To be pissed pff

[Mummyoftwo91]

I've had a New Year's Eve party planned since October, invited sil and our 2 mutual friends, bil and his gf and my mil, my dh was also coming after he finishes work at 11pm. Today all of them have cancelled on me! Dh will still come after work but everyone else has cancelled I have spent over £150 on food and drinks and I feel so pissed off! Also means I'll be at home alone all night untill dh comes home
Ugh

Incredibly rude-I wouldn’t waste my time making plans with any of them in future.

Your sil doesn't think much of you does she?

That's awful OP I would be raging with everyone except your MIL.

What was your response? Do they know how pissed off you are? And how much money time and effort you have gone to getting in the food and drink?

Yes we all know childless people can be tired (what a fucking stupid comment) but that’s a shit excuse! How do they know they’re going to be tired tomorrow?!
Your SIL is just plain nasty really!!

I would be gutted too......

Me and DD haven't been invited anywhere. We'll come,!

Hopefully your SIL will get a call to say that the other party is cancelled and then you'll be able to tell her that she's not welcome at yours. Other than your MIL they are all unreasonable.

Are you all on a group chat or anything that you could put out a "since everyone has cancelled/decided to go elsewhere there won't be a party now". Does each person know the others have cancelled?

That is ridiculously rude of them all. MIL excepted, obviously.

I'm home alone til DH gets home just after 11 tomorrow night as well. Maybe there can be a AWeBU for just getting tipsy by ourselves thread tomorrow!

Does dh live with you?

It's just you say he will still come after work...

chapter I presumed he was like my DH and working a shift.

How rude (not MIL). YANBU, OP. Sorry to hear you have been let down by these people's VU behaviour.

Hope you can enjoy the food you've bought over the next few nights with DH and save the booze for a nice occasion in the near future.

Wouldn't bother inviting this rude lot again, I have to say.

Find a good film to watch or get yourself some pampering stuff and a nice candle to enjoy a long relaxing bath with wine and music before DH gets home.

You should find a couple of mumsnetters nearby who have no plans, ask them to bring a bottle, and make a couple of new friends

Going to a different party is spectacularly rude. Once you agree to go somewhere, that's what's booked!

This is the mindset of people who don't reply to kid's birthday invitations in case something better comes up.

I second finding some local mumsnetters. Mumsnetters are good for a party (I can tell). Whereabouts are you?

I also reckon you let everyone know that everyone cancelled so that it meant the party was cancelled. FB post or something?

I bet they’ve all thought that because there were more people going if they dropped out it wouldn’t make a difference.
I would let them know the parties had to be cancelled and you’ve bought all the food etc

I did make sil feel bad and she was like well we can still come if you want us too and I just don't want to feel like I'm holding someone hostage at my house if she doesn't want too! I don't want her to come now anyway, yeah I'm hoping dh doesn't finish too late he's not well either he has the same chronic illness as mil and he was working a full day and he was still up for it! I'm never inviting them again they can piss off! Bil and his gf offered me money for the food but honestly don't feel like speaking to them right now, it's all food we will eat but I'm more annoyed that I've gone to all the effort to host a family party and no one cares that I'll now be on my own! I'm in the south east

I was worried you would allthink I was being dramatic! I've just had one of those days where everything has gone wrong and the kids are driving me mad and this just topped it all off! Time to open the gin I think

Aw it’s a horrible feeling OP.
I’ve had that in the past and it hurts when you’re excited about something and gone to lots of effort and it turns out the other people can’t be arsed.

Reality is though they’ve done a shitty thing but they probably ARE knackered and haven’t realised it would have to be cancelled.

I would have a lovely evening in, enjoy all the food and nibbles. Ignore them for a while and let yourself steam it out.

Honestly
Get yourself some films, a bottle of prosecco and some snacks and enjoy the peace.

I’m in the SE though 😀😀

I'm in the Wild West!

Accept the money, you deserve some recompense from them. Don't bother with them again barring poor MIL.

Keep letting them feel bad, they deserve too. So rude (especially ditching you for a 'better offer').

@mummyoftwo91

Horrible bastards. I'd have been right fucked off.

People are entitled to turn down social invitations. We turn down most (even though it seems to offend some people!) but to say yes, and then bail the day before is rude. Especially just because they got another offer.

Could you ask them if YOU could go to the party THEY are now going to?

Can't believe sil told you she and 2 friends have been invited to another party so they aren't coming to yours..... mil can't be helped and I think you're Bil is lying and they're off somewhere else too I'm.afraid. Fwiw OP, I'll be home alone with DC, DH is now working until early hours. And I can't really be bothered going anywhere. I'll just watch tv and have and snacks and more chocolate when kids are in bed. I'm quite looking forward to it.

I'll come. I can bring my cat.

Going to have a gin and relax a little! Also have my cat for company she's the best never argues with me