To be bloody raging with DH’s selfish family??

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Currently sat in the corner on a bloody cushion in my own lounge as they are all sprawled out all over the sofas/seats.

Drinking all the bloody alcohol, turning their nose up at the drinks on offer.

Taking no hint that time’s getting on.....

So tired, wish they would all piss off and leave us in peace.

Yes, I should probably say something but it will only cause a row

The best way to entertain family during the day is to make sure you have something to go to at a suitable time afterwards. Let them know: it will be lovely to see you but I'm/we're off out at 6.00 pm to see the Smiths/Joneses.

If they're there for the evening, well, you've got to be up and out the door at 7.00 am the next day so will be off to bed early.

Some guests don't like to make the first move when leaving in case they look ignorant. So maybe they dont want to break the news that they are leaving and that's why they have overstayed there wecome.

Just make the first move and say its been really nice having you here and we will all catch up in the new year. And give them all a aftereight as they leave as a gesture of goodwill. And offer to fetch the coats.

Then remember next year to let them host

Yes, I should probably say something but it will only cause a row

Our female socialisation makes us take the rudeness, the selfishness, the entitlement and the disrespect, for fear of confrontation and 'bad feeling'. Women have to be nice and passive and treated like shit without complaint, or the world gets angry.

I've just come from a home where the 'workers' (daughter and son-in-law) were appreciated for all their hard work and thoughfulness. They were made to sit down while the rest of us cleared up and served them for the rest of the day. They had prime spot on the sofa and control of the remote. They got gifts of flowers. I put the toddlers and baby to bed. That's the sort of treatment that you were entitled to and anything less is plain wrong.

When you've gone through a few Christmases like this (and I've got the t-shirts) you too won't take it anymore. I hope you'll find your voice, even if its just to say: "Oi, budge up and let the workers sit down'.

Take back your power. It's not rude to point out people's selfishness.

Tell them to shift up or you’ll just sit on them, don’t be a martyr.

Shift your arse or will I sit in the Christmas tree? That usually does it but then our crowd do get on well and don't outstay their welcome so I'm lucky in that way.

“Shift your legs up Dave so there is room for me on the sofa too. Thanks!”

“Been lovely having you all. What time were you thinking about getting off?”