to not know how to get to friends house with a baby?

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I'm not driving at the moment as I had an op on my wrist.

I have a 10 week old baby.

Meant to be going to friends tomorrow. Getting the train there, and she's picking me up the other end.

Taking baby in sling as have been told not to keep my fingers clenched for a long period. Even if I took the pram the seat attachment requires an isofix.

I've just realised this isn't possible without buying extra attachments etc to go in their car...

I can't go can I? Bummer :(

Sorry if I've missed this, but I'm presuming there's a good reason your friend can't just drive to your house instead of you going to so much effort/expense to get to hers?

@EyeDrops yes she has a severely disabled child and it's a real struggle for her to travel any distance with her in a car. I'm about 60 miles away.

We had similar when a non-driving friend came to visit and I managed to borrow an extra car seat from my neighbour for the day. Could your friend do something similar?

I was also going to suggest she ask local friends/baby groups for a loan if a suitable car seat.

Which joie car seat is it? The i-size is a new regulation not a model of seat.

Has your friend got anyone she can borrow a seat from? Or do you know anyone who you could swap seats with for the day?

If it's iSize then it's isofix only. With an infant carrier its likely to need a base to reach the isofix points

You can install some iSize using the seatbelt (for example, the Joie iGemm).

Hope you managed to sort something OP, what a shame to miss the visit.

If it's iSize then it's isofix only. some isize seats can be fitted with the seatbelt, that’s why I asked which joie seat it was as it may be that it can be fitted with the seatbelt and OP doesn’t realise.

What about jumping on the bus to friends house? From the train station, would that be an option?

Joie i-level needs the isofix base (I assume this is what op has). It was one of the deal breakers for us, which was a shame as otherwise a really top car seat.

I've never worn a sling so not sure if possible but could you get in the car, put the seatbelt on, then put the sling on over the top of seatbelt and then baby goes in the sling? So you're belted in and baby is strapped to you but not under your seatbelt if you see what I mean? Then you're both restrained but baby isn't in danger of being crushed by the belt.

Then you're both restrained but baby isn't in danger of being crushed by the belt.
The baby would be in danger of being crsushed/killed by the OP though in a crash. Or flung out of the sling. A sling will not protect or adequately restrain a baby in a crash.

I agree either borrow a friend's car seat, just meet your friend out and about instead of going to hers, buy a very cheap car seat that belts in (because this scenario will probably happen again!), shrug it all off and take taxi, ask friend to come to you?

Would they? If OP is strapped in herself and then the baby is restrained separately? I suppose there are air bags to think of too though...

A handy tip I discovered in a similar situation the other day, I managed to cram my car seat under the buggy. Similar with me, had to get the bus to my parents and get driven somewhere , try it! :D

@thesnapandfartisinfallible yes, the force of an adult being thrown forwards/sideways could easily crush/kill the baby. Look at the video to see how much the dummy in the seatbelt moves. Imagine them being flung forwards like that with a baby infront of them.

The baby isn’t ‘restrained’ properly. They could easily be thrown out of the sling and out of the car or out of the sling hitting the interior of the car with force. What you are suggesting is incredibly dangerous.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=M70yoV2ZizY

Oh wow. Thanks for the link. And that would happen even with the parent strapped in underneath it? I guess the baby would just be thrown from the sling with the momentum? Well that's one stroke of genius I'll never try.

OP does your friend have kids in her family? Maybe she could borrow an isofix base from someone?

Can your friend borrow a carseat/buy one locally off Facebook marketplace or similar?

@thesnapandfartisinfallible it’s hard to say exactly as it would depend on what type of crash it was but yes, a sling is unlikely to be able to restrain a baby so could easily be thrown from the sling.

Even if the parent is strapped in underneath the baby they will still move considerably in an impact so their head could hit the baby’s head with great force, they could crush baby against dashboard/seat infront/door.

Also, a baby’s neck/spine isn’t developed properly, so even if they managed to avoid being thrown out the sling and crushed/hit by the person holding them, they would likely suffer serious spine/internal injuries. (If you watch how much the head/neck of the person strapped in moves-it’s a bit hard to see as it’s partially blocked, but a baby’s head/neck would be moving the same if they were not in a car seat and the damage caused would be potentially v.serious/life threatening). A baby also has a bigger head to body ratio which wouldn’t help! Lots of factors involved.

How have you managed up to now with your baby since you had the op?

Tbh if it were me I would just book a taxi from the station; seems easier anyway than getting your friend to pick you up, seeing as she has a severely disabled child. I would imagine having to get her child into the car and do even a short journey to pick you up is quite challenging, as you mention it’s impossible for her to visit you.

If you’re not happy to use a taxi then why not postpone the visit