I won't get any New Year good wishes or texts. Anyone the same?

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Me and DP will go for dinner and have a lovely time together, I am lucky. My best mate is great too, we hardly see each other as live faraway but were close in that I could always call her if I needed to, as she could me, and we have a lot of laughs and fun when we catch up.

But the silence over the holidays is deafening in terms of others I thought were friends but really are acquaintances I think. I had one text off my mum on Christmas Day, and she couldn't answer the phone when I called. One friend sent a Xmas gif. I sent a few merry Christmases myself and those friend did reply - but nobody thinks of me first. They're nice people it's just I'm not important to anyone.

I just feel quite low when I think how I'm not important to anyone. I don't know what it is.

Anyone in the same boat?

We have absolutely no one wishing us good anythings.

We have each other, so we feel very lucky.

But that's it.

However I really do feel for those totally alone

This year is better than the last few I've joined the class WhatsApp group for my youngest we have been sending best wishes back and forth usually I don't get that

Just came by to wish all in here a very Happy New Year too!!!
Make it a great one xxx

I waited for the influx of New Years greetings, I’m disappointed, was hoping more people would have thought of me

I am like you OP. My mum and dad are dead and I am an only child. I have a cousin who will ring tomorrow. My best friend will message me tomorrow, or I will her and another couple of friends will- but it's not like having my mum and dad.
DH has already spoken to his parents and sister and grandma. I could have spoken to them too but it is him they really want to speak to.
We have had a nice night just us but the so and so fell asleep at half 11 and woke up just after 12 saying 'Why didn't you wake me.'

I would rather be like this than be out at a party being hugged and kissed by lots of whooping, singing people I don't know though.

Here’s a new year resolution- i won’t make time for ppl who don’t care. I will concetrate on MY goals.

Wishing you a very Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to all! Raising my glass to everyone and sending good wishes for 2019!

Jesstan, happy birthday!!!!

Happy new year xx

I completely understand. I haven't received a single text from 'friends' for either Xmas or new year. I find it very difficult to form proper friendships so am never the person people think about or ask to join them anywhere.
My new partner rang me from work to wish me happy new year, and I got a text from my parents (literally just the words happy new year, no actual interaction or conversation). It does make things seem quite bleak.

People sending those videos to me just annoy me as its just a forwarding thing. As l have got older l have decided to contact anyone l want to contact whether they do or not.During the year I invite anyone l want even if they don't invite me. It saves all the thinking and as l enjoy the meet ups l'm happy and my life is more fulfilled.
Everyone having loads of friends happily toasting in the new year is a bit of a fantasy as you leave your partying years behind. Try not to overthink it as most people, if the truth be known, are sitting at home..or in bed like me as l didn't feel well.
One thing l learn over the years is that the gap between fantasy and reality leads to depression so just accept the reality and things don't look bad.
Its tough about your dm but as parents age, l believe, it becomes all give on our side and its a lucky bonus if we get anything in response.
Happy New Year.

Happy New Year to everyone on this thread. Keep on keeping on.... who knows what changes 2019 may bring?

I kow exactly how you feel op! Happy new year!

I feel the same. It's just the two of us and no-one really bothers I never tell anyone how it is

We have had a really really difficult year

Happy New Year to all of you

Happy new year from me OP. You're not alone and there's nothing wrong with it. I have a few quality friends which I prefer, and I am not big on sending xmas wishes to everyone and their grannies.

Yet no-one thinks sending Christmas cards is worth it any more

Wishing a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to everyone 🎆🎇🎉🎊

It's fine. I understand you feeling low about it but if you are in a safe, loving home with your DH, in the long run, it's fine.

Tonight I called all my family - parents, D Bro and DSis. they wouldn't have called me. I didn;t text any friends and they didn;t text me, but I still love them and vice versa.

We won't.

But we're together which is more than some.

The lady over the road knocked on our door at midnight, she was very emotional and huggy.. ..ive a feeling she was on her own because I know her husband left her a while ago. I was quite short with her and.put out as id been lying on the sofa in my dressing gown and tshirt. I gave a hug back (( hate hugs )) said it was lovely to see her and happy new year.

I'm now feeling really awful, there are so many lonely people at times and anything could.happen to make us one of them.

Must make more of an effort in future.

I had 1 text, off my mum. Got nothing off my friend or any other family but then I didn’t send them anything either. Friend wise, I didn’t send one as I guess I just wanted a little bit of thought my way for once. I’ve done so much for her in 2018, and I got nothing back. And have been told ‘no’ when I’ve asked for support myself.

But here’s to 2019 with or without friends 🍷

A text doesn’t mean anything! My resolution this year was to forgo instagram and Facebook and snap chat. It’s all bollocks.

I haven't received many messages at Xmas or NY. But it hasn't really bothered me at all, in fact, haven't really thought about it until now. I try to make effort to see my friends face to face, that's more meaningful. I think they're just not big texters or whatsappers, neither am I, I suppose. Funny old world, navigating this online and text game. Try not to let it mess up your head.

I never text or WhatsApp anyone because I hate texting. It doesn't mean I don't like them though.