So there’s a bit of a long backstory. I don’t want to give too much detail but some is needed for clarification.
I split from my ex when son was a baby. Ex was abusive. His parents only met the baby once or twice as a newborn as my ex manipulated both them and me to make sure we hated each other. It worked. I despised them and wanted them nowhere near and they also despised me and wouldn’t have anything to do with my son if it meant communicating with me.
Obviously as my son was a baby I wouldn’t let his abusive Dad take him round there so it made contact difficult.
Years went past, my hate grew as their stubbornness was obviously more important to them than seeing their grandchild. Although I think they always bought him Xmas and birthday presents he often never got them as they wouldn’t bring them round and his dad didn’t bother half the time.
I can’t express enough how much the my ex manipulated all of us. He wanted it this way. Dont ask me why.
Anyway, my son is six. Doesn’t have much to do with his dad, not regular contact. About 9 months ago I made the decision to try and repair the relationship for my sons sake. I took him to their house one day, as I knew they wouldn’t see me on my own. They let him in, I picked him up in an hour and there was little contact between us. My son seemed happy.
This has happened maybe 5 or 6 times now. Always instigated by me dropping him off. We are now civil too each other on the doorstep. My ex was sometimes aware I was going to drop him off and was there once or twice.
One time my ex told me to drop my son off, when I arrived, ex wasn’t there, parents were on their way out and knew nothing about it, son was really upset. So I gave them my number (they weren’t comfortable giving me theirs) and said please call or text me so we can sort something out and avoid the upset.
I haven’t heard from them since. Ove r2 months. I’ve messaged them both on Facebook. They both then blocked me. Ex phoned and told me to leave his parents alone. I messaged his sister (who I’ve never spoke to but lives with them) she said she wasn’t sure what had happened but they love seeing my
Son and she’d find out and let me know. She never did. I’ve messaged her since, no reply.
Ex phoned last week and said can I bring my son to his parents on a specific date. I said no. I don’t want contact with the grandparents to go through my ex. He is a liar. He lets my son down. He causes trouble, shit stirs and manipulates.
Now whichever way I look at it, it seems grandparents don’t want any further contact. But it jist seems so strange. They seemed happy to see him, after so many years. I guess I shouldnt be surprised as they didn’t seem bothered for the first 5 years but a part of me can’t help thinking my ex has something to do with this and is somehow pulling the strings. But why? And how? And more so, what the hell do I do??
My son is asking to see them. I’m scared if we just turn up they’ll turn him away.
Ex is evil. Probably jealous about parents contact and annoyed he wasn’t in control. Done it to spite me somehow.
Well done if you read this far. Apologies.