DM ruined boxing day/My Christmas with DS

[Hotchocolate18]

I'm a single parent so this year I've had my DS on boxing day so our "Christmas" spent with my parents at their house.
Earlier DM made a fry up. She's allergic to egg white but decided to do herself a fried egg with a runny yolk as a "treat". I said to her don't think that's a great idea. Her reply was well in ok with the yolk. Clearly the white ran into the yolk as now she has a chronic stomach ache that painkiller doesn't touch. So now she's laying on the sofa and my DF is watching football.
Feel like today and tonight will/Has been a let down. At least my son is having fun.
AIBU to be annoyed she done that even though she knew there was a high chance she would react to the egg.

Glad your dad stepped up.

I’d be really pissed off if my mum did that, then dared to moan. It’s not really like diabetes type two. Avoiding eating one thing that gives you a bad stomach shouldn’t be that difficult and OP obviously knew it was likely to be a problem, so to do it with guests there is on the selfish side, to say the least.

I imagine the scenario is Op didn’t put the roast in because she expects to be waited on. Dynamic set up by her parents, which she’s happy to perpetuate into adulthood.

AnyOld
No it isn’t the same. My point is If someone gives themselves a diabetic hypo through food / alcohol mismanagement or needs amputation through sustained poor choices, I would hope they’d get a little more sympathy.

I hope they would too. Having to live with a hard to handle chronic illness must be very tough.

It was a bit irresponsible of your mother to eat something she knew she was allergic to...but that's beside the point, you can't base your experience and happiness on how everybody else acts, they aren't puppets, that is like saying I would be happy if df did this or if dm did that...they aren't there to put on a performance and entertain you, they are entitled to experience Christmas as they want to,...you need to find the happiness inside yourself (and not externally in the action of others) to enjoy the day and you need to actively try to enjoy the day instead of stewing over what everybody else is doing/not doing...after all your son enjoyed the day didn't he?

It's all a bit Petty Betty isn't it? Boxing Day ruined, but really it's a touch of melodrama in an otherwise drab Boxing Day. Perhaps it will be that one thing that gets remembered years later in family legend. Remember that time you cooked the egg on Boxing Day Mum? Yeah, maybe not all that important or noteworthy on second thoughts. Here's to a more exciting 2019, OP.

AnyOld
Thanks for replying. My point is I don’t see the difference here between an allergy and something else. As someone with chronic illnesses and food intolerances, it’s hard to always abstain. And we make mistakes. Idk what I ate to make me feel awful yesterday. The primary suspect is half a gluten free bun but it may have been something else. Part of whatever it is is still sitting in my stomach.

Fair enough Mummy. I understand food intolerances are difficult too. I just can’t imagine, if I was intolerant to one specific food, that it would be too hard, but perhaps I’m wrong. You say you don’t know what made you feel bad and that’s difficult. I find it almost impossible to avoid sugar or whole food groups and perhaps OP’s mother is the same. But if I had to avoid one specific food, I’m pretty sure I could, even if I loved it. So we can agree to disagree hopefully, and if I ever find myself intolerant to a specific food I really love and find it’s harder than I thought, then I’ll be more sympathetic to OPs mother next time!

Your mother has been a prise arse! Yanbu op.