To think no, I am not too young

[RedEyedGirl]

I am 27, and been with my OH for 9 years. We live together, are looking for a house to buy, and are engaged.

I received a comment today from a woman I work with. She asked me about my engagement ring, and then how old I was, how long we'd been together etc. When I said we'd been together since we were 18 she said, "that's young. But even now, you're still too young to get married."

I am a bit offended. She may be in her late 30s, but she has known her husband for only 4 years (so less time than I have known my OH), and had a baby after knowing him less than a year. Yet I am 'too young' despite knowing my partner for nearly a decade

AIBU to think age doesn't matter? It's not like we are not teenagers.

I mean, a friend of mine is marrying today aged 27 and everyone thinks she’s bonkers but it’s absolutely nothing to do with her age. She’s known the guy for less than a year and is pregnant so it’s all very shotgun style. I also know the guy from a previous job I had and he already has two children to two women, the odds are not in their favour for it to last.

You, on the other hand, sound stable . 27 definitely is not too young.

l'd be inclined to point out that the Queen was 22 when she got married....

I think that is an odd comment too. I got married at 26, but nobody said that I was too young. It seems strange, but it's just one person. Ignore!

Maybe she thinks you haven't had the opportunity to "sew your wild oats" by being with someone from age 18.

^This. And I agree with that. You are not too young to get married though.

I got married at 24. Lots of my friends got married in their 20s.

Caroline

I got married at 27, first house at 22, DS at 28, DD at 31.

I don't think this is particularly unusual at all (oh and been with DH since 17).

YANBU!

No, of course you're not too young. What a silly comment.

Don't worry sweetie, I got that shit in the 1990's (one from a neighbour of my parents, and one work colleague, and even a bloody cousin who was 10 years older than me, who got married at 19,) when I married my DH at around the same age. Then stupid comments about how it was too soon to have a baby from a few people (including them,) when I got pregnant several years later.

I even got a bizarre comment from a woman I knew from school - I swear I am not making this up - when I announced I was pregnant, saying 'oh my God, you've had sex.' with a stupid grin

I was like 'er yeah, I am knocking the door of 30, I have been married several years, YES I have had sex.' Don't know whether SHE was a virgin (at 25-ish,) or whether she thought it strange that I wasn't. Fooking weirdo!

Congratulations to you both @RedEyedGirl and I hope you will both be happy.

People just want to have something to say I think, even if it's nonsense.

I had my first DC at 29 and was asked "how does it feel to be a young mum" !!

I’ve been with my DH since I was 18, married at 22.... that was 28 years ago! Very happy! Take no notice of the busybody!

I had my 1st DD at 21 and was married by 22. By 27 I'd completed my family and had 4 kids.

No one else's business but yours.

l'd be inclined to point out that the Queen was 22 when she got married....

Ah yes, a great example of a happy marriage, from the person in the country who is least able to get divorced or even express unhappiness, and who got married in the 1940s.