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AIBU?

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I cant take her can I?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 26/12/2018 10:24

DD was sick yesterday, and this morning. Seems a bit better (getting fiesty again!) but still looks pale.
We are visiting family today and DH has offered to stay home so me and DS can still go.
Dmum has said if she perks up to bring her along. I really want DD to see my mum, DD has been asking to see her for a few weeks now but It is an hour away in the car and I don't think it is fair on DD if she starts to feel unwell again.

DS wants her to be better because the original plan was to stayover which either way is not happening now.

I need to be told I am right not to take her. I feel bad that people are missing out but I also don't want others to get sick or to spend boxing day nursing a sick child, an hour from home without her home comforts etc.
I am right though aren't I? she should stay home with DH?

OP posts:

Poppylizzyrose · 26/12/2018 11:40

Don’t go, it also isn’t safe as could spread to older family members. Hope you have a great Boxing Day regardless.

HashTagLil · 26/12/2018 11:41

Really, all of you should stay home.

To a PP, who on earth thinks giving hot chocolate to a vomiting child is a good idea?

Billben · 26/12/2018 11:46

What does she want?

Who cares? She’s got a bug and she shouldn’t spread it around🙄

AWishForWingsThatWork · 26/12/2018 11:46

Can you all stay home and delay your visit by a day or two?

Whatever you do, please don't take her. Your grandparents don't need such a bug!

CatnissEverdene · 26/12/2018 11:48

I'd all stay at home - you are likely to be incubating it. Why take the risk?

Lalliella · 26/12/2018 11:49

Do you know why she was sick? A bug? Or over-eating / over-excitement? If the latter take her. If a bug, don’t.

Lovemusic33 · 26/12/2018 11:49

Keep her home, it’s too far to take her ifs she’s not quite right, we all know what it’s like after a bug, she may seem ok at home but taking her out could make her feel poorly. Arrange for another day and have a duvet day at home instead.

theWarOnPeace · 26/12/2018 11:50

Some of the answers here, must be the same people who send their kids to school with vomiting bugs because they’ve got work, like nobody else has! How she feels is irrelevant when it comes to deciding to go and see people or not. Even if she feels great, don’t spread it! Wait 48 hours from last sickness and that’s that.

Inertia · 26/12/2018 11:53

I think all four of you should stay home, and reschedule the visit if possible. You are probably all carrying the same virus by now.

redtulip19 · 26/12/2018 11:54

Ridiculous you should even be asking to even consider taking her! It's winds me up people who do not respect the 48 hour rule!! If she was sick this morning, then it's Friday before you expose her to others!! Even family even at Xmas! It's shit but it completely ruins it for others! 110% please do not take her

TheBaltictriangle · 26/12/2018 11:57

You should all stay home as your family won't thank you for giving them norovirus. Arrange to see them another time but do Skype them today as a compromise so your Dd can still see her grandma.

MissyCooper · 26/12/2018 12:04

I feel like everyone know in real life completely ignores the 48 hour rule. I dont know anyone who keeps their kids indoors for 48 hours after vomiting. Especially if they are sure it’s not a bug.

I’d keep her home as she is clearly not feeling well. Touch wood, my girls are never sick. They seem very susceptible to coughs, colds etc but I can genuinely count on one hand the number of vomiting incidents we have had.

Eatmycheese · 26/12/2018 12:06

If you're anything like this family where all five of us go like dominoes with any bugs then you should ALL stay away!

DishingOutDone · 26/12/2018 12:10

Your poor DD, that's such a shame. I'd say stay at home too but I am definitely agog at the previous poster who said give her hot chocolate.

Eatmycheese · 26/12/2018 12:12

@DishingOutDone perhaps they've watched the Polar Express too many times.

Poppylizzyrose · 26/12/2018 12:23

I watched the polar express recently the hot choc reminded me of that too!

Its right to dither and ask but you know you can’t take her so don’t. Plus she may not have had enough fluids or food and could relapse. She needs proper rest! Today’s the day she can enjoy getting some attention and love, snuggles and films ect. Watch polar express 👍🏻 X

CountFosco · 26/12/2018 12:29

What's wrong with hot chocolate? I think if a child has a vomiting bug then when their hunger comes back they chould have whatever they want and high calorie food is a good idea because they probably won't eat a lot.

It sounds like she is still poorly, so don't take her. As for the rest of you it depends how susceptible you all are to tummy bugs. I have a friend whose family gets every sick bug going, my family don't. DD had a sick bug few weeks ago and was really poorly with it but no-one else in the family got it. Colds on the other hand result in hospital visits for DS so swings and roundabouts. So, if you are pretty sure your DS and the adults won't get it then go. If you are the kind of family where everyone catches a sick bug don't.

llangennith · 26/12/2018 12:51

Poor DD. If it were my DD I'd stay home and put my own little family before extended family.
If you must go then go on your own, don't take just one child.

Jux · 26/12/2018 12:54

Can dh help her to Skype once you're there. Then she can see granny and wave vaguely at everyone.

ButtMuncher · 26/12/2018 13:12

Many young children become temporarily lactose intolerant after sickness bugs, so no, a rich, chocolate milk won't be advisable

She'll have to stay home. It baffles me how many people would willingly take a child on an hours journey in a car to spread a bug. No wonder I shit myself with anxiety being exposed to germs (tongue in cheek, I have emetophobia and know it's more my problem than anyone else's!)

LakeIsle48 · 26/12/2018 13:19

OMG please don't tell me that people would bring someone with a vomiting bug to someone else's home. In what world, where?

CountFosco · 26/12/2018 21:01

Many young children become temporarily lactose intolerant after sickness bugs

I did not know that!

KnightlyMyMan · 26/12/2018 21:25

If it’s a bug I’d be very cautious of taking anyone visiting family.

Last year my bestie took her ‘well’ child to visit fam whilst DP stayed home with other child who had D&V- during the visit ‘well’ child became symptomatic, followed by bestie- two days later every except besties dad had the bug!

Amaried · 26/12/2018 21:55

I think it's only on Mumsnet that people are so anti this. My little ds was a bit green during the week and I mentioned it to everyone who was due to visit that day, all without exception came along as would I have done in similar circumstances. When lots of small kids in the extended family we tend to take our chances as a general rule rather than miss out on spending time together.

LakeIsle48 · 27/12/2018 00:25

It's not only a thing on mumsnet. It's a thing in the emtire country I live in.

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