To think it's rude not to ask a child about their Christmas

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I'm not sure if I'm just being a moaning Minnie or if my family are just downright rude.
Seen my brother and his wife yesterday at my mum's house for the first time since Christmas. It also happened to be my nieces birthday so took round a present for her. My niece made a few rude comments about her present which is annoying enough on its own but what's really annoying me is that in the hour that we were there neither my DB or DSIL asked my DC if they had a nice Christmas, if Santa came, what they got etc. Not once, no comments at all.
I was chatting away with my niece and her sisters about what they got and how their Christmas went. One of them didn't answer me but I asked her again until she did.

Honestly, I've been brewing on it all day and it's annoying me more and more. I'm realising now that it happens all the time. For example DD is big into a particular sport and she had her 1st big competition recently. I heard nothing from them after to say well done or ask her how she got on. I feel like she could win a noble prize and they still wouldn't mention it!

I've been with both my nephew's for the last 4 days, I know 1 thing that one got for Christmas as it's been in constant use, no idea about the other, or other gifts. Haven't heard sil enquire what mine have had, but wouldn't think it strange if she had.

We've all had an awesome time together, never occurred to me that anyone was rude. I think you are massively over thinking.

I don't think it's at all rude. I haven't been going round asking everyone's kids how their Christmases were and haven't had an abundance of people asking my kids either. Maybe I'm rude/we're all rude. Seems an odd thing to get worked up about

I agree. Very odd.

Asking someone over and over until they have to answer is rude though. They may have a perfectly good reason why they don't want to answer

Agreed- that is rude.

wow people give the OP a break!

Im assuming that it's not the fact they didn't ask about Christmas, its the fact that they didn't ask anything by the sounds of it? Complete lack of interest about anyone but themselves. Most people usually ask about Christmas and New Year 5 days after it, it's not an uncommon conversation at this time of year, people still have their decorations up!

It's also rude for a child to ignore their Aunt and comment negatively on a present. OP is clearly trying to have a conversation and show interest in her own niece, now that is just downright rude and her parents should not be letting her treat people like that. Should have been called out at the time.

YABU. There are plenty of other things to talk about besides Christmas. You are overthinking this.

As for the birthday girl being rude about what you gave her, yes, that was annoying especially if her parents didn't pull her up on it. But she's only 5 so there is time for her to improve.

YABU. Not exactly crime of the century is it. Sounds like you are nitpicking and looking for something to moan about.

It was rude of them if they did not engage with your dd at all, but not if they just didn’t ask about Santa. Wr don’t do Santa and are not very into Christmas so its probably not something I would ask about either.

Those saying it was rude of them not to engage with OP's dd - OP did say her dd went off to play with the birthday girl. They weren't all sitting round in one room ignoring one child - she'd gone off to play!

Why would they ask? Christmas is over and it was their daughters birthday, that's their focus.

Stop trying to find something to pick at