To wish my DC liked older/different styles of music

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Lighthearted thread

I honestly feel my parents pain now I am a parent. Does anyone else?

My DD’s are 14 and 16. Both LOVE boy bands and DD16 loves rap/hip hop. Although we don’t play instruments we are a very music orientated family - it’s always on in one or multiple rooms or the car, they discuss it all the time and I listen to their tastes (and even like a lot of them). We like going to concerts etc etc. So don’t get me wrong I am not dismissing their tastes although I really don’t ‘get’ modern hip hop, it’s all merging into the same sound

BUT I can’t get them past 2000 musically (with the exception of Michael Jackson).

So when it comes to my turn to choose a song and I want to put on something I love - anything Prince, Fleetwood Mac, Queen, soul, Motown, classical, rock or basically anything that isn’t Pop Music from the last decade (even 80’s or 90’s rap and hip hop) they are completely intolerant and don’t see the appeal, turning into Kevin the Teenager. Not even for moving lyrics or awesome guitar riffs. I secretly harbour fantasies of one hearing one of them playing Aretha or Fleetwood in their room and having a musical epiphany.

One of them said they liked Blur Song 2 earlier and I felt like it was a real change in direction

I recall my parents listening to ELO and BeeGees and me thinking oh god what crap... and now I love it!

What age were you when you started broadening your musical tastes?

Thinking about it, isn't The Chain on the Guardians of the Galaxy soundtrack? That will pull people in.

15. I. Switched from synth pop to heavy rock. Upbringing was everything from classic to mor. Did the same with my two, now eldest can share his modern stuff with dh who loves all that crap, moan at my choices but strangely sing along with every 70's disco song out there!

Was the only kid in his class to pick up Smoke on the Water in his music class at school, just from the intro

I was in my early twenties when I began broadening my musical tastes. I will listen to almost anything now, but I just can't wrap my head around American country music.

I’m pleased to say that both of my sons won’t listen to the “music of today,” although they seem to be familiar with it. My 13-year-old is into Michael McDonald and the Doobie Brothers, and he has been listening to ‘80s music lately, too.

When my older son (now he’s 16) was 8, he asked me one day why we only listened to my music and I told him quite frankly that it was better than the music of today. He said it wasn’t fair and that he should listen to his music. I was cooking dinner with a Zeppelin CD playing, so I turned it off and turned the radio to one of those “current” music stations. We listened to a song for five minutes, and then another song came on that sounded exactly like the previous one. My son asked, “What IS this?” and I said, “This is your music.” He literally said, “Turn it off. Put Led Zeppelin back on.”

Honestly, though, there are some songs around today that are not half bad. I heard “Get Lucky” by Daft Punk on the car radio for the first time last year (o.k., the song is like six years old by now) and I liked it, but was embarrassed to ask my 16-year-old who did the song. So I remembered some lyrics and Googled it, and lo and behold, I found out that Nile Rodgers of Chic had a hand in it.

I knew there was a reason I liked it!

I was born in the 80's
I love Elvis Presley, George Michael, Debbie Harry. I grew up in the 90's so I love trance, progressive house, classical. I'm not a huge fan of Arianna Grande, Sean mendes BUT I can appreciate a good song when I hear it. Music snobbery really baffles me

My 17yo & 19yo LOVE 90s music & earlier, listen to loads. Fig me. They find The Doors tedious, though. philistines

Recent developments for them, though. And I have yet to get them to appreciate Rush.

I can't stand Fleetwood Mac, or not Stevie Nix, anyway. Maybe I need to try more obscure FM tracks.

Meh, their music taste will change with age. Not a whole lot of adult women listen to their favorite boy bands of their youth except for the nostalgia vibe they get from it.

My dd (22) now has quite a varied music taste now thankfully!....she grew up listening to S club 7 and Steps ...her choice I may add! but will listen to anything from Eminem , rap, folk, indie , rock to Michael Buble!....loves 80's music as well as ABBA and fleetwood Mac
Still not keen on classical music though unfortunately

At the moment my 13 yr old dd really likes metal and Indy so we have that in common. I'm not expecting it to last though.

Haven't RTFT, but when DD had parties from 13 onwards, it wasn't until she was 20 that the playlist broadened out. Though it was still a bit to talk with 20-somethings who were amazed I knew anything about music, never mind the bands I'd seen. Mid-60s for specificity - me, not the decade.

