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To ask, if you are slim, what do you think about?

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Whatchathink · 05/01/2019 01:11

I am overweight. Very overweight. My weight preoccupies most of my thinking to the point where it is habitual- what will I be eating today? How many calories? How fat am I? Why can’t I just lose weight? Etc, etc etc . And on it goes.

I’m now thinking that these thoughts have become so much of life that if I were to lose weight, what would i actually think about all day? I would in a strange way, miss that fat voice!

So my question is, if you are slim, what do you think about? Does food just not really register at all in your thoughts?

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Ellapaella · 05/01/2019 23:25

I am slim and think about my weight most days. Not obsessively but I do consider it when I'm thinking about what I'm going to eat that day etc. I don't weigh myself very often and use how my clothes feel as more of a judge of my weight. I also exercise regularly because I want to keep a healthy and stable weight.
I have had a borderline eating disorder in my late teens - I had very obsessive thinking about food then, I calorie counted everything I ate, everyday, weighed myself daily and obsessed over it. The obsessive thinking seemed to stop when I became pregnant with my first child when I was 22.
I eat what I want now but in moderation and thoughts of food and weight don't occupy much of my thoughts at all these days.

ChristmasSprite · 06/01/2019 01:18

I have to say I would be agreement with kiki s post that I would notice if a friend had gone from an 8 to an 18 and would be worried about the effect on their health.

People do notice others shapes, sizes, eye colour, hair style, male or female, everything about everyone they come across and those they just watch.

Mainly with fat I look with concern at fat people, and me when I'm fat.

I suppose it depends on your attitude. For me, its a health issue, as can be being underweight.

Blondie1994 · 06/01/2019 01:37

Think about food all the time one true love i am blessed to have a fast metabolism and think about my appearance and new out fit etc etc theses are not my predominant thoughts but in relation to your question x

Tinkofhousepan · 06/01/2019 01:39

I am slim again now. I've gone from 11st in May to 9st now. I can honestly say that I think about food all the time. But it's more meal planning than feeling I'm missing out. I use myfitnesspal and eat what I like as long as I stay within my calories for that day

ForInstance · 07/01/2019 23:29

OP, I completely get your question. I have struggled with my feelings about my weight for years now, since before puberty. FWIW I have fluctuated during that time between normal BMI range and slightly overweight, so it sounds as though I’m different from you in that respect. However, I am completely with you on the way in which this dominates my every waking thought - it’s exhausting. I would have said the same up until 9 months ago when I found out I was pregnant. Almost from the second I found out, it was as though those thoughts had dropped out of my head entirely - it was immensely liberating and I found my mental health and general mood were better throughout pregnancy than they had ever been. A weird and unanticipated side effect! DS is now 7 weeks and sadly I can feel the thoughts returning and am not looking forward to that at all. Just sharing in case of interest to you. I wish you all the best x

SushiMonster · 07/01/2019 23:39

I’m slim but I think about food a lot. I like eating.

BackforGood · 07/01/2019 23:47

I am no longer slim, but was from my teens until my late 40s.

I never really thought about food - other than if I were looking at a menu when out, or when writing my shopping list before heading out to do the weekly shop. Food has always been what you consume at meal times. End of. Never used any head space on it.

Holdingoutforalotterywin · 07/01/2019 23:56

I am about a size six sometimes eight. I don’t really think about food. I can get to about three o’clock and realise I haven’t eaten and am actually starving. But I had very disordered eating for most of my life and I think maybe I just lost the natural instinct to recognise when I am hungry. When I do realise it, I tend to eat crap because I am starving and can’t be bothered to cook anything. I don’t think this is good -but I am no longer obsessive about what I eat and my size and at the moment I will take that. In time I am hoping to get to a place where I am planning meals etc. Instead I think about work, friends, live life etc. Food just doesn’t really cross my mind as I said unless I realise I am hungry

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 07/01/2019 23:58

I am slim and I think about food all the time

Cantbelieveit101 · 08/01/2019 00:15

Usually each day what exercise I will be doing, what I am going to eat/cook for lunch dinner.

Pollypopit · 08/01/2019 00:23

I think how uncomfortable it would be to gain weight (sorry but it's true). I feel able to keep active eat what I want (well vegan wise) without worrying about my future health. I'm a size 6 naturally petite

TeddybearBaby · 08/01/2019 05:05

My life revolves around food. What we’re having and when all day. It’s really important to me that the kids enjoy food and have a bit of all the food groups. A day out will have me planning food throughout as well, it means I have to be really strict with myself because I’d love to eat it all. It doesn’t make me feel good overindulging though. Afterwards I feel shit. I drink lots of water which fills me up and being in control a bit actually gives me a sense of strength. It’s so hard to get to that point though.

What do I think about....... work, all the things I need to do, my kids. I remember having an obsession with relationships and if I was in the right one. I’d look at everyone else and think they were happier than me and made better choices. I asked my friend what other people think about cos I couldn’t imagine not being consumed by these thoughts all day every day. Sounds how you feel. I’m 5ft3 and size 8 if that’s relevant.

Smotheroffive · 09/01/2019 01:33

I actually hate feeling fat, it makes me feel horribly dragged down, constricted in my clothes,my boobs bulging out of my bras and the wires cutting across them, and generally bloatey, and yuk.

I really don't like the full heavy feeling, so when I get fat I make sure I feel that empty hungry feeling a lot. That in itself makes me feel lighter.

The most difficult bit ifor me is keeping turning out lots of good meals for straving teens, yet not eating so much myself.

I love planning yummy meals, and eating them!

We all cook as a family, a lot, I think it creates a happy healthy relationship with food and is part of growing independence.

For us its an enjoyable socialising time when no-one looks at screens!

Smotheroffive · 09/01/2019 01:35

Always have a much smaller portion than the teens tho, and often miss out the toast bit of a cooked breakfast, or the potato on a dinner for instance too.

BetsyBigNose · 09/01/2019 01:42

I used to be 18.5 stone (I'm 5'3") and I totally get what you mean about it occupying your every thought. I'm now around 9.5 stone (having dropped to just under 7 at my lowest) as I have been very unwell for the last few years.

To answer your question, in my case, worries and thoughts about my health and what I am and am not able to do in terms of energy levels occupy my thoughts these days, but I do wonder what I'd think about if I didn't have that to worry about!

I do spend more time faffing about on MN these days though...

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