To be thoroughly pissed off with dh being ill

[SitOnMyHouse]

He has a slight fever and a sore throat. I have offered lemsip, ibuprofen and hot water bottles. All refused because ‘I need to be able to feel my symptoms in case I need to go to hospital and tell them what’s wrong’. He didn’t want dc’s and I to go out today in case his illness ‘spiked’ and he needed urgent help. He won’t go to bed as he works away during the week and wants to see his kids. We’ve been told to keep the noise down as noise makes him feel sick (not easy with a 6 and 3 year old who aren’t allowed outside). The TV makes him feel dizzy every time he looks at it so that’s not allowed either.

We’ve been together a decade and this is only the second time he’s ever been ill. I’d forgotten just how pathetic he is about it. Dc and I have all had similar symptoms this week and even my 3 year old coped so much better.

If he’d just buggered off to bed and let me get on with my day as usual I would thoroughly sympathetic (mostly). I’m now listening to him snorting away on the sofa and feeling slightly murderous.

My dad was like this when he got a bug. Because he was never ever ill, when he actually fell ill it was a massive shock. He couldn’t believe how bad he felt 😀. I get ill a lot (immune issues) and am used to feeling shit. It was almost amusing to see how much a sore throat/cold shocked him.

@SitOnMyHouse

You're indulging and enabling him - and then moaning about him

Ridiculous

And your children are suffering

His parents massively overreact to illness too. I think they were very similar in that they hardly ever got ill but when they did it was always deadly. They really struggled as they got older and had to cope with aches and pains.

Anyway, he’s in bed in the spare room now. He’s got work tomorrow and is insisting he’ll be well enough for that. He hasn’t had a day off sick since he started working there 19 years ago so I can’t imagine he’ll start now.

Leave the house and tell him you’re fetching the doctor.

gina I’m hardly enabling him - it’s the second time he’s done it in a decade. If it was more frequent I wouldn’t indulge him. I don’t doubt he feels ill, I just think he’s being ridiculous about it. But I’m indulging him as he does it so rarely.

Kids will survive one day inside, please don’t worry about my dc suffering.

Sorry OP this is giving me a massive laugh tonight! a rope like in Bird Box 😂😂

This needs to go in classics

If they are able to moan, then there is feck all wrong with them IMO.
If DH is moaning, then I know he's fine. If he is quiet,I pay attention as he has Asthma which gets bad if he gets flu/heavy cold. He doesn't moan, just wheezes and can mean hospital.
DD and DH have bugs just now. Both in bed. Am sat downstairs with a book. I wander up occasionally to check they are ok/bring water.

I just wish I’d ignored him and just taken the dc’s out today, they’re still bouncing off the walls as they haven’t been out today.

I felt rather sorry for your DCs when I read this

But I'm obviously wrong, as you say they're fine and not suffering

My bad

YetAnotherThing

Out of hours doctors on a sunday night will have no interest whatsoever in seeing a young fit man with a flu like illness.

I would suggest instead to leave some nice chicken soup and two ibuprofen with water on the bedside table and just go out.

It used to a bit like this with DH. He was rarely ill, but expected full nursing care when it happened. If the boot was on the other foot, he would just go off out on his own, leaving me to cope with the kids on my own.

Men make such a fuss of being unwell that they are NEVER left with the kids. There is something to be said for this approach.

you are married to a bigamist, he's also married to me! Never ill but when he is it's the end of the world! I felt really rough on NYE (nausea, tired) but said we'd show our face for half an hour next door because Dd1 and their dd are good friends. Of course dh refused to take my hints and help gather up the dds to leave not one bit worried I was miserable (not contagious part of a chronic illness!).
Two nights later he has a stomach bug, it's so sore, he feels so sick can't eat, no dessert for the family so he doesn't miss out (yeah sorry dh it was lovely!) couldn't go anywhere. Might have pointed out he wouldn't want to go next door for hours then, his genuine amazement "but you always carry on" didn't help.

@theworldistoosmall of course you’re not, maybe you are just angry at something else

Expose his children to said illness? There was me thinking that he was barely ill, if so I suspect the kids will be just fine. I am sure they encounter far worse at nursery / school whichever they attend

Are we not allowed to be pathetic once every five years? I know my DP is like this for a few days once every several years and I think I will indulge (within certain boundaries of course) as it’s nice to be nice. Clearly it’s unlikely he is dying but he does likely feel pretty poorly, it doesn’t kill you to be sympathetic twice every ten years to the person you have chosen to marry and spend the rest of your life with

couldn’t cope with these shenanigans. If he goes to A&E I can assure him the first question asked will be “have you taken paracetamol” the second will be “well that’s ridiculous, why not?”. I’d leave him to it. Twit.

^^
With bells on!

OMG men with colds are hysterical. My Dh does the shuffle, and takes his own meds and moans a bit. But I laugh at him and tell him to get a grip. He has been proper ill where he couldn't walk without a cane and did need help to walk to the loo, the doc thought he had leaukemia. So a cold barely registers now days.
Get him his dressing gown of doom and leave him to it.

God. I can only dream of being sent to bed with pain relief when ill whist my dh took the kids out all day. The only time i get 'proper' rest care like that is with a PROPER d&v bug.

Dh is a sweetie and loves me but he's a shit nurse and i get bugs a lot so his sympathy is low wten i get ill. Nobody ever nursed him as a child so he's just not very good at it. When he's ill however...

He's great in a crisis though. If only I severed a finger every 6 - 8 weeks as opposed to getting a grim virus.

HirooOnoda not angry either.
His dc have just gotten over the same bug.
I am sympathetic. Like I said in my first post I would have told him to stop moaning, take the meds and fuck off to bed.

Paracetamol and iboprufen are not just painkillers, they also bring your temperature down, which might be a symptom you would otherwise ask for medical advice for. I hate medication but only a fool would not realise that you take these for a bad cold/flu.
They don't mask serious symptoms, have plenty of fluids (and dressing gown of doom). We used to take lucozade, choc full of sugar and caffeine, even for kids, that might perk him up, but rest would be better.
Nhs will have a leaflet online.

Thanks to Jamie fucking Oliver and his sugar tax, Lucozade is now full of artificial sweetener crap. Better to dilute orange juice and add in a 1/4 tsp of salt as a sports drink these days.

As for 'men' that's just some of them. My h isn't like this. Couldn't abide a manchild or adultchild.