To wish my DC liked older/different styles of music

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Lighthearted thread

I honestly feel my parents pain now I am a parent. Does anyone else?

My DD’s are 14 and 16. Both LOVE boy bands and DD16 loves rap/hip hop. Although we don’t play instruments we are a very music orientated family - it’s always on in one or multiple rooms or the car, they discuss it all the time and I listen to their tastes (and even like a lot of them). We like going to concerts etc etc. So don’t get me wrong I am not dismissing their tastes although I really don’t ‘get’ modern hip hop, it’s all merging into the same sound

BUT I can’t get them past 2000 musically (with the exception of Michael Jackson).

So when it comes to my turn to choose a song and I want to put on something I love - anything Prince, Fleetwood Mac, Queen, soul, Motown, classical, rock or basically anything that isn’t Pop Music from the last decade (even 80’s or 90’s rap and hip hop) they are completely intolerant and don’t see the appeal, turning into Kevin the Teenager. Not even for moving lyrics or awesome guitar riffs. I secretly harbour fantasies of one hearing one of them playing Aretha or Fleetwood in their room and having a musical epiphany.

One of them said they liked Blur Song 2 earlier and I felt like it was a real change in direction

I recall my parents listening to ELO and BeeGees and me thinking oh god what crap... and now I love it!

What age were you when you started broadening your musical tastes?

My tastes really changed once I was out of my teens. I used to love boybands and 90s dance music, now I adore rock and metal, especially industrial.

Definitely when I was a teenager and started to like other music apart from current stuff.

My dm used to moan so much about the top 40 in the car when we were young and wanted to listen to classical or Radio 4.

Dcs love Fleetwood mac and dd stole(borrowed) my FM cds and my ds loves heavy metal

My Dd 12 is obsessed with the music and untimely death of tentacion xx
He's not really someone I'd like her to be obsessed with plus he's dead.
What's wrong with foo fighters?

I would be horrified if my kids liked music from my teenage years, twenty years before they were born. I didn't listen to Rosemary Clooney & Slim Whitman when I was a teenager. I shake my head when I hear about 12-year-olds listening to "classic rock" (which I myself go out of my way to avoid nowadays). I would get pretty irate about someone wanting to play Queen records in the same room/car as me.

If by "broadening your musical tastes" you mean listening to stuff other than pop/rock, that happened most significantly when I was in my early twenties (1985-86, to be precise), when the stuff being played on the radio became utterly unlistenable.

Maybe it's for the best - my DD 15 was berated at sch for listening to 'dead people's music'. She was listening to led zeppelin and pink floyd at the time and has a wide variety of music she enjoys.

Yes that’s what I mean!
Rappers really seem to have a good grasp of teenagers. Now I liked NWA and still do, but they weren’t the only thing I liked

I'm 33 became obsessed with the beatles aged 10. I'm relieved my children have similar tastes. My oldest is 15 and he has seen this year (off the top of my head) madness, greenday, stereophonics, morrisey, paul mccartney, noel and liam gallagher, rolling stones. He is massive into music and plays guitar. Next year we are going to see the eagles he last saw them when he was 9. My daughter has just got into Dolly Parton she's 8 and also plays guitar. Dh is a singer. I'm bloody relieved I don't have to hear little mix

Yeah I think I just mean broadening tastes. I am bored of a lot of what they listen to, so in the car if they choose it’s usually it’s: Ariana, Drake, Ariana, One Direction, Zayn, Juiceworld, Nicky Minaj, Ariana, British rappers I don’t even know their names, hack & jack, Calvin Harris and Rita Ora.

I don’t say it but I often think FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PLAY A SONG THAT HAS AN ACOUSTIC INSTRUMENT IN IT

I played Jefferson airplane and Queen to my 4 and 5 year old today. Hoping it sews the seeds.

