AIBU to ask if you would have done anything differenty BEFORE having children?

[Cakeandbake229]

Came up in conversation with a close friend over coffee today!

I do not have dc but friend with dc wished that she would have fixed the relationship with her family before getting pregnant and also started a savings pot earlier!

I wish I had understood how expensive childcare was going to be (would have saved more and for my self into a slightly more secure postion careerwise) Would have spent much less time worrying about whether I would be able to conceive.

These are brilliant tips.

I am approaching 29 and i'm getting the annoying comments like 'so when are you getting engaged and having children?' and I think, how an earth do people think I can afford a house, a wedding and children!

Trying to save as much as possible whilst in the position to do so and I gather from previous comments this is something that quite a few wish they did before having children!

Starfish28 interesting comment about spending less time worrying that you may not conceive, this is a regular worry of mine and even though I am only young I feel under pressure to get as much done as possible before having children and not waiting too long where I may not be able to conceive. I worry about this quite a lot!

Made sire o had a career behind me, I'm a childminder now and have loved having the time at home with my kids but they are at school now and there is no progression with my job, hopefully will retrain as a midwife in a few years, I'm still you yet .

Young, not you

cakeandbake229 obviously this isn’t everyone’s journey but I worried throughout my mid to late 20s that I wouldn’t be able to conceive. It was such wasted energy because it happened so quickly in the end. I’m a natural worrier so I’m sure I would have found something else to focus my worry on. But in the end I was completely fine.

I had my first at 21 but i imagine i would have panicked endlessly about infertility if i had waited till my late 30s. But it would have been much more sensible to take care of career and finances first.