To not want to move to Birmingham?

[sorrymissjacksonn]

OH is from Birmingham all his family and friends are there.
We live about 30 mins out of Birmingham in a small town my mums here on her own so I don't really want to leave her.

I love our home our area has less crime rates compared to an area we would be able to afford in Birmingham.

I'm worried about my kids growing up there. He says I'm not thinking about him because he has to do a short 30 minute commute everyday.

His mum and family are full on if we move in near them they will be round everyday.

And I hate the accent even though I have unfortunately started picking it up

YABU- esp if you're living somewhere like Redditch or Bromsgrove the only way is up as PP said!
I live in a nice area of South Birmingham. I have everything I need, excellent schools, good quality of life, excellent transport links with the convenience of being able to get into Birmingham or Solihull easily. Birmingham is a big city and like any city has it's good and bad areas. If you're in a town outside Birmingham you probably have got a West Midlands accent anyway and I say this as someone who doesn't originally come from Birmingham. If your DH would be happier and your friends are based in Birmingham if you were to move, I don't see how you would be leaving your mum if you are only half an hour away. It's hardly as though you're moving to the other side of the country!

I lived in the centre of Brum and really didn't like it - now live a 30 min commute away in leafy Warwickshire and love it. And defo difference between birmingham and black country and other areas around Bham too in terms of accent. 30 mins is a good commute for most so not sure what he is moaning about - sounds like he wants to be closer to family so maybe a compromise is required

I can't see why hating an accent is snobbish. I hate the local accent in our area. It grates on my ears and includes many of my verbal pet hates. It's nothing to do with snobbishness, I don't think I'm better than anyone who has it, I just don't like the way it sounds.

I hated the Black Country accent (and the Black Country too tbh!) when I moved here but I adore it now because I love the place so much and it’s my home.

Don't blame you OP. It's an awful place and the accent is grating

If you’re moving from Redditch the only way is up.

^ This! My DB lives up that way (not Redditch) and he thought this was hilarious.

If his commute's only 30 mins at the moment, so you can't be that far out already. I live about 3-4 miles from the city centre, and take the train in to work. It's 12 mins. If I drove it would be 30 mins at least - and the traffic is awful!

As with all cities, there are good and bad bits of Brum, but after hating it when I first moved here (over ten years ago), I love it. People are generally friendly, and the accent is ok. It's also the youngest city in Europe, going on the average age of residents, so is lively and has a lot going on.

I thought Bromdgrove had some posh bits!

*Bromsgrove

I actually love living Birmingham, wouldn't move. And I love my accent but a lot of my friends and family don't like theirs!
Each to there own isn't it. Wouldn't say Birmingham was an 'awful place' at all though, got some awful areas but where the hell hasn't?

I grew up in Bromsgrove. It’s just a typical, crap, small town - except now they’ve built loads of houses and therefore, there’s loads more traffic.

I’d live in Brum over Bromsgrove any day. And Redditch?!? Awful place

DBro says forget Bromsgrove, Redditch and places like Northfield and Longbridge.

I think rural Bromsgove has some nice bits maybe.

To answer the dialect questions, there is a lot of slang individual to the Black Country dialect. Phrases like "yo am" (you are) and "wim" etc.

Edgbaston, Harborne, Bournville are extremely nice.

30 minute commute is nothing. So if he wants to move just on that basis then HIBVU.

towns like... Worcester

Worcester is a city. HTH

Don't blame you OP. It's an awful place and the accent is grating

You must be as thick as cement pudding.

30 minute commute is as good as in Birmingham anyway! And I say this as a Brummie and proud of it.

Also, tell OH to get car insurance quotes for where he wants to move to in Brum proper. That might make him think again...

I don't particularly like any of the small towns around Birmingham.

I prefer living a few miles from the city centre and it's where I bought my family up. There were lots of playgroups etc when they were small - and also plenty for them to do when they got older. Because there are a lot of buses they could go and see friends independently, rather then being driven everywhere. The city is being hit by austerity but there is still plenty to do. There may be more crimes committed, but there are also more people living here. I've got friendly neighbours and there is a sense of community where I am. I rarely go to the supermarket without bumping into somebody I know...

Birmingham isn't so bad! I was born here and live here now (I moved away for uni and then lived in a town in the south west for a couple of years). The part of Birmingham makes all the difference I think. I like South Birmingham personally. We don't all have the accent either! My in laws aren't from here and were all surprised when they met me and I didn't sound brummy.
Crime rate - yes ok have your wits about you and maybe don't move to the absolute roughest areas but you'd need to have your wits about you in any city in the UK.
Kids - you might find there is more for them to do and easier to access? Just need to figure out how to find it :)

Like everywhere, Brum has nice and not so nice bits. It is a huge place with lots of people a really rich multicultural population. To write it off as one homogenous mass, says more about you than it does about Birmingham and its people.