My eldest (daughter, teenage) is still into mostly pop stuff that I’ve barely heard of, while my son (10) is hugely diverse and loves Slipknot, Madness, Rancid, Less Than Jake and (obscurely) 90’s boybands. My youngest son is completely obsessed with RHCP. We’re all musical; my partner and I play various instruments and are/have been in bands, the two older kids are both drummers, the youngest wants to play bass and loves to have a noodle on a ukulele, they’re all exposed to all sorts of styles of music - I’m convinced it’s all down to individual personalities!

I’d bloody love it if I heard noises that weren’t squeaky pop coming out of my daughters room though - I can enjoy decent pop songs but the stuff she likes makes my teeth itch.

Maybe they just don’t like your taste in music OP? I’m 46 and would hate to listen to any of the bands you’ve mentioned. They are shite imo.

I don’t want them to like what I like I wanted to know when children and teenagers greatly became more broad minded (and tolerant for want of a better word) of music outside of the here and now.

Also I really think it’s just snobby impolite and weird to tell other people you hate their music. Each to their own. I don’t hate anyone’s musical tastes it’s personal preference and they are entitled to that

This thread premise made me smile.

As a 14 year old super fan of a particular "boy band" and in particular the lead singer, an uncle who considered himself an authority on "good music" confidently told me "in 10 years time you'll have forgotten his name!"

This was in the 80's, the band? Wham! The singer George Michael (RIP) - now considered by many to have been one of the most talented singer/songwriters & entertainers if the last 50 years if not more. No formal training, self taught himself not only songwriting but several instruments, and - frustrated by others not achieving or understanding what he was aiming for, also taught himself producing, music video direction etc.

I come from a family who are huge music fans of every kind. As a result there are pieces I love from classical & opera, through Jazz & Blues, to country, rock & roll and on into pop, rock and beyond.

I was "taught" (for lack of a better description) not to write any genre off, to at least try it.

I'm mainly an 80's pop "girl" but I also have a deep love for music from the 60's, 70's and 90's and I'm still now finding pieces and artists I like in 21st c music.

My parents are big Beatles fans, I'm not particularly keen, but I do love the who, Rolling Stones, CCR, Jefferson airplane, mamas & papas etc so it's not an era thing it's a (slightly) different tastes thing.

All that said I'm not a fan of hard style (morphs into old gimmer persona) it just sounds like noise to me, but then even though I'm supposedly the right generation I never liked its predecessor house or 90's dance music very much either.

Dd would say (to her not so close friends) she likes hard style and charts. But at home - without any pressure from me, she listens to 80's/90's pop and rock with a particular inclination towards evanescence, cranberries, oasis, rem, red hot chilli peppers...

I prefer melodic pieces and I love good lyrics. But that may be because I'm more of a singer than a player. I've sung solo and in choirs since I was 6, starting in church (hymns are actually really good for basic chord changes and melodies) moving onto school and am dram type scenarios, love a bit of karaoke too. I can play a few instruments at a basic level. 2 were taught formally but the rest just messing about/experimenting with well known tunes.

Lightheartedness aside - they don't LET you enjoy the music you like? Sod that!! You're still the adult and it's your car/home! Tell em to suck it up buttercup you listen to their stuff they can do you same courtesy!

But why not just let them listen to what they want to listen to? Why do they have to "broaden their tastes"? Agree with pp that you should also be able to play music you like, but tbh if you like some of what they like but they don't like any of your stuff then the obvious choice when you're all together is their music, no?
I honestly wouldn't want to listen to Fleetwood Mac, or Queen, or anything like that, I think it's awful. And it's not "your" music, it is a genre in general, so me saying I think it's crap is not a personal attack on you.

This thread was pretty dead but no I don’t agree with what your first post and then subsequent follow up post said

Maybe they just don’t like your taste in music OP? I’m 46 and would hate to listen to any of the bands you’ve mentioned. They are shite imo.

I don’t listen to heavy metal but I don’t go around making comments it’s shit or I would hate listening to it to the person who does like it or otherwise. It’s just not to my taste - nothing shit or hateful about it. What I listen to isn’t to your taste. I’ve corrected it for you - HTH.

A lot of what they listen to is repetitive, the same song or same artists over and over, so the fact that is what we mainly listen to together is my frustration. Earlier I named the odd few groups off the top of my head, whereas my music playlist is pretty broad across more than one genre . Theirs is very narrow. It would be nice to widen that spectrum from time to time but from the other more helpful posters I see that’s probably just an age thing