DP hates a male friend of mine, he feels this guy let’s say Bob belittle him, saying bob will see me whenever he wants too, DP gave me ultimatum and I chose DP thinking it was silly, DP was jealous, and obviously insecure I was going to cheat on him with Bob!
This Bob is part of my closest friendship group, I couldn’t go to NYE party as DP was so stressed his OCD/anxiety was through roof, he couldn’t work he lost easily 75% of earnings - self employed!
Bob I knew through group - wasn’t closest but saw him in group events once every other month, but at start of relationship with DP, I saw bob more than DP and DP felt he was acting more my DP at the time!
I left DP house and went to see bob, i didn’t text and tell DP I was going home earlier as didn’t want to wait for DP to finish work! So DP freaked out and thought I did something stupid and then found out I was with bob, DP lost temper, DP was concerned for my MH, so was concerned with Bob I did drink A lot,
And I never felt Bob was coming on to me, DP always feel like if I with Bob I be cheating on him or laughing at DP!
Bob had backed off and he is civil anytime he seen DP.
NYE PARTY Bob was going to be there like my closet friend group!
DP - felt as it was NYE it was special didn’t want me anywhere near bob as it would ruin DP NY.
DP a taxi driver, so he would be working, but if I was at party, he be freaking out and wouldn’t earn much!
So WIBU to offer DP his NYE wage to spend NYE with DP?
Or WPBU to expect me not to hang out with bob due to DP paranoia of me cheating on DP with Bob