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DM ruined boxing day/My Christmas with DS

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Hotchocolate18 · 26/12/2018 15:14

I'm a single parent so this year I've had my DS on boxing day so our "Christmas" spent with my parents at their house.
Earlier DM made a fry up. She's allergic to egg white but decided to do herself a fried egg with a runny yolk as a "treat". I said to her don't think that's a great idea. Her reply was well in ok with the yolk. Clearly the white ran into the yolk as now she has a chronic stomach ache that painkiller doesn't touch. So now she's laying on the sofa and my DF is watching football.
Feel like today and tonight will/Has been a let down. At least my son is having fun.
AIBU to be annoyed she done that even though she knew there was a high chance she would react to the egg.

OP posts:
DBN1 · 26/12/2018 16:05

Maybe have a whip-round and order a takeaway or, you know, get off your entitled arse and feed your son!

Tofurkey · 26/12/2018 16:14

Why can't you and your dad cook it together? Your mother didn't plan to get sick. Ds can wait while you sort out dinner, it's not a big deal. Most peopel don't have someone to cook for them on Christmas!

ADastardlyThing · 26/12/2018 16:30

In all my years of cocking up frying eggs, the white has never 'ran' into a runny yolk.

abbsisspartacus · 26/12/2018 16:37

She was fucking stupid to do that anyway is she intolerant or allergic?

SantasBassoon · 26/12/2018 16:44

Step into the breach and sort out some dinner. What would you do if your mum's stomach ache hadn't been avoidable?

burnoutbabe · 26/12/2018 16:44

Why should the op cook rather than say the dad who lives in the house and is joint host?
Or can only women provide meals now?

CaptainMarvelDanvers · 26/12/2018 16:47

Boxing Day is cold meat and chips in our family. Could you not put some chips on?

SantasBassoon · 26/12/2018 16:50

Why should the op cook rather than say the dad who lives in the house and is joint host?
Or can only women provide meals now?

The dad doesn't seem bothered, but the op is keen to get a roast dinner that meets the son's requirements. I don't know if the op is a woman, that's nothing to do with it.

iloveruby · 26/12/2018 16:51

OP - YANBU

I think it is really rude to knowingly risk being out of action when your daughter and grandson are coming over for Christmas.

I also think it is rude of your father to be engrossed in the football, effectively out of action as well.

It doesn't sound like they have made any effort for you or your son so I'm not surprised your disappointed.

To be honest I would probably head home and have a movie night with your son.

Knitwit101 · 26/12/2018 16:55

YANBU
Your parents invited you to spend the day, one ate something she knew had a good chance of putting her out of action for the day and the other is watching football and ignoring you.
I would go home. Does your son like a takeaway pizza or anything for a treat?

YoungLennyGodber · 26/12/2018 16:59

I think it is really rude to knowingly risk being out of action when your daughter and grandson are coming over for Christmas.

She’s not rude. She wanted a treat but made a mistake.

I also think it is rude of your father to be engrossed in the football, effectively out of action as well.

God forbid he enjoy himself and watch the footie in his own home Hmm

To be honest I would probably head home and have a movie night with your son.

Or maybe she could stop being selfish, give her mum some sympathy and lend a hand making the dinner, instead of whining that they’ve ruined her son’s Christmas.

YABU. And acting like a petulant, unpleasant child.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 26/12/2018 17:04

YANBU to be annoyed. It was daft of your DM. But try to make the best of it. You could cook, or order takeaway, or just head home.

BrendasUmbrella · 26/12/2018 17:14

So two other adults are in the house but will go without dinner rather than make it?!

One of you can entertain your DS, the other can cook. I hope that's what you're doing...

SleepingStandingUp · 26/12/2018 17:16

In all my years of cocking up frying eggs, the white has never 'ran' into a runny yolk
Well no but I think it would be very hard to totally Seperate the white and yolk on a soft cooked yolk as you need some of the white stuff around it to keep it together so suspect Mum usually does it and decides she's happy to suffer for the taste. Which is fine unless you've got guests

IamaBluebird · 26/12/2018 17:58

Your boxing day really isn't ruined Op, because the opportunity to make it a nice day still remains.
It's only a meal, easily sorted out surely.

Bagadverts · 26/12/2018 18:13

If your DM hadn’t been too ill to cook (for whatever reason) what was she going to cook for your DS? Can you use those as the basic ingredients for diner or order a take away.

I can understand being disappointed, but why has it ruined things?

iloveruby · 26/12/2018 18:26

She’s not rude. She wanted a treat but made a mistake

It is the equivalent of getting drunk the day before hosting and then being too ill with a hangover to do any actual hosting- so yeah, pretty rude. Her desire for a "treat" came before wanting to actually have a nice Xmas with her daughter or grandson.

God forbid he enjoy himself and watch the footie in his own home

I enjoy a long hot bath and / or a good book but I don't indulge when I have guests because I'm more interested in interacting with them....even if I'm in my own home.

Or maybe she could stop being selfish, give her mum some sympathy and lend a hand making the dinner, instead of whining that they’ve ruined her son’s Christmas

Because being upset that your parents have made no effort for your Xmas day with your son is of course being selfish Hmm

AimlesslyPurposeful · 26/12/2018 18:44

What did your parents do yesterday on Christmas Day?

Did they have a Christmas roast and/or have guests over yesterday?

Perhaps you Mum\Dad didn’t feel like cooking again and thought that you, as an adult, might offer to do it?

Did they invite you to have your Boxing Day Christmas Day with them or did you just assume? Perhaps you talked about coming and they were too polite to say no.

It’s their Christmas too and as they’re getting older they may find the whole thing quite tiring.

BlancheM · 26/12/2018 19:38

I'm a single parent too but I don't see the point in having another 'Christmas ' on Boxing Day. One Christmas Day is enough for everyone. It's still Christmastime until next week anyway, your DS isn't missing out.

Original poster
Hotchocolate18 · 26/12/2018 21:10

Yesterday me and parents went out to eat so no one cooked. After football DF cooked the roast.

OP posts:
winsinbin · 26/12/2018 21:15

Perhaps mum is faking being poorly to give herself a break and get a much needed lie down in the peace and quiet of her bedroom.

Hogtini · 26/12/2018 21:15

Good lord. Here's a lesson - the Christmas period is what you make it. Your mum is ill, hey ho poor mum...right what can we whip up? Or takeaway? I'm sure she didn't want to be ill unless there's a massive drip feed here.

iloveruby · 26/12/2018 21:20

I'm sure she didn't want to be ill unless there's a massive drip feed here

I'm sure she didn't want to be ill either, she did however choose to eat something she knew would likely make her ill so was clearly willing to risk the probability of being unwell.

Looneytune253 · 26/12/2018 21:47

Why can’t you just cook the roast?

SleepingStandingUp · 26/12/2018 23:01

Right OP you all got your roast. Next year host at yours and do the cooking

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