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Stupid argument, but who was at fault?

39 replies

Teaonthebedsheets · 06/01/2019 09:58

Person A, holding a cup of tea, walked behind Person B, getting something out of a chest of drawers. Person B elbowed the tea cup and tea spilled all over the bed. Who is at fault?

Person A
Person B
Both of them

One party to this may have been hormonal and I know it's very silly but it's the principle of the thing!

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 06/01/2019 09:59

No one. It was an accident.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 06/01/2019 10:00

Neither really, just an accident.

MrsDannyRicc · 06/01/2019 10:00

It was clearly an accident. Why did blame matter? Confused

Nothisispatrick · 06/01/2019 10:00

It was an accident but I would say person A was at fault.

ToftheB · 06/01/2019 10:00

Neither, just one of those things. No need to blame one person, just both help tidy up.

Returnofthesmileybar · 06/01/2019 10:01

Well nobody it's just one of those things but if you made choose then A I suppose

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 06/01/2019 10:01

Neither. It’s an accident. If I were A though I’d usually speak up and say ‘stay still, coming through with tea’ but not doing so doesn’t make them at fault either.

NotANotMan · 06/01/2019 10:02

Person A should have said something to person B when walking behind them, obviously

Pachyderm1 · 06/01/2019 10:03

It was an accident, and doesn’t need blame apportioned. If you’re looking to avoid it happening again then person A could leave more space and person B could try and be more aware of their surroundings, but accidents will still happen.

sackrifice · 06/01/2019 10:04

Tea in bed, how decadent.

We keep food and drinks downstairs, exactly for this reason.

BaronessBomburst · 06/01/2019 10:04

Person A was foolish to have walked behind someone who was clearly doing something. They should have waited.

Original poster
Teaonthebedsheets · 06/01/2019 10:04

Interesting responses so far.

Our relationship is a game of petty one upmanship, naturally, MrsDannyRicc.

I'm chalking this one up to hormones as I was A!

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rainbowstardrops · 06/01/2019 10:05

I agree it was just an accident but if I had to appoint blame then it would be A. They shouldn't have got so close to B especially as they were holding a cup of tea.
Were you A or B op? Grin

cariadlet · 06/01/2019 10:06

Best not to try and apportion blame, but if it's anyone then it's person A: they were behind person B so should have let person B know that they were coming through and shouldn't have got to close. Person A could see that person A was getting something out so could have predicted that some elbow movement would be involved.

JustJoinedRightNow · 06/01/2019 10:06

Sorry OP but this one was A’s fault. I’m willing to bet B said something along the lines of “I haven’t got eyes in the back of my head, how was I to know you were behind me with a cup of tea?”

Cuntcuntcunt · 06/01/2019 10:07

Person A.

The should’ve told B they were coming through.

Spieluhr · 06/01/2019 10:07

It was an accident so there's no real fault but I'd say Person A is more to blame as it isn't a good idea to walk behind him someone without letting them know that you're there.

HotSauceCommittee · 06/01/2019 10:09

It depends how close person B was. If person A was like those dicks in shops and supermarkets who suddenly step back into you while you were looking ahead and walking in a straight line and then look affronted at you because the can’t believe that another person would be their, in a public space while they were walking backwards and YOU haven’t apologised to THEM for it, then person A.
If person B was being ridiculous with a hot drink, almost squeezing by with inches to spare, then it’s on person B.

lostinjapan · 06/01/2019 10:09

Person A is more to blame.

But it’s not something that should cause an argument.

HotSauceCommittee · 06/01/2019 10:10

Ah shit, I got A and B mixed up. Apologies.

Quartz2208 · 06/01/2019 10:10

So once it happened who immediately tried to apportion blame rather than thinking it was an accident.

Because if you as person A tried to blame person B who actually did not do anything wrong apart from move at the wrong time - yes you are to blame

if person B immediately went on the defensive and tried to make out it was A fault rather than going oh dear and starting the clean up

lovely36 · 06/01/2019 10:12

I don't think it was anyone's fault.. I say it was an accident. Getting angry over that seems silly however I know how tense little things can get.

sahknowme · 06/01/2019 10:12

Where's the neither of them. In reality, the non-hormonal one should take the blame for now.

Original poster
Teaonthebedsheets · 06/01/2019 10:13

Oh, both of us Quartz2208 but that's just the kind of people we are - belligerent!

Husband is really celebrating as Person B.

The worst bit is that he only changed the bed linen yesterday so it was still crisp and clean Blush

Any way, I'm taking a heavy slice of humble pie and taking us out for brunch!

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JennyHolzersGhost · 06/01/2019 10:22

A should have said to B ‘scuse me coming through’ or somesuch.

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