I am a single mother to a 7 year old, who I am so proud of and to be honest I’m quite lucky with as she is a bit cheeky but well behaved. Anyway we do spend lot of time together just us and today my friend Came round for dinner. My daughter see’s weekend nights as our nights (she stays with her dad every other Saturday) and expressed she wasn’t impressed. My daughter was showing off and being a bit cheeky and had Told me she does not love me anymore. I told her I felt sad about that . A bit later she asked for more sweets and I said no, she then again told me she didn’t love me. She became very cheeky and wouldn’t share her popcorn with my guest and then threw it. SO I told her she needs to go and think about her behavior in her room. Then the trouble started she started being really rude, i couldn’t even talk to my friend. She kept coming in saying she didn’t want to be there. I told her if she was to come in she’s should stop crying Ans be nice or she goes back to her room. By then she became stubborn and said no. So I said enough, brush your teeth and go to bed bed. She then started screaming really loud and hysterically saying she didn’t love me and I wasn’t her mum anymore, she wasn’t going goinh bed. She pushed me. I then told her if she didn’t get to bed I would be removing her iPad for good , I told her I was really disappointed in this behaviors. She asked for a cuddle which I did and she asked to stay up I said no, she then started all over again. After half an hour she sat wailing in bed. I was so embarrassed about this it was awful!
Now I’m worried I have a damaged child.
I’m more worried as I have recently had to stop seeing my mum because she was screaming and shouting in front of my daughter whenever I said no to her, and on one occasion told my child I was a bully. My daughter is close to her but my mum kept on doing this behavior and after the third occasion I finally learnt it’s not going to get any better and I have such bad anxiety about the effect it could have on my child.
I have tried speaking with my mum but she says that it’s not that bad and minimizes it, she can’t think or see how it effects her so there’s no chance of it getting better.
Could the 2 be related? What do I do about it to help her? I have since gone in and spoken with her that things should never get to that level where people call someone names say they don’t love someone and that In our little family that is unacceptable.
I already feel like Iv failed my child as I kept allowing my mum back into our lives and she kept doing the same thing 3 times. It’s been really hard to keep away as ultimately I want my daughter to have a family but I had to weigh up what is worse not having my mum involved or having someone scream obscenities at me in front of my child. I’m feeling really useless right now and like I have failed as a mum. She is in bed crying now and I hate her feeling so sad and angry like this 😢 Has anyone had anything like this?