To let her open her presents?

[ThePeachPit]

I know it’s Christmas morning and everyone’s probably busy.

But ex was supposed to come at 8 to see dd open her Christmas presents and have breakfast with her. I sent my new partner away after we did stockings and a few gifts upstairs and ex hasn’t even turned up. No calls/messages and he’s not responding to mine.
Am I unreasonable to just let her open her presents now and if he turns up, tough he’s too late!

Well done OP. Seems like you are trying to do whats best for your daughter. She won't remember the bit where you sat in your room for an hour. She will remember seeing her presents.
I think letting him come over was very kind of you. Hopefully it will be paid forward.

You're doing your best, and it sounds like that is pretty good. Your daughter won't have been harmed by waiting, and long term she has you and a supportive sounding 'step-father'. Even if her dad's a dick.

Have a lovely Christmas 😁

I also think you have done the best for your daughter and agree with a pp that she won't remember waiting to open her presents, just that she opened them with her Dad. Re your ex taking you to court for contact arrangements, it sounds like you are playing the long game in order to do the best for your DD, well done Op. Merry Christmas to you and your DD.

Thanks! We’re at my parents now and I’m just going to tell forget and him for the rest of the day!
Dd at had a lovely time when he got here and when he’s with her he’s at least good.
He looked very hungover and he did at least apologise again before he went and seemed genuine with it.

We do have a court order in place Iwanted but Christmas, birthdays etc we stated we’d sort out between the two of us. It was more me wanting it so it stated dd lives with me and has contact with him. My solicitor said he could very easily go back to change the Christmas and birthdays etc, and ask for more time.

Oh and he pays maintenance who ever asked that. The presents were extra he asked how much I’d spent and gave me half.

Flip! You’re good OP! I wouldn’t even have agreed to wait until 8am!! I would have said “DD wakes at 6:30 and i’m Not making her wait an hour and a half to see her presents. You can be here if you want at 6:30.”

You sound very reasonable OP.

Have a lovely Christmas. X

Oh I didn’t mind waiting till 8 @ILoveMaxiBondi it meant we had sometime the three of us. I wouldn’t have minded him saying he’d come 9:30 or anytime. I’d have made plans round that and not had dds presents waiting downstairs.

He must be feeling guilty though. He’s come to take her out today, even though it means missing some of the football 😱. I even thinnk Arsenal are playing, though I’m not sure what time.

What a lovely bf you have. Hope the new year brings a new start with what sounds like an amazing man.

He’s pretty great @BlitheringIdiots. Very different from my ex, but then I’ve changed and grown up a lot since I first met my ex.
We’ve been for a lovely walk and as much as we both love being with dd, it was nice to have some us time while she’s with her daddy. Ex is bringing her back at 4 and he’s sent some videos of her on her bike and she looks like she’s having a great time.

Bfs currently prepping dinner for tonight so I’m having a chill on the sofa and stuffing my face with chocolate.

Arsenal are playing at 5.30.

Yes I looked @DontCallMeCharlotte. Ha! That’s why he’ll be bringing her home at 4. But originally I asked if he wanted her Boxing Day and he said he might come see her for a hour, but he was going to the pub at lunch time with his mates to watch the football 🙄.

He even came in and said “hi” to my boyfriend when he dropped dd off!
It’s a Christmas miracle