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To ask if height matters to you?

88 replies

Bananafritter · 04/01/2019 22:23

Just that really!

A friend was taking a picture of DP and I at a NY party and told me to “bend my knees a bit” as we looked the same height!

He is only about an inch taller than me (he’s about average height, I’m quite tall) which doesn’t bother me at all but I was just wondering if any women still cared much about their DP’s being taller than them?

I think it’s a funny thing to bother about really but everyone has their preferences I suppose

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Bluntness100 · 04/01/2019 22:58

I couldn't be doing with being the hefty one in the relationship

No me neither. I have friend whose partner can only be described as petite. He is small and thin. She is average height and build. Honestly when you see them it's like she's bringing her baldy son to visit. You've just got to try and not think about the sex thing. 🤣

Butchyrestingface · 04/01/2019 22:58

This thread reads like a meet up group for us 5 ft 2ers, evidently the best height to be. 😍

I dream of being 5 ft 4 though

FreshlyWashed · 04/01/2019 22:58

I'm another taller than average woman who feels a bit less comfortable with a shorter partner.

For me, it's not about feeling protected with a taller man, it's feeling smaller/less galumphing myself.

Bluntness100 · 04/01/2019 23:00

For me, it's not about feeling protected with a taller man, it's feeling smaller/less galumphing myself

Totally agree. I don't need or wish to feel protected, I just don't want to feel like the big one.

creamcheeseandlox · 04/01/2019 23:02

Butchy I like being short. I remember starting secondary school and I was one of the tallest even more than the boys. And by the end of year 7 I was one of the shortest...don't think I've grown since I was 13/14tbh!!

IHaveBrilloHair · 04/01/2019 23:03

No, my ex is 5'2, as was I until I broke my back and shrank a couple of inches.
He's the most gorgeous and loveliest man ever.

OnlineAlienator · 04/01/2019 23:05

I'm 5ft7 and yes, superficially attracted to 6ft+ men. However, i don't rule out shorter men. I think iv actually rarely slept with 6ft+ men and long term relationships have been with 5ft10 men. Lol.

Guineapiglet345 · 04/01/2019 23:07

My DH is about 2 inches shorter than me and neither of us noticed until someone else pointed it out, it really doesn’t matter.

Butchyrestingface · 04/01/2019 23:07

And by the end of year 7 I was one of the shortest...don't think I've grown since I was 13/14tbh!!

I haven't either, but was never tall at any stage in my childhood. Started my periods when I was nearly 14 and don't think I ever grew vertically after that. Sad

NewishMum85 · 04/01/2019 23:08

It doesn't bother me but bothers DH. He's ~3" taller than me and doesn't like me wearing heels because it makes him look short. I'm not going to complain though as heels are so uncomfortable!

OnlineAlienator · 04/01/2019 23:08

Any women here wish they were taller? One if my exes made a massive deal about me being too tall even tho i was 3in shorter Hmm insecure twat and at the time i was young and stupid and felt bad. Ever since i've wished i was actually taller, like both of my 5ft11 sisters Envy

Shantotto · 04/01/2019 23:09

I’m 6ft (and three quarters!) and if I only dated guys taller than me and Inwould I’ve had about two boyfriends in my whole life. I guess I just didn’t meet many or they were all taken by women a good foot shorter.Grin

It’s never bothered me at all, however when I used to do a lot of online dating I did have a couple of guys change their mind about meeting and told me it was because I was taller. Their loss!

Thesearmsofmine · 04/01/2019 23:10

I’m only 5ft but have always been attracted to men much taller than me, I don’t know why, the same as I find dark haired men attractive. DH is around 6ft2.

Kernowgal · 04/01/2019 23:10

I’m tall; my ex was a couple of inches shorter than me and he had a big problem with it, constantly comparing us. Though that was just one of his many issues. Like others, I’ve always had comments about my height, and in the past it made me feel like a circus freak. I love it now.

I would prefer someone the same height or taller, but only a few inches taller. I had a fling with a guy who was 6’4 and he was too tall for me.

Elfinablender · 04/01/2019 23:12

Yes, I'd love to be taller. Another 3 or 4 inches would be ideal. I'd love to be all tall and willowy and less milkmaid-like.

Bluntness100 · 04/01/2019 23:12

I've reached an age where I'm happy at five eight but growing up I wanted to be small and petite. I wouldn't now, I think it's easier to buy clothes if you're taller, and I think it can give you a bit more gravitas at work.

nimski · 04/01/2019 23:12

I'm 6ft and the only man I've ever been out with who was taller than me was the one I married! Was a bonus rather than a pre-requisite Wink

ComeTheFuck0nBridget · 04/01/2019 23:12

DH is 5" shorter than me. I regularly wear heels too. It's never been an issue for us. DH is the manliest man I've ever met, and I always thought I wanted the feeling of being small and protected and I 100% get that from him.

Fatted · 04/01/2019 23:12

As another short woman, I do prefer taller men purely so that they can reach the things on the shelves I can't etc.

If it makes you feel better OP, I have been stood on a box before now so I was the same height as DH in pictures! So not sure where the idea of needing to be smaller comes from?!

MaisyPops · 04/01/2019 23:12

It doesn't bother me, but then there's not many guys who are shorter than me. I prefer men who are taller (5ft10+) but not super tall.
We all have our preferences on who we are attracted too. Getting someone to bob down in a photo seems a bit unusual to me though. Surely everyone they know will know who is taller?

MapMyMum · 04/01/2019 23:13

A family friend said to me at my wedding that she had forgotten how short my dh was...stupid bitch, never liked her much anyway!! Dh is 5"8 and I am 5"6, it never has bothered me in the slightest that he isnt near 6" or whatever height he is "supposed" to be in order to be considered manly. My dh however is loving and kind hers leaves car engines on the kitchen table and is in general a bit of a dick so I'll take my "short" dh over her a**hole any day!

Drogosnextwife · 04/01/2019 23:17

@mindutopia

I'm exactly the same, 5ft 9/10 bigger than everyone at school, my dp is 6ft 3, I actually wear heels now (still check to make sure he's still a couple of inches bigger than me before we go out though) Don't care if I'm bigger than everyone else now 😂

Jsmith99 · 04/01/2019 23:17

I’m 5’11, I like being tall and I have had relationships with people who are shorter, the same height as and taller than me.

I don’t have a problem with guys who are shorter than me unless they are shallow enough to be insecure about it. Any man who asked me not to wear heels would be shown the door very quickly. This is an excellent arsehole test Wink.

Belindabauer · 04/01/2019 23:20

I almost disregarded dp because he isn't tall and in my mind I wanted a tall man(no idea why ).
He is 4 inches taller than me and the most like-minded person I have ever met.
So glad I agreed to meet him.

tabulahrasa · 04/01/2019 23:23

“Any women here wish they were taller?“

I’m 5 ft 7 1/2... I’d prefer to either be properly tall or shorter, it’s an annoying height, things like I’m too tall for standard length trousers, but not tall enough for tall ones.

My DP is 5 ft 9, so we’re about the same height roughly and I’m taller than him when I wear heels, that’s not an issue though and tbh if someone said to crouch because we looked the same height I’d probably say, well we more or less are... so...