to get a bit tetchy when people ask when we'll try for our 2nd?

[MaeBug]

Our DD is 9 months old and already LOTS of people (friends, relatives, colleagues, the bloody neighbours!!) have taken it upon themselves to enquire when we'll be 'giving DD a little brother or sister'.
It's pissing me off and i feel like telling them bluntly that the contents of my uterus is non of their business, but i just shrug and mumble 'oooo, not sure' 'haha, one day' instead.
We're not even sure if we will have any more biological children, but have discussed the possibility of adopting or fostering in the future.
I don't know if i'm being over sensitive as i miscarried an unplanned 2nd baby 2 months ago, which was sad, but not as heart breaking as it could have been as DD is such a joy bringer and 2nd baby was a complete shock and totally, totally unplanned (I didn't know i was pregnant until i started to miscarry).
Is it U for these people to be asking? Or am i being overly sensitive?

"We've no news ourselves, yet. How is YOUR sex life going? Are you having it regularly - do you find trying a range of different positions helps keep things fresh for you? Are you planning any more children yourselves? Oops, silly me, you're in your 70s, so you're a VERY long way beyond that now, aren't you?! Actually, considering your stage of life, have you made your funeral plans yet? Foolish not to. What kind of coffin would you prefer? Any favourite hymns? Burial, cremation or leave body to medical science? Do let me know how the plans go, won't you. I'll remember to ask for an update next time I see you...."

When I sent out an email to friends announcing DS' birth, one of the replies was, "great news! Are you going to try for another?" I hadn't even had a post-birth sleep!

Some people are absolutely crazy.

When you go to their wedding, collar them after the speeches and ask when the divorce is planned for and who the next lucky bride/groom will be.

She was already married and had three children at that time; maybe she was hoping for people to catch up!

She was already married and had three children at that time; maybe she was hoping for people to catch up!

Weird. How would she like it if somebody with 6 children kept nagging her about when she was going to 'properly complete' her family?

We have 1 child - would like another but it very well may not happen, which is fine. A relative has 9 children and has put PA digs on FB (not specifically aimed at us) about people with only 1 or 2 children not being 'real' parents (biology obviously not her strongest subject - although it would be just as nasty if she said it about adoptive parents).

Some people are so insecure in who they are, they take it as a deliberate personal insult when a different person lives their life as, erm, a different person from them.

It's incredibly rude and intrusive, and completely ignores the fact that this is a sensitive area for a lot of people. How do they know that you're not already pregnant but don't want to announce it to Uncle Tom Cobbly and all, or that you're desperately trying? Or that you haven't just had a miscarriage? Or that one of you wants another child, the other doesn't and it's a huge bone of contention? Or, or, or.. Ultimately it's none of their damn business, and it's crass and thoughtless to pry into others' personal lives.

And you know what? It never stops. Get together with someone and it's "When are you going to tie the knot?" Get married and it's "When will we hear the patter of tiny feet?" Have one and it's "When will they get a sibling?" Have another and it's "Are you stopping at two?".

It's fucking rude. People who do this should be held down in the nearest body of water until the bubbles stop.