I have one brother and two sisters- all married. It's sister S's anniversary on Sunday and she text me yesterday to invite me out for a meal but I've already provisionally arranged with my brother to visit my dad on the same day with my 7wk old baby. Mum is v sadly no longer with us.
I don't think dad is aware of our plans to visit yet, I am going to ring him today. It won't affect his ability to attend the meal which is at 5pm. We would be visiting about 1pm. I can't do both.
WIBU not to go to the meal but to keep my plans with my brother as we arranged it first?
If I go to the meal I would not take the baby.
My brother won't be attending the meal as he and sister no longer speak due to words said between them on numerous occasions during the time mum was having palliative care at home. It was a very stressful time and there is blame on both sides. I'm not sure he's been invited anyway.
My other sister and I are trying to be peacekeepers for my dad's sake but it is difficult at times. He is unaware of the extent of the problem.