I don't suppose you've seen anything? I'm still hoping they will turn up somewhere."

That way, if the cleaner has taken them, she may “find” (return) them again.

Although it could be friends / family who know the cleaner would be the top suspect.

A friend of mine had stuff stolen from her house over a few months - cash from wallets / handbags, jewellery, small electronic items. It took her and her DH a while to put all the pieces together and figure out stuff was gone rather than mislaid. They had a cleaner too.
The culprit turned out to be friend’s trusted SIL, who had an addiction problem previously unknown to friend and her DH. They accidentally caught SIL red handed and SIL confessed all.

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