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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To expect NOT to be called a troll if I post a thread hoping for advise?

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StarryStarryNight · 26/06/2007 20:08

It has happened a few times now, and I have only been here a month! I post a thread about something I am concerned about, and then somebody comes in and insinuate I am a troll. It is not nice. Why do people do that? Why do they assume troll? And it is not as if it is something controversial at all!

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Rachmumoftwo · 26/06/2007 21:14

I was wondering that too. I do visit another forum, which is very friendly and nice, but not as busy as this one, so I come here too, rather than feel I'm all alone when the DDs are in bed. I have a DH but he is in bed too, as he goes to work in the early hours. It's nice to feel like I have some company some evenings.

Rachmumoftwo · 26/06/2007 21:16

Is it the place that is mumsnet with the words moved round the other way? Never been there myself, but keep meaning to have a nose.

JeremyVile · 26/06/2007 21:23

SSR. try not to take it personally, everyone feels like this at some point, just keep posting.

(Really?
You cant mention mn on netbums?
Hahahaha.(

missyhols · 26/06/2007 21:26

I prefer mn as its busy to. Plus i can't get the other site up on my phone! Lol. I try taking peoples comments with a pinch of salt if its not what i want to hear. I'm getting better.

nightowl · 26/06/2007 21:34

i have to say, it seemed a lot calmer on here before we had AIBU. its the first thing that springs out at you where as before it would be a thread in "other subjects" normally entitled something like "am i being unreasonable number 56485785748" (by the time ive scrolled down that far im usually bored).

AIBU threads usually end up in a row, so i suppose it would make one nervous seeing them first.

that's my theory anyway, however, i talk a lot of rubbish

j20baby · 26/06/2007 21:39

nightowl, i agree with you

starry, when i first came on here, i got ignored quite a lot, actually, i still do, i even post controversial stuff sometimes and still get ignored! don't let it get to you

j20baby · 26/06/2007 21:47

heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!

you're all ignoring me now

sep1712 · 26/06/2007 21:53

just to kill the tread a little because they always die when i join to. J20 how has she been today???

sep1712 · 26/06/2007 22:01

cheers guys i feel so good about myself now!
At least you had some answers starrystarry, sorry for killing your thread!

j20baby · 26/06/2007 22:07

sorry sep, my stoopid phone rung so i had to talk to them but they said i was ignorant because i was still trying to type, hmph, shouldn't ring me should they!

not good tbh, she's been off school for 2 days with the flooding, and ended up going to bed at 6.20 after being abusive towards me, how are you and dc?

sep1712 · 26/06/2007 22:12

good tanks, dd 5mths cried from 4-7.30 for her milk. ds 3yrs chatting my head off with rubbish the ds7 was wanting help with hw. trying to cook tea do washing and tidy up b4 hubby got home. But way hey thats a good day. When can she go back to school? Try the cinema, at least you don't have to talk then!!

j20baby · 26/06/2007 22:16

tommorrow

you sound like you've had a hectic day, know what you mean about them talking rubbish, my friend said today that she thinks my dd is quite a strange child when i said she annoys me by chattering all the time and she said 'who to?' and i said ' nobody inparticular, just herself a lot of the time' she thinks i should have her checked for things like ADHD

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StarryStarryNight · 26/06/2007 22:41

Missyhols and Alycat, yes I a from "the other side", had been there for ages, but came here about a month ago.

And yes, my house is tidier, and my kids better behaved now that I am spending less time on forums. lol so there is an upside to not feeling welcome and part anymore!

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j20baby · 26/06/2007 22:44

aw starry

if your house is tidy, then you are definately not spending enough time on mn

honestly, just take peoples opinions with a pinch of salt, there are a lot of nice people on here too, i sometimes have to take a break because i get upset by what some people say

sep1712 · 26/06/2007 22:45

Remind me how old she is? I think some kids talk more than others! My friend has a thought that children that talk too much rubbish are just trying to grab your attention because they don't get enough! are the right kind. I think she might be right as he does get pushed out alot with life being so busy. i was working full time before the baby and he was at different places everyday. We have also been try to do our old house for the last year so he has not had much attention. I'm not implying that you do the same. Beware of putting labels on her and try to work through it. Just think, its not that long till they can leave home!

j20baby · 26/06/2007 22:48

she's 7, and she definately doesn't get enough attention as i have just moved house and also quite tired, i think she's just unique

talking of tired, i'm off to bed, hope you have a calmer day tommorrow

sep1712 · 26/06/2007 22:50

chers have a good sleep nighty night

alycat · 27/06/2007 23:40

I've just watched another innocent being accused of being a Troll, what is wrong with this place???

I may have to get over my adversion to 'the other places' advertising policy and revert before I get the pinoty finger too. It seems if your scenario doesn't fit in with the clique...

Tortington · 27/06/2007 23:41

trolls are good imo - not that you are one - you plainly arnt - but i think there is too much anti trolling

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StarryStarryNight · 27/06/2007 23:50

Well, I aint going back, it is not just the advertising policy that was getting to me...

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RosaLuxembourg · 27/06/2007 23:53

Personally I would like to see 'trip trap anyone' added to the list of banned phrases -can we set up a virtual swearbox for it? It is easy to type and hurtful to read, particularly as it is often posted on a thread that may have taken courage to start.

alycat · 27/06/2007 23:53

Me either If I'm honest, but that was the nearest opportunity I've ever had to flounce...

PenelopePitstops · 28/06/2007 00:39

dont worry, trolls are always around. you are not one
its ok
you will live
its ok
i promise yay

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StarryStarryNight · 28/06/2007 09:58

Thanks for making me laugh PenelopePitstop!

Alycat, I am guilty of going back now and then to check my messages. But the sad fact of life is that we are soon forgotten, people move on! Highly popular/infamous one moment, forgotten the next, that is life!

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mytwopenceworth · 28/06/2007 13:03

Oh don't let it bother you, most folks get called a troll at some point. hmmm, now I think about it, I haven't been called a troll yet. Now I'm worried nobody notices me!!

But I also like trolls, well, some of them - the generally abusive ones and the mad ones and the post stupid crap ones. but not the attack a specific poster ones. Oh, unless that specific poster is themselves a troll, and then that's even better.

pssst.... you also get called a troll if you hit a nerve or they are losing the argument!!

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