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Original poster

To be bloody raging with DH’s selfish family??

56 replies

Booksandwine80 · 26/12/2018 15:11

Currently sat in the corner on a bloody cushion in my own lounge as they are all sprawled out all over the sofas/seats.

Drinking all the bloody alcohol, turning their nose up at the drinks on offer.

Taking no hint that time’s getting on.....

So tired, wish they would all piss off and leave us in peace.

Yes, I should probably say something but it will only cause a row Sad

OP posts:
redexpat · 26/12/2018 15:13

Its been lovely having you but now i need to get on. We will see you in rhe new year.

Grannyannex · 26/12/2018 15:15

Go for a nap in bed

Santaisonthesherry · 26/12/2018 15:15

Futile jobs in the kitchen with Wine should help.....

HomeMadeMadness · 26/12/2018 15:16

I'd go for a nap too or a long bath.

NightOwlHoney · 26/12/2018 15:16

MIL outstayed her welcome yesterday. I just took myself off to bed.

cardibach · 26/12/2018 15:19

Drinking lol the all cohos while simultaneously turning their nose up at all the drinks?
Tell the, to budge up, get on a sofa and drink with them. Tis the only am at Christmas.

cardibach · 26/12/2018 15:19

Oops. Drinking all the alcohol that should read! I am also doing that thing.

Bluelady · 26/12/2018 15:21

Go to bed with a book.

Oysterbabe · 26/12/2018 15:21

Ask them to move up. Time's getting on? It's just after 3. The Christmas spirit is strong in your house.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll1 · 26/12/2018 15:22

How long have they been at yours? Not that it matters. If they are doing your head in.
Go out for a walk or take yourself of to bed with all of the alcohol and goodies and a book.

PositivelyPERF · 26/12/2018 15:23

Ask them if anyone would like a coffee or tea before they GO HOME! 😉

Username12345 · 26/12/2018 15:27

Nice way to treat family.

ElsieMc · 26/12/2018 15:36

Love my family but they arrived at 10.30 am and didn't leave until 9 pm. I tried running the bath for my grandchildren, but no, no hint taken.

Made a huge meal, all the works, pricey turkey from the butchers and they squabbled over who had the most pigs in blankets and stuffing, then parsnips. Had two huge puddings as well and wanted me to make more. I pointed out that it was a good job we had not invited someone down on their luck because they would have picked items from their plates. Again, no embarassment, just agreed with me.

To be fair, they brought drinks with them and nice gifts but also four kids who stampeded round the place, wet their pants continually (too excited to use the loo) then complained there was a smell of wee. Well, yes. Complained my dog did a small growl, which my dh defended on the grounds he had had hours of noise etc. One had the sense to remain in his bed in peace.

Just don't host Christmas next year op - all families are annoying when they outstay their welcome but yours sound like they are taking the piss. Oh yes, they argued about the temperature of the room as well which is hard to regulate because I have a coal fire which they wanted lit.

Miggeldy · 26/12/2018 15:40

Are they expecting to stay for dinner?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 26/12/2018 15:42

I pointed out that it was a good job we had not invited someone down on their luck because they would have picked items from their plates...

Did you really say that, ElsieMc? That's appalling.

If family are required to only spend some of the day then perhaps work out a timetable beforehand with a definite begin and end time. Even a false reason is more polite than the passive aggressive nonsense that posters keep spouting.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 26/12/2018 15:43

What is your husband doing about it?

ManicUnicorn · 26/12/2018 15:56

Unless there is a massive backstory this seems like a bit of an OTT reaction OP. And surely it's only good manners to allow your guests to take priority seating wise?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/12/2018 16:03

No need to be rude, you can still make your point.

“Ask them if anyone would like a coffee or tea before they GO HOME! 😉” is a perfect t response. Or “anyone like one last drink before you go?”

I wouldn’t be bothered about sitting on the floor. Grab a drink and drink with them, you should always give guests the best seats. and if they’re REALLY doing your head in you just go upstairs and MN on your bed or read a book, there’s no real problem surely unless you need them out for a particular time?

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/12/2018 16:08

Blimey, some people are not full of the Christmas spirit this year, are they? Family chaos and mini squabbles are just part of the day, aren’t they? Usually people take it with a pinch of salt, it’s what happens naturally when you put a lot of different personalities in the same room for a few hours and they know each other well enough to speak their minds a bit, especially if they’ve had a drink.

I can’t understand people getting uptight about it.

Original poster
Booksandwine80 · 26/12/2018 16:11

@Oysterbabe

FYI- they’ve been here since 10 am and we have provided lunch and snacks.

@Username12345

Yes, it’s s shitty way for them to treat me....oh sorry, you mean how I’m treating them? Get a proper user name Hmm

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CripsSandwiches · 26/12/2018 16:18

To be fair lots of families do a full day of Boxing day it's only 4 o clock now, it's also normal to give guests priority in terms of seating! I get that it's exhausting but from what you've described they haven't done anything too terrible. Maybe give yourself a break upstairs for an hour.

I really wouldn't make comments pressuring them to go home at only 4pm.

SilverySurfer · 26/12/2018 16:20

I guess you've decided not to go for Hostess with the Mostest Award this year?

Whisky2014 · 26/12/2018 16:21

I think yabu you wouldn't expect a guest to sit on the floor would you?

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Booksandwine80 · 26/12/2018 16:22

@Whiskey2014

No I wouldn’t, however, they are literally lay across the sofas.

I’ve tried hinting for them to move over but they are very ignorant to hints Angry

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SleepySofa · 26/12/2018 16:23

Go and have a lie down. That’s what I do when DP’s family is getting too much. “Luckily” I have a chronic illness so can get away with it.