To be thoroughly pissed off with dh being ill

[SitOnMyHouse]

He has a slight fever and a sore throat. I have offered lemsip, ibuprofen and hot water bottles. All refused because ‘I need to be able to feel my symptoms in case I need to go to hospital and tell them what’s wrong’. He didn’t want dc’s and I to go out today in case his illness ‘spiked’ and he needed urgent help. He won’t go to bed as he works away during the week and wants to see his kids. We’ve been told to keep the noise down as noise makes him feel sick (not easy with a 6 and 3 year old who aren’t allowed outside). The TV makes him feel dizzy every time he looks at it so that’s not allowed either.

We’ve been together a decade and this is only the second time he’s ever been ill. I’d forgotten just how pathetic he is about it. Dc and I have all had similar symptoms this week and even my 3 year old coped so much better.

If he’d just buggered off to bed and let me get on with my day as usual I would thoroughly sympathetic (mostly). I’m now listening to him snorting away on the sofa and feeling slightly murderous.

Sounds like a shocking case of man-flu OP. The only treatment is either to slap him about the head with a large wet fish or grit your teeth and indulge him with a saccharine smile!

hollowtalk because despite him having the same symptoms as we did, his are sooo much worse so it couldn’t possibly be the same thing.

userplus it could be a migraine I suppose. Don’t people with migraines like to be quiet and still though? He’s been making such a racket complaining and groaning all day.

And there is the reason why only women give birth

Bit harsh. You’ve been together a decade and he’s only been poorly twice? Can’t you just indulge him this once? It’s not like he’s make a habit of it. Also, sounds like there could be more to this to me. Does he have health anxiety? I’ve never heard of anyone being worried in case their illness gets worse and they need emergency attention unless it’s something clearly bad.

Second time he's been ill in a decade must be rather scary? If you are used to being very well then it must not be great. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

Stop dancing around this wombat.

Seriously, he’s pathetic and you shouldn’t have pandered to him so much.

‘I need to be able to feel my symptoms in case I need to go to hospital and tell them what’s wrong’

😂 at this. I would be more sympathetic but he’s saying no to things that will make him feel better.

He should go and be ill in bed and not expect the tv off, that’s unfair.

In case he has to go to hospital?! Omfg, I would KILL him! I'd have gone out anyway and told him to go back to bed with paracetamol and a bottle of water. No TV and no outings? What kind of feeble controlling child is he? I'd be out the door, multiple dogs don't allow you to stay indoors, children's well being is even more important.

The problem here is that you're indulging it.

Tomorrow tell him to take the meds or fuck off to bed. Rope to guide him to the toilet indeed

‘Wombat’

Just talk to him, OP...he needs a bit of love, but he also needs to be told he is being a ....wombat! Humour helps

@SitOnMyHouse well you sound ghastly. This is the second time he has been ill in ten years, he still wants his children around him as he doesn’t get to see them as much as he would like and he is met with a wife entirely unsympathetic as you, poor chap. I would hope and expect if you were under the weather for the second time in ten years he would support you in a far more kindly fashion

And there was me thinking that having children was a partnership of two loving adults raising their children in a loving and caring environment

I would have told him to stop moaning, take some meds and fuck off to bed if he's that ill.
Not that ill, great let's crack on with ....

And rope? Nope. Walk slowly and feel around him or crawl.

I need to be able to feel my symptoms in case I need to go to hospital and tell them what’s wrong

He sounds a complete twat. I would have lost my shit by now.

Kids needs come before a parent with a cold. They don't deserve to be cooped up in the fucking house all day in total silence to pander to a manchild.

Being ill = bed
He is BVU and a selfish sod

How is it ghastly to offer medicine and a day in bed? I guarantee 90% of mums don’t get those offered to them when they’re ill...

HirooOnoda
So it's perfectly acceptable to expose everyone else in the house then, including the children who have just recovered themselves? You would think he would have given a shit about the health of his dc's and slept it off.
Instead, the selfish git exposed them to it again. Stopped them going out. Stopped them doing normal activities around the home,

pathetic twat crouching position

Ah that well-known film about a poorly man:

'Pathetic Twat, Crouching Martyr'

Bit harsh. You’ve been together a decade and he’s only been poorly twice?

If people act like a complete and utter tool, it doesn’t matter how many times it happens. It’s still annoying and intolerable!!

Rope to guide him to the toilet indeed

That is completely ridiculous. It's not fucking Everest! Surely a bucket would have been easier? And I always go to the loo at silly o'clock, in the pitch dark, we have blackout. I know the way, don't need a light or ropes!

My DSIS or Matron, would most probably kill him if he ended up in hospital without having taken anything to help.

FFS! She tried to 'look after him' by offering him meds he refused to take. He has a cold/virus, not fucking Ebola. I've had a horrific virus/viruses for the past MONTH now. You take ibu and paracetamol, spray your nose with saline and Sudafed or Beconase, go to bed if need be and crack on, not expect everyone to dance round you and pander to it!

So is he going to work? I wonder how they'll pander to it? They'll tell him to go home and take paracetamol!

I'd have just taken the kids out.

A rope to the toilet? Gimme a fucking break.

I had to rig him up a rope, like in Bird Box, from bed to the toilet as it was too painful for him to open his eyes

😂😂. FFS and you put up with this shit? Have a talk to yourself and while you're there have a firm chat with your DH. 🙄

@TheFifthKey your guarantee is merely a sad reflection on society today I am afraid. I am a mother and have and would expect such support every time I have been unfortunate enough to be unwell - it was my understanding that a healthy relationship was supposed to be this way.

@poster theworldistoosmall two. Times. In. Ten. Years 🙄
What do you think the response would be if he left the marital home for a week would be? Please try not to project your own issues on to something that is not only entirely reasonable but actually quite sweet in a pathetic kind of loving DH way - god forbid you ever got ill (in ten years...)

I am afraid. I am a mother and have and would expect such support every time I have been unfortunate enough to be unwell

Tbf it's pretty obvious that someone who thinks this behaviour is perfectly fine probably does the dying swan thing themselves while demanding all-sorts and refusing medication to make them more comfortable.