holiday plans and daughter pregnant

[Gramsinturmoil]

Am in turmoil re my daughters pregnancy and my planned/booked holiday!
My daughter is 12 weeks pregnant , the problem? her due date is smack bang in the middle of my planned 3 month overseas trip. She has listened to me plan this trip and an ensuing 12 month extended travel plans and didn't say a word..i booked, paid and confirmed travel arrangements prior to being told!
I am very torn with what to do :( my partner is looking forward to me joining him but feel like I should be here :(

I am currently overdue and my PIL are away on a long planned holiday a 12 hour flight away. They'd booked the flights before we conceived and we didn't want to tell anyone at all about the pregnancy until we'd had the 12 week scan, so we did know they were likely to miss the birth while they were finalising it. They really want to go on this trip and it's their choice to spend a month away. It was also our choice to announce the baby at the right time for us. Your daughter's decision is not about you.

Go! Plenty of us don't have family nearby or family has passed away and we manage just fine.

Even if you're close, this isn't her first baby, she has a partner and she probably thinks she'll be fine, that's likely why she didn't tell you until after you booked. Maybe she also wants you to go enjoy yourself?

My Mother didn't see our daughter until she was a month old. It wasn't a big deal. Babies don't do much the first 6 months.

" pop back when baby is here for a few days, if you want to."

Shouldn't that be-if her daughter wants her to?

I am really close with my mum but she didn’t meet my DD until she was 4 weeks old, her visiting would have caused me practical issues so we agreed that the four week mark would be ok, they are super close, it’s not prevented them from having a great bond.

Talk to your DD, offer to change plans but listen to her response

MIL (nor any of my inlaws) didn't meet DC4 until he was 6 months old.

We live a 1.45 hour drive away. We were testing whether the M4 goes in both directions but apparently it only does when we drive on it.