AIBU to think this is rude?

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Hi, we moved into a new area and DH went round with chocolates to the neighbours. Two out of the six refused at the door saying we don't eat chocolates. AIBU to think that's a bit rude? Surely even if you don't eat it, you'd just take it and pass it on to someone else or bin it?

Just be polite. What’s that even mean?engagae in Chittychat with adult I don’t know
Why?
As well meaning as he’s trying to be it’s intrusive and a bit weird overfamiliar
But Gosh,one must be polite.heavens to Betsy.shall I talk schools & house prices..make polite small talk

How do you think scammers get info or gain entry.do they have a post it note on head saying bad un?
Or do they appear plausible and in context eg howdy neighbour it’s xmas,have some chocolate
Either way as I said. No, I’d not appreciate it.id decline the gift

Man knocks on door
You answer door
Man say " Hi I'm so and so from number 12. We have just moved in and wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas" and hands you a box of chocolates
You say " thank you very much, Merry Christmas take chocolates and close door
You either choose to eat or throw away chocolates

THAT is polite

Oh God. I've just moved house and haven't given any of my new neighbours anything. Is it too late?! What a lovely idea.... (Moved to the country village so hopefully would come across as lovely person not weird psycho scamming type). But might be too risky: if none of them accepted I might be so hurt I'd have to put the house back on the market immediately.

How sad to live in lipstick’s world

im exercising savvy,common sense
I live in a city,not a wee hamlet.i don’t know my neighbours,and there are scams a plenty
I have lived in my bit for years,don’t know the neighbours.no one knocks doors

I live in a City too.
I know all my neighbours to smile / wave at / shout hello to / take in a parcel for / pass the time of day with - and have done everywhere I've lived in the last 50+ years.
Our new neighbours (arrived about 6 weeks ago) knocked our door a couple of weeks ago to invite us IN TO THEIR HOUSE for mulled wine

What kind of upbringing needs to include the teaching of not taking food from strangers, how odd. Where is it that people randomly go round giving food to people they don't know that would make it something children would need to be taught about.

Some new neighbours moved in near me a week or so ago, the slackers haven't been round to offer me anything

Dry your tears,no need for a JustGiving page for poor Lipstick,she’s sad as fuck,she opens her door to nae chocolate bearing cunt
Let’s all weep at my lack of bonhomie, the fact I don’t skip to the door giddily hoping it’s a stranger with choc
How sad.im a husky of a woman

We went round quite excitedly with my 4 year old on Christmas eve, and he was really disappointed that they didn't take the chocolates. I was a bit miffed too and thought it came across a bit rude and cold. DH likes to give everyone 100 excuses before judging, so he disagreed, and said maybe they are diabetic.

It's a middle class well to do area, in a city that has plenty of Asians. We are visibly Muslim so I don't know if it was that, or that culturally I had missed something?

As I’ve said it’s well intentioned but I’d not be happy with anyone at my door
My intention isn’t to be rude or cold or upset an adult & 4yo,I simply would be reticent a bit sus about an unexpected doorstepping. Irrespective of the ethnicity of the gift bearer
It is a bit of a gamble taking the wee one,they’ll understandably be excited and expecting happy recipients
I’d suggest if you want to reach out to neighbours send a card introducing yourselves
I’d be more amenable to that
But pragmatically I’m out house 11+ hour a day,I don’t know my neighbours
Hope you settle into your new house and your kids make friends

@LipstickHandbagCoffee thanks, always great to hear a different perspective!

Who the fuck turns down chocolates from a friendly new neighbour?

^I agree. Bunch of miserable arseholes.

That, I presume, is what prompted the apology days later - the realisation that they were trying to bother her with a present and a card.

And you’re still holding a grudge against her and calling her a hateful bitch? Buy a fucking mirror and look in it!

They were really rude. Even if they did not eat chocolate it’s basic manners to say thank you and pretend you liked the present.

We were once invited to the house of a family DH knew but I had never met. The DCs and I made and decorated cupcakes. When we gave them to the hostess she made the most disgusted face and said “We don’t eat sugar. I suppose, at least they are home made.” and then she took them away presumably to throw them away. The poor DCs were so disappointed because they had managed not to eat any when making them on the expectation that they would be shared later!

I think anyone on here commenting that they wouldn't like to open their front door and accept chocolates from a friendly new neighbour is a sadfuck. They are what is wrong with the world.

OP, it's such a lovely gesture and I'm sorry those neighbour's declined your gift. You are what's right with the world!

Yum, I'd take the chocolates any day. I'm a bit surprised they were refused to be honest, but hey, more chocolates for you to eat . Silver linings. Also you now know the neighbors to give a wide berth.

I'm nosey as so would already have pegged you as the new neighbours and would have been really pleased to have the chance to get introduced. I know we don't all think the same but I would have found it thoughtful xx

We moved into our house 4 years ago. One neighbour brought us a giant pan of chocolate brownies, another some daffs in a pot and another a bottle of prosecco. Obviously we refused all of this and have never spoken to our neighbours since .

What a shame, OP. I’d have been delighted at such a lovely gesture even if I didn’t eat chocolate (I do).

Tbh I'd be really busy on Xmas Eve and wouldn't welcome the intrusion of people coming to introduce themselves then.

I don't think I would refuse the chocolates though.

@LipstickHandbagCoffee

I’d genuinely be bemused at a stranger rocking up with chocs announcing they’re my new neighbour
Honestly id think it’s a scam

...like, for what, though? Really? Maybe chocolates laced with sleeping pills, given by a cunning thief waiting for you to slumber off to sleep so he can tip-toe in and steal the family jewels?

I think it's really rude. I did similar a couple of days ago (we're relatively new in the area) and of the four neighbours I dropped chocolate into, three came back within 24 hours with their own gifts.

Tinker,I’ve extensively replied.i refer you to my previous answer.i have no fear of surreptitious poisoning

Essentially,I genuinely don’t expect random strangers to present at my door,with or without chocolate
I don’t feel rude in politely dealing chocolate or a howdy neighbour conversation

Unfortunately, one does need to be aware of scams & nefarious activities executed via the doorstep

Ps tinker feel free to give lots of cash to my JustGiving page,bolster me financially
It’s listed under the sad fuck category, with subsection what is wrong with the world
Dig deep now

OP, just think yourself lucky you don’t live on my street!

We’d take your chocolates, and reciprocate, then we’d start taking in your parcels, and delivering to you, we’d even take in your children if they lost their keys. We’d feed your pets if you went on holiday. We’d keep an eye on your house if you were away.

Then, horror, we’d co-opt you onto the street party committee... And make sure you met lots of people all along the street.

Fortunately, we seem to be a CF-free zone and our annual street parties have created a real sense of community, nosy neighbors in the best sense of the term, we all look out for each other (with a couple of grumpy exceptions). We’d love to have you here.

Some people are terrified of cold coming leading to house burglary.Perhaps they didn't recognize your husband and caught off guard though they were being pranked. It was a very kind but unusual thing to do so maybe the neighbors were caught off guard c