To aak if you want your ds to turn out like your DH?

[lizzlebizzle33]

DH and I have 2 ds, age 2 and 1, it's been a very tough few years and I think we have drifted apart.
I really want to make it work because I do love him but he can be so horrible (during an argument( he is lazy around the house, short tempered. Forgetful and often selfish.

It occurred to me the other day that I do not want our kids to turn out like him, but that then led me to thinking what that means. Do I even love him if I don't want my sons to be like him? Surely boys should look up to their father.

It's made me question a lot of things. Have any of you ever felt like this? Am I normal?

Bit of both really. My DH is quite shy and introverted and I probably wish my DS gets a bit more of my social side. But beyond that, yes I hope he is just like him.

Partly. I’d love them to have his intelligence, work ethic, morals and generosity but I actively try to discourage traits like negativity and moaning.
Thankfully they’ve got my sense of adventure but I don’t want them to have my procrastination!

I would like my ds to turn out similarly to my dp yes. I would like him to inherit his work ethic, thoughtfulness, selflessness etc but if he could dodge the neuroticism and shorter than average temper that would be lovely.

I would also like him to turn out like me, with a positive outlook on life, a sense of self worth etc. If he doesn't get my huge lazy streak and anxious tendencies that would be good.

I don't think it's normal to not want your children to turn out anything like your partner but I do think it's ok to recognise their faults and hope the dc don't have them too.