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To start a thread for those of us spending NY alone?

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 19:50

Bit gutted but trying to remain positive.

DS has gone to bed and DP has gone out, we are starting the New Year on an ongoing argument and a rocky relationship.

My first new year where I'll be on my own (apart from sleeping DS) at midnight.

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ItsClemFandangoCanYouHearMe · 31/12/2018 19:54

I'm not on my own but one of my DC won't sleep so me and DH are taking it in turns trying to get her to go down, not the night we had planned.

I hope next year is better for you Thanks NYE is hyped up rubbish anyway.

Divgirl2 · 31/12/2018 19:54

I'll be bringing in the bells (hopefully) asleep and the only adult in the house. I'm knackered so pretty pleased with this arrangement.

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 19:55

@ItsClemFandangoCanYouHearMe oh no! Hopefully your DC gets to sleep soon!!

@Divgirl2 that was my plan but feel guilty not staying up until midnight to welcome the New Year!

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NorthernKnickers · 31/12/2018 19:57

I'm alone..and pretty happy with it tbh 😊. Happy new year everyone. Hope 2018 has been kind to you and that 2019 is not too arduous. That's as much as we can hope for I guess...anything more will be a bonus 😊

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 19:58

@NorthernKnickers good attitude actually!

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TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 31/12/2018 19:59

I'm just getting DD to bed. She is resisting cos she is nearly 6 and being a stubborn little.......Angry

DH working, home before midnight though.

Beer waiting for me downstairs.

voxnihili · 31/12/2018 20:00

I'm on my own and feeling pretty crap about it. It's DP's best mate's birthday and he has gone out to celebrate. We normally go together but I'm home with the baby. I don't begrudge him going out as he's great with the baby and only goes out on NYE.

But, I feel incredibly sad that out of everyone I know (family and friends), no one would rather spend NYE with me than anyone else. I've really struggled since the birth of DD with how much my life has changed and I feel like tonight is tipping me over the edge.

yawning801 · 31/12/2018 20:00

There's a party going on over in Chat if you want to join!

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:01

@voxnihili I'm really sorry to hear that Thanks how has the rest of your 2018 Been?

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Auramigraine · 31/12/2018 20:01

I’m alone, well DC’s asleep, OH working until 10. Currently debating leaving the nice warm bed to get myself a cheeky drink but way too comfy

ThePinkOcelot · 31/12/2018 20:05

I’m not alone in the house, but I’m alone downstairs. DH in bed not well and dd2 upstairs in her room. Bit bored really!

Bonkerz · 31/12/2018 20:09

Was supposed to be having a big party tonight but had to cancel yesterday as the bug has floored me and 3DCs
Hubby and I split 6 weeks ago. Life has been challenging since Oct.
tonight I'm avoiding Facebook. I'm poorly and sad and lonely. Want to cry but won't because kids are around. House is a mess. None of us have eaten properly since Christmas Day. Going into 2019 feeling a failure.

Rayne22 · 31/12/2018 20:10

I`m alone, got a movie on and half way through a bottle of prosecco. It's a pretty good night in :D

Shoobydooby09 · 31/12/2018 20:11

Just put DC to bed, about go have a long hot soak, then find something to watch on TV. Not the night i had planned but DH has had to go work and wont be back til the early hours. Im not too fussed about NYE though to be honest. Happy New Year everyone x

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:11

@Bonkerz oh, you aren't a failure at all. It sounds like you're going through a really hard time. So many more days and opportunities in 2019 now, it won't stay so tough forever Thanks big hugs x

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HundredMilesAnHour · 31/12/2018 20:14

I'm alone (in a rented converted barn in the middle of the New Forest) and quite happy about it. Had some red wine and some local cheese (and some chocolate!) and I'm planning an early night with my Kindle. Never seem to get much time to relax so I'm loving a quiet evening all by myself (apart from my pets). All social media is being switched off.

2018 wasn't the best year for me. It started well but has ended badly. My job was cut just before Christmas and today/tonight is my last day of being employed. 2019 isn't starting well as I start to freak out about job hunting (job market is terrible in my field due to Brexit). C'est la vie. 2019 is going to be a year of huge change regardless of how it turns out. Must try to embrace it rather than fear it. But for tonight I'll enjoy my peaceful night and try not to fret too much about calories consumed. Wink

voxnihili · 31/12/2018 20:15

@nyeno obviously having DD was great (she was conceived after fertility issues and a miscarriage) but the pregnancy was tough, resulting in hospital admissions. I need surgery for a medical condition discovered during pregnancy. Last month I had a cancer scare, but fortunately got the all clear.

I've had to give up all my hobbies and I'm not at work (I'm a workaholic). I've never felt so trapped or isolated.

I love DD to bits and I wouldn't swap her for anything but I feel completely lost.

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:16

@HundredMilesAnHour another good way to think about it - I feel like I'm sitting here fearing the worst for the year to come.

Best of luck on your job search though!!! Thanks

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:17

@voxnihili oh I know the feeling about feeling lost. It's making me feel ungrateful when I'm so grateful for everything.

You sound like you've had a really rough year though. 2019 may be the best year to come for you!!!!

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Lockheart · 31/12/2018 20:21

I'm on my own, which seems silly in central London! But all my friends have decided to spend NY outside of London with family / other halves, my brother is with his girlfriend. My friend runs a pub and I was supposed to be going with another friend but other friend has dropped out and I'm too shy to go on my own (I've been on holiday on my own but going out without someone else to go with is too far apparently!). Friend who runs pub will be too busy to chat.

So I'm going to eat more Christmas chocolate and watch the fireworks from my room. Then go shopping tomorrow to try and make myself feel better!!

voxnihili · 31/12/2018 20:21

@nyeno - I've got Prosecco, control of the TV remote and a project from work to get stuck into. Normally this would be my idea of a perfect night in (which I have frequently due to DP's shifts). There's just something so lonely about tonight.

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:22

@voxnihili I feel you. My night should be good in many ways as it's just me and my baby and I can chill but I just feel so isolated and like I'm starting 2019 on such a bad foot.

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MummatoaMunchkin · 31/12/2018 20:23

Hello lovely people!!

Hubby is at work so just me and the munchkin (who is refusing to go to sleep!!)

I have a dominos being delivered at 830 but i feel like it may get cold as my little shit angel is fighting me!!

I hope you are all ok!

voxnihili · 31/12/2018 20:26

@nyeno - sorry to hear you're feeling the same. How old is your baby?

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nyeno · 31/12/2018 20:27

@voxnihili he is 1+10 months! Not really a baby anymore!Shock

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