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In hospital overnight with DS - furious with “D”P

43 replies

DonaldDucksTowel · 02/01/2019 18:48

I’m so fucking annoyed but don’t have energy to do it out loud atm

DS1 has a massive asthma attack and I took him to A&E at around 2am, he was actually in a really bad way and it took steroids, 6 nebulisers and 2 litres of oxygen to stabilise his breathing enough to get him onto a ward
After all that and a sleep he improved almost as rapidly as he went down and we were sent home at 5pm

So I get home, after spending the night stressed, worried, not having a wink of sleep, being absolutely freezing the whole time, not had a wash and generally just a bit of a mess and “D”P actually said that footballs on tonight so I can put the 2 babies in bed 😳
What. The. Fuck!
I’ve got to give DS1 meds all through the night and obviously I’ll be watching him like a hawk so why the fuckety fuck would he think that because I was home he was done and could chill out to watch football?!
Would your first reaction to me not to make me a cup of tea and say, go and have a hot bath and get you two in bed I’ll sort the others
Just a giant selfish self centred twatting fucking arsehole
I’m fuming
But knackered so I just told him to go fuck himself and got in the bath

AngryAngryAngryAngryAngry

OP posts:
Biscuitsneeded · 02/01/2019 18:50

Tell him he can record the football and watch it later.

Purpleartichoke · 02/01/2019 18:52

You had the correct response.

Happy to see you stood up for yourself.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 02/01/2019 18:52

YANBU. Does your DP understand just how ill DS1 was?

Polly99 · 02/01/2019 18:52

Good for you.

Has your husband ever spent the night in hospital with your son? I hope your son doesn’t need to go in again, but if he ever does perhaps your husband should stay with him so that your husband gains an apppreciation of how exhausting and stressful it can be.

Jackshouse · 02/01/2019 18:52

Text him and explain that you are exhausted and expecting another night with very little sleep so he needs to look after the other kids and make you some dinner.

RomanyRoots · 02/01/2019 18:53

Record footy he's a parent now and needs to act like one.
My dh used to do everything and completely run the place when I was in hospital with ds2 asthma attacks.
He did it because he loves me, and cares a fig about our children.
Why do women settle for useless men?

lemonsorbetinthesun · 02/01/2019 18:54

I hope your DS gets better soon!!

Make him do the meds tonight, you need a rest.

looktothewesternsky · 02/01/2019 19:08

Go and fuck yourself was the exact response you should've given. Well done. What a twat. Hopefully he's realised what a knob he was!

gimmeadoughnut123 · 02/01/2019 19:11

Well done for your response.

I think I would have taken the power cable for the tv for good measure and hidden it -just because I'm petty-

Nanny0gg · 02/01/2019 19:11

Record it?

I'd take a hammer to the Sky box...

gimmeadoughnut123 · 02/01/2019 19:11

My strikethrough didn't work, whoopsie

HomeEdRocks18 · 02/01/2019 19:21

If I was you I'd cut the plug off the TV

thebaronetofcockburn · 02/01/2019 19:22

What a nobber! YANBU.

LannieDuck · 02/01/2019 19:22

Do you trust your DP generally?

If so, I would say that he should be administering the night-time medicine and watching DS like a hawk overnight, and your turn for a proper sleep.

Knittedfairies · 02/01/2019 19:26

Given his reaction to the situation, I’m not at all sure I could trust him to stay awake to give the night-time medication.

Bound · 02/01/2019 19:27

If my DH acted like that he wouldn’t be my DH for long. Twat.

Serialweightwatcher · 02/01/2019 19:29

Selfish sod Angry ... him obviously

masterandmargarita · 02/01/2019 19:30

Bloody football obsessives always try to put their needs first

JamieOliversChickenNugget · 02/01/2019 19:30

I'd have had the same reaction. Idiot. That's very early to be discharged though, my son was hospitalised for 5 days after a bad asthma attack. Although they couldn't get on top of the breathlessness for a long time. Good luck for tonight and any worries call 999

AWishForWingsThatWork · 02/01/2019 19:38

Justifiable homicide had you killed him then and there, the twat.

Where the fuck do these selfish men come from?!

greenpop21 · 02/01/2019 19:39

Good for you. Hope DS has a speedy recovery. Flowers

brizzledrizzle · 02/01/2019 19:40

what a dick, glad you responded accordingly. Let him put the babies to bed and you watch what you want. I think your Sky box might be full so you don't have space to record the football do you?

SarahAndQuack · 02/01/2019 19:44

I agree with lannie - surely he should be the one to stay up?! You've already had one very broken night.

But you were absolutely right not to take any shit. How selfish.

Oddsocksandmeatballs · 02/01/2019 19:45

My ex used to do this regularly, it is one of the reasons he is my ex.

jessstan2 · 02/01/2019 19:46

Very selfish. He can catch up with the football later. Get him to do his bit, have a bath, something to eat and make yourself feel better.

I'm so sorry you've had such a stressful time, sounds horrendous and I hope your son is better soon.