To expect DH to buy a present from baby

[eyesbiggerthanstomach]

I feel ungrateful even mentioning this but it has upset me.

DS is 11 months old and I made it clear to DH that I would be getting him a card from DS and a little token gift. DH got me a lovely card from DS but no gift from him. I did mention it and he just made excuses. I wasn't expecting anything expensive...I bought him socks that said best daddy ever, that is the kind of gift I was thinking of.

This is a regular thing though, no present from DS on my birthday or Mother's Day.

All I want is a little something that says 'mummy'. A tacky key ring, mug, socks....anything! AIBU and spoilt and ungrateful to feel hurt?

YWBU if you hadn’t mentioned it to him, but because you had and you’d told him you were getting him something then YANBU

YABU. Just because you decide to buy a present for your DP and pretend its from your 11 month year old doesn't mean he has to. Strange idea.

Sorry yabu

I genuinely had no idea this was a thing until someone mentioned it on a FB group last year and everyone was listing all the things they had got for the baby's grandparents etc from the baby. It literally hadn't occurred to me that this was something I should be doing even though DS was then 2. I double checked with my husband and parents that I wasn't a negligent mother and they looked at me like I was insane and laughed at the thought that I should buy them a present 'from' DS. I just thought it was something kids started to do when they got older and could choose something themselves. I did ask DS this year what we could get for daddy and he said 'yellow' . It's just not something I nor DH did growing up. It's hard enough choosing a gift for all these people just from me!

Maybe next year he will be able to choose something with me for his dad and grandparents and will be then proud of giving it to them. But until then it seems a bit daft and superfluous.

Funnily enough though I got nothing for my first mother's day from DH and I was very upset. I didn't want anything from DS (who was a mere 3 months old) but I wanted acknowledgement from DH of the bloody awful time I had had in labour, establishing breastfeeding, and the months of no sleep. DH thought that, given I wasn't his mum, buying me a gift wasn't his job. The following year the same thing happened. Thankfully the year after he got the hint.

So yes in 3 years I have never had a gift from my son. And I don't care, he shows his love for me in lots of ways every day. When the time comes and he chooses something himself it will mean that much more.