I am 38. My taste in music is basically anything from 1960 onwards. It’s just not limited to 2018, where I think a lot of kids gets stuck in the here and now, so I wondered when other people started listening to other music

Also in defence of ‘dated’ music most of the artists today have been influenced by many of the artists before them, who wrote good songs that have sold millions of records - especially if you compare to today’s music where it is a based more on social media rather than album sales. Music has changed - doesn’t make older music any less relevant or influential holds FM album close to chest

Just remember what you was like as a teen, music tastes broaden with age and appreciation, even then that doesn't mean they will necessarily like what you like, I grew up in a music household with my parents having a massive record collection and my step dad even being a cheesy wedding dj to bring in extra money.

My early teens were spent listening to everything from BDP, NWA, Public enemy to then get into the indy scene, once I discovered Acid House however I went knee deep into that and ended up being a deep house dj doing some big gigs, it was me riffling through my step dads collection looking for some 70's disco etc that made me aware of other stuff like led zepplin, the who, stranglers and obscure trojan records stuff.

For all the stuff you do not "get" that they listen to, some will end up future classics, one thing you can't do though is push music tastes on someone or expect them to like what you like.

I don't have the gatekepping issue with my ds yet, as he is only 7 so listens to what i want him to listen to, but when i think about what i was like as a teen especially coming up to 16, the last thing I would ever want to acknowledge was that I liked the same music as my mum, maybe by 18 they might begrudgingly accept a little

Im asking how old other people were when they stopped loving only Take That/Donny Osmond and started liking other music. Personality i love Ariana Grande, but I also like a lot of other things too. Children can be quite restrictive to only liking new music that comes out and nothing from the past. I would say that you enjoy music across many genres and generations as a whole as you age, but wondered when it happened to other people! Is that ok....

I don’t push it - they don’t let me listen to it! Not sure anyone got that from the OP. They object. So I can’t. I am not ‘expecting’ anything to influence them it is just what I like, but they won’t listen to it. This is just youth. Again. Lighthearted not me being a pushy mother. I own headphones

My 8 year old stepdaughter is a huge Queen fan. She also knew all the words to Gold aged 5 as a teenager in the 2000s, I made mixed CDs featuring Lionel Richie, Cliff Richard and Stevie Wonder, so some people can like music outside of their time without being alienated by their peers.

Oh i know its lighthearted, but remember what you was like when you was a teen, I very much doubt you would be listening to your parents "old" music and appreciating it.

It's just an age gap thing, stick 6music on in the car or house, you might get to groove inbetween thinking WTF is this shite being played (although they don't play radio1 chart stuff so may have a problem with the boy band angle)

I think it needs to be something they grow up with.

My kids love old music, 8 year old loves Kate bush and the cranberries, the boys love the beastie boys and pink floyd!

We have a record player and music of all types is on constantly at home. I have very eclectic tastes and at their dads it's the same.

I think i would just like a 2 way thing

So my parents hated what I liked - I don’t. I sing along and have bought tickets to concerts! We seeing Shawn Mendes next year. Went to 2 concerts this year. But I think I would like them to be able to tolerate the odd song now and again that I like without complaining and retching

Also no one gets to choose the music in the car except me they can choose the music in their own car when they're old enough to drive

16y Dd has a really varied music taste and, as well as modern music, she does like a lot of older stuff too. She loves 80s soft rock some of our old university/sixth form indie stuff, even older stuff like the Beatles and Elvis. She likes musicals, and songs from films. She likes pop and rock from various years.

It's good actually. We often take it in turns in the car or in the house - everyone gets one or two songs of their choice in turn via Deezer. Also means we go to concerts together as a family or just me and Dd as well.

When my dc were teens and had music channels on all the time I remember really liking a lot of the stuff they were listening to which I would never have come across otherwise. I still have a soft spot for Wheatus, Fall out Boy, Good Charlotte, Blink 182, Green Day and Foo Fighters to name a few. I often wonder what gems I’m missing out on nowadays ( not enough to go back to music blaring all day though.)

Your Op is hilarious. You're the older generation! They exist to defy/rebel against you and what you like. That's the natural order of things.

I've been to a huge variety of gigs (including Fleetwood Mac with 12 year old and Springsteen with 9 year old) with my children, ranging from upstairs rooms in pubs to big stadiums. I think I first took them to a festival at about five.