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To ask for a receipt

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toots123 · 30/12/2018 08:04

Every year ILs buy DH clothes and every year it's the wrong size. Not just one size too big but two!
He's too polite to say anything but puts them in the bin.
Surely they would prefer he was honest and ask if he can exchange it?

The clothes are lovely so it's a shame when it's something he would use.

Quite awkward to say 'the size you've been buying me for the last 10 years has never fitted' though ....

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TinselTimes · 30/12/2018 08:07

He puts brand new clothes in the bin? That’s horrible, so wasteful,

A lot of shops will let you swap sizes without a receipt, has he tried?

Otherwise he could donate them rather than bin them.

Or he could make a point of talking about a health kick, then say he’s lost weight and now he needs size medium or whatever. That way they buy the right size from now on but don’t feel embarrassed that they’ve been getting it wrong.

IceRebel · 30/12/2018 08:08

Putting them in the bin is seriously wasteful, he could at least donate them. Where are the clothes from? a lot of places will let you swap sizes if the items still have tags.

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2018 08:09

Can he sell them on eBay and buy something he wants instead?

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 30/12/2018 08:09

How ridiculous most shops will let you swap sizes. Or he could sell or donate them to someone or charity. To throw them in the bin is rude and very wasteful.

LoniceraJaponica · 30/12/2018 08:10

That is so wasteful Hmm. If he can't exchange them can't he donate them to a charity shop instead?

Quite frankly, I don't understand why he can't say anything to his family. Is he always such a wet blanket?

Sweetpea55 · 30/12/2018 08:10

Binning brand new clothes??? " what's wrong with you. Haven't you ever heard of charity shops?

JamesBondFire · 30/12/2018 08:11

Great. Can't he think of anything better to do with them than put them in the bin?

Of course you can ask for a receipt - so long as you get like for like.

As PP has said - often you can exchange without.

Gina2012 · 30/12/2018 08:11

Swap

Charity shop

Sell on eBay

Be honest with ILs and get receipt

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toots123 · 30/12/2018 08:11

They're from a website that doesn't have a shop.
He definitely should donate. It's hard enough getting everything done at Christmas and birthdays without a trip t9 the charity shop (or so he says!)

He has been a small for as long as I've known him (10 years) and doesn't have weight to lose.
I'll check the website regarding returns without a receipt

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IceRebel · 30/12/2018 08:14

They're from a website that doesn't have a shop.

Which website? If it's not possible to swap them then he can sell them later on during the year when Christmas madness is all over, and use the money to buy other clothes / items for the family.

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toots123 · 30/12/2018 08:15

@LoniceraJaponica when it comes to his family - YES!!!!

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LoniceraJaponica · 30/12/2018 08:15

Tell him to put his big boy pants on and tell his parents. This is just ridiculous.

curiousierandcouriser · 30/12/2018 08:18

Doesn't his family notice when they never see him wearing the clothes they bought him?

TinselTimes · 30/12/2018 08:20

I’m sorry but claiming there’s no time to pop to a charity shop (what, all year? Is he the busiest man in the universe?) is just a ridiculous excuse. I’d be very disappointed if my DH did something so wasteful and lazy.

I wasn’t suggesting he really lose weight - he can just tell his parents that he has and ask them to buy a small from now on.

ChipsAndKetchup · 30/12/2018 08:23

Wow your husband is so rich he can chuck new clothes in the bin and he's so busy ALL YEAR he can't donate them to charity.

Is he Richard Branson?

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toots123 · 30/12/2018 08:25

@tinseltimes aren't all the husband's the busiest men in the universe? Mine certainly claims to be.

Thanks for the sensible replies Grin

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maras2 · 30/12/2018 08:29

Isn't it a bit odd for parents to be buying clothes for an adult son? Confused
Seriously I haven't done this since my kids were about 16, they're now 30s/40s.

snowie01 · 30/12/2018 08:29

Wait for a charity bag to come through the door if he's too busy. Can't believe he throws brand new clothes in the bin!

PattiStanger · 30/12/2018 08:30

I'd seriously find it hard to live with someone who would throw perfectly good new things in the bin. Do you literally mean he puts brand new unborn clothes with the labels on into the bin? No one does that do they?

Aridane · 30/12/2018 08:30

What a prat

MsVestibule · 30/12/2018 08:33

How difficult is it to put them in a drawer and then put it in the next charity bag that's put through your door??? How lazy and wasteful.

FlamingJuno · 30/12/2018 08:34

My SiL does this. Always buys clothes for DH and I for Xmas. Never anything we would buy for ourselves and always at least 2 sizes too big Confused. DS1 usually benefits if it's a plain sweater, but usually the stuff goes straight to the charity shop. I never buy clothes as gifts unless given very specific instructions.

christmaspuddingyumyumyum · 30/12/2018 08:35

Give them back and say they're lovely but can he have them in a small. Or are they gifting fil's unwanted items?

45andahalf · 30/12/2018 08:35

Just a quick warning, Fatface recently wouldn’t let us swap a top I was given without a receipt. I was very taken aback. They made us feel like we were trying to pull a fast one, it was very embarrassing.

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/12/2018 08:37

I’d be annoyed with your dh twice then. Once for saying nothing. But more importantly for binning brand new clothes. It takes two years of drinking water to make in t shirt. But he bins them as it’s inconvenient to regift. Shame on him.