To be embarrassed by DH

[Outwards]

Out with a friend, her new BF, me & my DH.

Nice meal, chat away (DH makes very little effort conversation wise) and the bill arrives.

Friend & her new partner put £60 in, but bill is only £100. So I change her £10 for two fivers so we each put £55 in, to cover a tip.

Amid me changing the £10 DH comments I'm making it 'very bloody complicated' (?) Thus embarressing me. I'm self conscious, anxious and always think I'm in the wrong anyway so I felt like a tit, just trying to do the right thing so it was equal.

Back home, I bring it up he embarrassed me and he got defensive, we argued and he gave a fake apology 'sorry you're upset'.

Happy to be told I'm in the wrong here.

He said he didn't mean to embarress me, he was genuinely a bit lost and thought it worked out that we owed my friend some money (?).

Does he struggle with money/paying for things generally?

Maybe he was a bit embarrassed as the other couple seemed willing to tip £10 per couple but you changed so that each of you only tipped £5.

Based on the OP, this is what I thought as well.

I thought that too. £20 tip for £100 meal at Christmas time is fairly normal. Why would you mess with what the other couple put in? Just match it and put in £60 too.

If your OH is an introvert and finds social interactions hard, is it right to expect him to attend dinners with you and your friends?

I just wonder...this may be making him more snappy as he feels uncomfortable?

Such a non issue.

£10 tip between 4 people at Xmas is simply mean.

Did the other couple ask for change? You should have either put in £60, or £55 and left the other couple to make their own decision. Correcting/changing their tip is a bit weird and maybe made your dh uncomfortable.

The tip is fine. Waiting staff should be paid properly. 10 pound is 10%, standard.

I'd be a bit concerned about his dislike of tipping. To me it shows a lack of consideration and respect for the staff who serve you. It's not a nice trait.

20% tip is huge for the UK!
10% is standard in the UK, 15% is nice if you can get it (and expected in some restaurants)

My friend's new BF picked up the bill and he told us it was £55 each (per couple). My friend said oh I've only got £60...then it happened as I explained in my OP.

DH doesn't like to tip in the UK, unless it's exceptional service. We've spent time in the USA where it's customary to tip and he had no problem with it whatsoever there.

My tip depends on the service, and whether I know it's actually going to the waiter/waitress or not.

People are so judgy.