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Original poster

I cant take her can I?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 26/12/2018 10:24

DD was sick yesterday, and this morning. Seems a bit better (getting fiesty again!) but still looks pale.
We are visiting family today and DH has offered to stay home so me and DS can still go.
Dmum has said if she perks up to bring her along. I really want DD to see my mum, DD has been asking to see her for a few weeks now but It is an hour away in the car and I don't think it is fair on DD if she starts to feel unwell again.

DS wants her to be better because the original plan was to stayover which either way is not happening now.

I need to be told I am right not to take her. I feel bad that people are missing out but I also don't want others to get sick or to spend boxing day nursing a sick child, an hour from home without her home comforts etc.
I am right though aren't I? she should stay home with DH?

OP posts:
UhUhUhDennis · 26/12/2018 10:25

Yep

Harmonyrays · 26/12/2018 10:27

Definetly keep her home, partly so she can rest and recover and also so it's not spread as she's less than the 48 hrs clear.

Bluelady · 26/12/2018 10:27

What does she want?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 26/12/2018 10:30

She is 3. She would agree to go as she wants to see nana. The reality is though. She just climbed under her duvet and asked me to sing her a song like we do at bedtime.

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Fourmagpies · 26/12/2018 10:35

No you can't take her unless you want to be the most unpopular person in your family when everyone else gets sick!
Hope she's feels better soon.

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hidinginthenightgarden · 26/12/2018 10:37

Fourmagpies, my mum is telling me to take her!

I am not going to. I feel bad that DD will miss out but will ask my mum to visit later in the holidays instead.

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AnyOldPrion · 26/12/2018 10:41

Is DS old enough to stay over by himself? Would your Mum cope then if he was unwell? Is it just your DM in the house (thus her choice if she doesn’t mind taking the risk)?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 26/12/2018 10:51

Not just my mum which is why I’m not taking her. My sisters, Dad and Grandparents are there too.

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Orchiddingme · 26/12/2018 10:52

I wouldn't take the risk if she still looks peaky.

Divide up and everyone will have a nicer time. Perhaps your mum has forgotten how awful she would feel with a vomiting bug.

Notasunnybunny · 26/12/2018 10:53

You should all stay home, chances are you have picked it up. Do you really want to arrive and start vomiting ? Do you really want to pass to pass this onto the host?
Set an alternate date within the next fortnite. If you were going for a meal and food has been bought and prepared then it would be kind and appropriate to include a meal out as your treat for the hosts, this way they are not further inconvenienced by extra expense and work.

70sbaubles · 26/12/2018 10:58

Go

MotherOfATeenApprenticeActuary · 26/12/2018 11:01

Missing the next two days of holiday fun here too as DS3 puked yesterday. It could have been over eating but he had mildly dodgy tummy too so not going to take that risk on behalf of all the elderly and immuno-compromised out there. Sucks but it's the decent thing to do. Organise something to look forward to in the near future.

Tattletale · 26/12/2018 11:02

Tis the season for vomiting bugs and colds unfortunately. Keep her home with DH.

AnyOldPrion · 26/12/2018 11:07

Suspect I’d keep the whole family home with so many there. Will all those visitors still be there in a day or two? I’d be inclined to give it 48 hours to be on the safe side.

Aridane · 26/12/2018 11:14

I would probably take her (if she’s happy to go) - bundle her up and put her to be with hot chocolate at grannies

SophieSellerman · 26/12/2018 11:17

I absolutely wouldn't take her. Nor would I assume that the rest of your immediate family won't come down with it. If I were you, I'd all stay at home - but I'm a bit excessive, so probably more reasonable for your DH and DD to stay put.

SaucyJack · 26/12/2018 11:21

No, don’t do.

An hour in the car won’t be nice her (or anyone else if she chucks up down herself halfway through the journey)

IShitChristmasGlitter · 26/12/2018 11:23

I would take her if she wanted to go take some pjs and get her all comfy ready for nanny cuddles.

OComeAllYeFaithful · 26/12/2018 11:27

I wouldn’t risk it, both from a POV of her being possibly contagious and from her fatigue. I’d have a duvet day, watch some films and chill with her. Book another day to meet up soon.

Thistle86 · 26/12/2018 11:29

No keep her home, but then video call\ FaceTime if possible so They don’t miss out on seeing each other, not the same I know but you can always meet up next week instead.

WakeUpFromYourDreamAndScream · 26/12/2018 11:30

@IShitChristmasGlitter nanny cuddles aren't going to stop the spread of a vomiting bug. No, you can't take her OP

Ethel36 · 26/12/2018 11:34

Keep her at home. Keep her warm and hydrated. The last thing she wants is to be fussed over, let her feel comfortable at home. You could say home too..visit altogether in a few days. You don't want to spread it around. We have all had it a day apart from each other, I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.

ColdCrumpetsandButter · 26/12/2018 11:35

Don't go.

AtrociousCircumstance · 26/12/2018 11:36

Of course keep her home.

ColdCrumpetsandButter · 26/12/2018 11:36

I would keep everyone home. Who is to say nobody else is harbouring bugs?