To be fed up with this ‘learn to parent your child’ crap?!

[Anticlockwatcher]

Every thread now where there is a person who is in a quandary with their child’s behaviour.

‘You need to parent your child’

‘Your child is parenting you’

And other such rubbish. It’s getting tiresome. People can have dilemmas and situations that are more complicated than a few words can describe.

Why not just offer advice without this judgey language?!

Are you saying that every child has the same personality? That every child responds in exactly the same way to every situation?

that is exactly what I am not saying, and exactly why it is a joke when some lazy parents pretend that others have it easy - ignoring the fact that all children are challenging and all take work, hence the lazy parenting being about people who don't bother.

Oh ok, get you now. I did think it was a bit of a turnaround from previous posts.

My lazy parenting is in reference to using an app to control screen time. I just see it as another tool, others see it as lazy.

Some children are far more challenging than others.

I completely disagree. All children are not as challenging lol. It may be that over the 18+ years of childhood the difficult ones change over or an easy bany/toddler becomes challenging teen.
But all the kids in an antenatal group or school year are not as difficult.
Or it may be some are more challenging at home than in public.
Some babies sleep through within 6w and other kids nit for 6+ years. That difference alone and lack of sleep. Personality means some challenge authority. Some kids do everything they are told when you say it once others never do as they are told and will purposely do the exact opposite.
Exactly as some kids learn to read without any teaching.
Some parents are just unlucky and the kid gets the difficult family members personality. The one who smokes/gets pg/sent to a pru/the gifted but very difficult one.
Obviously if parents are clearly not controlling the kids that is different.
Other kids may have 'minor health issues' asthma/allergies that affect behaviour.
But anyway things like asd/adhd and dyslexia all seem to run in families.

Sure sign your kids are out of control

Some corkers on here
despair.com/collections/demotivators

Oops wrong thread

I was a very challenging child. I had no sense of danger, was incredibly stubborn, a little bit of a know it all, very creative, high energy, woke up before dawn, asked loads of questions, etc. I remember my mum screaming at me that she hopes I have a child just like me when I grow up. And I have I understand her as a mum a little bit better now too. I remember gathering my friends from around the neighborhood when I was about 7yrs old to watch me jump off the second floor balcony of the block of units we lived in. High enough to have probably been injured enough to break some bones. I was on the railing when I was yanked off from behind by my mum who dragged me inside while screaming at me. Then she locked me in the bedroom. I don't remember my mum being criticized or told to parent me better. I remember other adults encouraging me to be good for my mum. I remember us kids playing in the streets and exploring the neighborhood, our parents often not really knowing where we were. A different time back then and we really can't let our kids roam the neighborhood unsupervised anymore. But I do think we could backtrack on this culture of smugly undermining each other. I hate that statement: 'just parent your child!' It really is just a way to undermine a parent or pass judgement, it's not helpful at all. I think there was a bit more solidarity within the adult community when I was a child and they backed each other up.

Ughhh anyone who uses 'parent' as a verb is just the worst person. Really makes me cringe.

I don’t think all children are equally as challenging. I have one child who is much trickier. Telling some one to parent is a useless, be more specific.

DD was an awful baby .. didn't sleep,didn't eat ,didn't talk. I used a billion methods and they were all pointless,or worked for a bit and then "I broke the baby". What worked in the end was her growing up and doing the opposite of most parenting advice. Lax at bedtime,strict with food and a shitload of bribery.
She's great now.... hopefully this doesn't change.