My dad has a big birthday coming up this year. He’s decided that he’d really like to celebrate by going away somewhere sunny with the whole family. He and my brother have been looking online and seen some self-catering villas available about 4-5 hours’ flight away.
My problem is that DP and I have a DD with a learning disability, autism and physical disabilities. She’ll be 5 by the time of the trip.
Previous holidays have been incredibly stressful and the thought of taking her on a flight for more than a couple of hours makes me want to cry. It’s always tricky making wherever we stay safe for her, especially the sleeping arrangements, and there’s no relaxation time at all. The rest of the family has a great time while we wrestle with DD, trying to stop her killing herself or destroying her surroundings.
On top of this, I’m really not a good flier. The way I get through flights is to zone out completely, listening to music and reading unchallenging novels. I won’t be able to do that while looking after DD.
My feeling is that if we’re all going to go away, I’d much prefer it to be somewhere a bit nearer - either driving distance or a couple of hours’ flight max - and where we can check the safety and accessibility thoroughly first.
But when I raised this today, some family members looked really pissed off - I get the impression they’ve set their heart on this destination and think I’m just being difficult.
I could do with some perspective, please - am I just being a killjoy and should we just suck it up for the sake of family harmony?