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To ask for a receipt

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toots123 · 30/12/2018 08:04

Every year ILs buy DH clothes and every year it's the wrong size. Not just one size too big but two!
He's too polite to say anything but puts them in the bin.
Surely they would prefer he was honest and ask if he can exchange it?

The clothes are lovely so it's a shame when it's something he would use.

Quite awkward to say 'the size you've been buying me for the last 10 years has never fitted' though ....

OP posts:

Ellisandra · 30/12/2018 09:33

Poor you, married to an arsehole

Tell him you don’t care how “busy” he is (so busy that he can’t keep the clothes in a boot until he drives past a clothes back?).

I couldn’t respect someone like that.

Ellisandra · 30/12/2018 09:35

And of course he can say they don’t fit - even if he has been binning clothes for ten years - he only has to say “think they’ve changed their sizing, coming up a bit big shot me - could I swap for ?”

MrsWillGardner · 30/12/2018 09:37

Charity bag through the door, fill it, leave it outside on collection day, jobs a gooden.

His parents need to be told, though, that they’re getting the wrong size. It needs to be made clear, not breezily mentioned.

Warpdrive · 30/12/2018 09:37

OP I have a similar thing. My DD is 12, and a mature tall and big 12. She takes clothes that are age 14. Her cousin is the same age but small and takes size 11. Their auntie perpetually buys wrong size clothes for my child, not the cousin. You can see there is 6 inches difference in height and it’s a running joke that she Is way bigger than her cousin.
This Christmas auntie gave her a dress age 11-12! Why? Is she TRYING to make a point/piss the kid off/waste her money? This is the third yr running. (Can’t return the clothes myself as she buys them when she’s abroad - trendy brands ) she sees the two kids every month, so she definitely knows! I’m beginning to think she does it on purpose as I’ve seen many occasion where she’s favoured the cousin over my child, but what a waste!

iseecabbages · 30/12/2018 10:00

I don’t understand the website without a shop. Are they buying him stuff off EBay. What kind of clothes are they buying him ?

tinesltitties · 30/12/2018 10:02

I don’t understand the website without a shop

Really?

I mean come on, surely you can't be serious. There are thousands upon thousands of web based shops that have no physical premises!!

iseecabbages · 30/12/2018 10:15

All stuff bought online can be returned to the non physical shop.

Olddognewtricks2019 · 30/12/2018 10:16

His attitude is obscene

tinesltitties · 30/12/2018 10:34

All stuff bought online can be returned to the non physical shop.

Wasn't suggesting otherwise. But generally you have to be the account or card holder to do an exchange or refund online.

You said..

don’t understand the website without a shop

I was merely pointing out there are thousands of them.

PattiStanger · 30/12/2018 10:46

Of course not all websites have shops, I can understand that a return isn't possible, not sure why posters are focusing on that, it's a non issue.

The obscene wastefulness is the problem.

Fluffyears · 30/12/2018 11:21

MIL continually buys ‘small’ for DH and expresses surprise if he buys medium (or large nowadays). Despite continually being told over 20 years he hasn’t been a small since he was 12. He has really wide shoulders and he does put the item on and show it’s too small but she persists. We either return or give to chairing ( we had to donate a French connection top as she bought it in an outlet store in the Lake District and our local store wouldn’t exchange it).

iseecabbages · 30/12/2018 11:58

Thanks tines for explaining how shops work

Return is always possible if ops dh speaks to his parents, would have thought it would be easier to blame the ‘ internet’ for bad sizing, seeing as older generations tend to have a mistrust of it anyway.

tinesltitties · 30/12/2018 12:02

WTF?

I wasn't explaining how shops work. But please, have a go at me to try and take away from the stupid comment you posted about not understanding the website without a shop!

BookMeOnTheSudExpress · 30/12/2018 12:04

Websites without shops tend to have more leniant customer service IME and many will take things back without receipt.
Obviously that would involve Busy Diddums having to log on and contact them which he's probably far too important to do.

HoneysuckIejasmine · 30/12/2018 12:37

warp she's "fat shaming" your daughter. Stop her. (Nod no, your daughter doesn't sounds far, but it's clear aunt thinks she is.)

HoneysuckIejasmine · 30/12/2018 12:37

*and no

*Fat

arranbubonicplague · 30/12/2018 12:42

A charity for homeless men dresses them for interviews etc. and they would be delighted with good quality, clean, clothing donations:

www.suitedbootedcentre.org.uk/donations/clothing-donations/

iseecabbages · 30/12/2018 13:22

All online ‘retailers’ regardless of the existence of physical

premises are a retailers / shopkeepers . I am an online retailer, I am running an online ‘shop’. Maybe that explains my confusion at the ops statement that there isn’t a shop. You also have far more consumer rights when it comes to returning products bought online, than you would from physical shop.
Hope that explains my stupidity sufficiently for you tines.

brandybutterrr · 30/12/2018 22:15

Who the fuck bins new clothes??

He could just tell them it's the wrong size. Or contact the retailer and see what they can do. Or wait until the Christmas period is over to take them to a charity shop. They won't spontaneously combust sitting in a drawer.

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